Npd Positivity - Blog Posts

I fucking HATE the term "narcissistic abuse."

If that exists, so does autism abuse. So does ADHD abuse. So does OCD abuse.

"That doesn't make sense!"

NEITHER DOES "NARCISSISTIC ABUSE."

That shit is just straight up ableism.

my Shayla 🫂💖💓💝💗

friendship so good we both can talk about such a problems or even be so comfortable to show each other

NPD adjacent flag! This flag is left vague so one can use it whether they are sure they have NPD, or just display traits, or are questioning. This was made with people who have trouble pinpointing their neurodivergencies in mind and is NOT to be used by transid/transx supporters.

[ID: Three images.

The first image is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are red black, dark red, brick red, terracotta orange, carrot orange, yellow orange, bright yellow, white, bright lavender blue, and lavender blue. In the center of the flag is the outline of the narcissus flower colored red black. End First ID.

The second image is a flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are maroon, red orange, bright orange, bright yellow, pink white, light blue, light purple, flower purple, and plum purple. In the center of the flag is the outline of a narcissus flower colored dark purple. End second ID.

The third image is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are bright purple, bright magenta, bright red, bright orange, pastel orange, bright yellow, off white, white, pastel green, and tea green. In the center of the flag is the outline of a narcissus flower colored dark indigo purple. End third ID.]

[ID: A divider that consists of a thin white line with three stars on each side. End ID.]

Flags by me, with sampled colors from NPD flags created by @/npdsafe and @/acidkeylime. Requested by @loveasappho. Tagging @npd-archive.

Narcissus outline symbol from the noun project. Link: https://thenounproject.com/icon/narcissus-1276973/

Flags without symbols below the cut:

[ID: A divider that consists of a thin white line with three stars on each side. End ID.]

[ID: Three images.

The first image is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are red black, dark red, brick red, terracotta orange, carrot orange, yellow orange, bright yellow, white, bright lavender blue, and lavender blue. End first ID.

The second image is a flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are maroon, red orange, bright orange, bright yellow, pink white, light blue, light purple, flower purple, and plum purple. End second ID.

The third image is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are bright purple, bright magenta, bright red, bright orange, pastel orange, bright yellow, off white, white, pastel green, and tea green. End third ID.]

NPD flag colorpicked from Mars!

[ID: A flag with seven equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are dark orange brown, dark plum red, chestnut red orange, sunny yellow orange, white, and misty blue grey. End ID.]

Flag by me, based on the flag by npd-safe. Tagging @npd-archive.

Turian Variant Flags!

[plain text: Turian Variant Flags! /end plain text]

In order: Apothane, Narcilix, Narcilix (alt), Neoboy, NPD, Acefog, Arofog.

Flags by me. Colors sampled from @noxwithoutstars' acefog and arofog flags.

IDs below cut:

In order:

[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are brick orange, off white, grape purple, dark grape purple, and dark magenta. End ID.]

[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are dark berry red, icy blue, sky blue, desaturated purple, and black. End ID.]

[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are bright pink red, pastel yellow, sky blue, dark blue, and dark purple. End ID.]

[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are lavender purple, white, icy blue, ocean blue, and navy blue. End ID.]

[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are brick red, pale yellow, lavender blue, dark lavender blue, and dark purple. End ID.]

[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are bright purple, white, bright green, leaf green, and dark green. End ID.]

[ID: A flag with five equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are olive green, pale yellow, bright orange, berry pink, and dark purple. End ID.]

Narc Varygirl (link) and Varyboy (link) flags, for Varygirls and Varyboys with NPD!

[ID: Two images. The first image is a flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are pastel blue, icy blue, ocean blue, grey purple, red maroon, red, bright red, pale orange, and pastel yellow. The second image is a flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are pastel yellow, pastel green, pastel blue, lavender blue, dark purple, dark maroon, maroon, red orange, and bright orange. End ID.]

Exclusive to those with NPD. Researched self diagnosis is valid!

Flag by me. Colors sampled from the Varygirl, Varyboy, and NPD awareness flags. Tagging @radiomogai, @npd-archive,and @revenant-coining.

Created an alternate flag for Narcilix (Link) because I wasn't happy with the old one! I wanted to make it more like the Anisolix flag. Feel free to use either one!

[ID: A flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are dull yellow, dull orange, red, deep red, black, blue grey, lavender grey, light blue grey, and blue white. End ID.]

Flag by me. Colors inspired by the Anisolix flag and NPD awareness flag. Tagging @npd-archive.

Narcithros - a term for when your Nethros (link) identity is influenced by or connected to your NPD!

Exclusive to those with NPD. Researched self diagnosis is valid.

[ID: Two images. The first image is a flag with seven horizontal stripes. In descending order, there is a thin pale yellow stripe, a thick pale orange stripe, a thick red stripe, a thin dark red stripe, a thick magenta stripe, a thick lavender purple stripe, and a thin pale light blue stripe. In the center of the flag, there is a white symbol with a thick black outline. The symbol consists of the outline of the narcissus flower with devil horns and a pointed tail that curves toward the right. The second image is a flag like the first, but it does not have a symbol. End ID.]

Flag by me. Colors sampled from the Nethros flag and npdsafe's NPD flag (link).

Transparent symbol below the cut:

[ID: The narcithros symbol. The symbol is white with a thick black outline. The symbol consists of the outline of the narcissus flower with devil horns and a pointed tail that curves toward the right. End ID.]

Aponarc - a term for when your Apothane (link) identity is somehow influenced by or connected to your NPD!

Exclusive to those with NPD. Researched self diagnosis is valid.

[ID: Two images. The first image is a flag with eight equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are lavender purple, dusty lavender purple, off white, pale yellow, pale orange, wine red, dark blue grey, and off black. In the center of the flag, there is a black symbol. The symbol consists of the outline of a narcissus flower with a spiral inside. The second image is a flag that is the same as the first one, but there is no symbol. End ID.]

Additional note: not to be confused with Apothenarc (link), a neurogender coined by @a-quilted-milky-way.

Flag made by me, using colors from the Apothane flag and NPDsafe's NPD flag (link). Symbol put together by me using two images from The Noun Project (link).

Tagging @radiomogai.

Flag with white symbol and transparent symbols below the cut:

[ID: a flag with eight equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are lavender purple, dusty lavender purple, off white, pale yellow, pale orange, wine red, dark blue grey, and off black. In the center of the flag, there is a white symbol. The symbol consists of the outline of a narcissus flower with a spiral inside. End ID.]

[ID: Two images. Both images are the aponarc symbol: the outline of the narcissus flower with a spiral inside. The first image is in black and the second image is in white. End ID.]

[ID: The aponarc symbol; the outline of a narcissus flower with a spiral inside. It is colored in six horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are pale lavender purple, off white, pale yellow, pale orange, wine red, and dark blue grey. End ID.]

I actually made the flag colored symbol by accident; I cropped the image using the magic wand tool intending to make a perfectly square image, and accidentally cropped out parts of the flag as well, creating the effect of alpha inheritance. Because of the symbol's position on the flag, it does not have all the colors, but if anyone is interested, I can make a more polished version of the flag colored symbol!

NPD with ASPD traits flag for myself because I didn't vibe with the one I found!

[ID: A flag with eight equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are lavender blue, stormy blue, dark blue, black, dark red, coral orange, pale orange, and pale yellow. End ID.]

ADHD, ASPD, Autism and NPD combo flags!

[ID: Two images. The first image is a flag with seven equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are black, desaturated red, yellow, white, sky blue, bright pink, and grape purple. The second image is a flag with twelve equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are black, desaturated red, salmon orange, yellow, white, sky blue, lavender purple, dark blue, smoky black, grape purple, light maroon pink, and bright pink. End ID.]

Tagging @mad-pride and @radiomogai

Alternarc - a flag for those whose NPD influences their alterhuman identity, or vice versa

Exclusive to those with NPD (researched self diagnosis is valid) and who are alterhuman! Coined with godkin in mind but any alterhuman with NPD may use!

I coined this because I suspect I may have NPD! I'm going to do more research and I won't use this label for myself yet, and even if I figure out I don't have it, I want all beings with personality disorders to feel safe and welcome on my blog <3

[ID: Two images. The first one is a flag with seven equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are black, bright red, pale yellow, white, blue mint, lavender purple, and dark purple. The second one is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are black, red brown, bright red, orange, pale yellow, white, blue mint, lavender purple, grape purple, and dark purple. End ID.]

"i love attention so much i might as well be an NPD symptom holder!! ..........wait a minute"

me when co-con alter has the NPD awakening

it bothers me so much when "mental health advocates" are only supportive of the "acceptable" symptoms and disorders...

people who "advocate" for depression but call others disgusting for having trouble showering, or people who "advocate" for trauma survivors but say you shouldnt express your trauma in art or talk about it because its "triggering"...

people who "advocate" for BPD but demonize NPD and ASPD as if they arent in the same cluster...

people "support mental health" until it isnt relatable. people "support mental health" until it cant be romanticized. people "support mental health" until symptoms disrupt life. people "support mental health" until symptoms are noticeable and not easily hidden.

you are not an advocate if you do not advocate for us all. you cannot be a mental health advocate while also talking badly about people with personality disorders, including ASPD and NPD. you cannot be a mental health advocate if you make fun of autistic people who are visibly autistic. you cannot be a mental health advocate if you call the police on someone with psychosis for talking to themselves in public.

if your entire "advocacy" revolves around demonizing more "severe" symptoms or disorders, and romanticizing the "good" and "relatable" symptoms or disorders, you are not an ally. you are feeding into stereotypes.

i have ASPD and NPD. the amount of hate i see in "advocate" spaces is honestly shocking. if your entire advocacy revolves around "helping depressed autistics escape evil narcissists!!!!", you are not an advocate, you are ableist.

people with stigmatized disorders or symptoms should not have to water down the way they experience life and describe their personal symptoms and experiences just to avoid being called bad people. by demonizing some disorders while romanticizing others under the guise of "advocacy", you are spreading misinformation and reinforcing stereotypes. you are worsening the stigma for people who already struggle. you are harming everyone with struggles, because a lot of society does not see a difference of "good" vs "bad" mental illness. to ableist neurotypicals, we are all bad.

you hurt the entire community by excluding your own.

you advocate for all of us, or you help none of us.

ARE YOU A FELLOW NARCISSIST LOW ON SUPPLY???

well look no further!

literally just dm me and i will spam you and compliment you and shower you in affection bc you deserve it

me omw to give my fellow narcs supply bc you guys are the best and deserve all of the attention ❤️❤️

i wish all narcissists reading this a very big kiss on the forehead

you are simply the very best ever!!

i love the way you persevere through life even though there may be challenges.

i love you narcissists soo much. you truly are so talented and wonderful. you light up every room you enter and amaze everyone in your life.

you deserve the entire world ❤️

me, pretty certain i don’t have NPD

my friend hyping me up and saying shit like “it’s because you’re the best!” in casual conversation

i love you narcissists! i hope you all have a wonderful day and continue to kick ass.

there’s nothing ‘wrong’ or ‘evil’ about you for just simply having a disorder.

keep going. love you guys <3

NPD Resources Masterlist

The official resources masterlist for NPD. Includes all the links I've shared in the past and stuff I haven't.

Any posts I've linked about supporting those with NPD have been put in the misc section because I do not want to take away from what this post is really about, which is helping people with NPD, not the people around them.

Diagnostic criteria

NPD diagnostic criteria, rewritten by someone who has it

Official diagnostic criteria

An explanation of the diagnostic criteria

Recovery resources FOR the narcissist

NPD recovery resources

How to find therapy for NPD, common types of therapy and signs of an abusive/toxic therapist

Narcissist supply

What is narc supply?

Things that can give a narcissist supply

NPD stigma

The perception of NPD symptoms vs. how a narcissist might actually experience them

Why those with NPD have a hard time seeking help (spoiler alert: it's not because they're unaware)

A plea from someone with NPD (and some resources debunking common misconceptions)

Narcissism is not abusive / abuse is abusive

Debunking common myths on NPD

Common disproven myths about NPD

Miscellaneous

How to support someone with NPD

NPD Carrd (What is NPD, dpt skills and self-help)

Unravelling the connection: npd as a trauma response

NPD terminology (do's and dont's)

NPD safe blogs

@empath-abuse-awareness

@enigma-in-reality

@loverofmirage

@narcissisticpdcultureis

@nicepersondisorder

@theegosystem

@mischiefmanifold

NPD positivity so you don't have to go looking

Reblog to kiss a narcissist on the forehead

Reblog to tell your local narcissist that they're the best ever

Happy NPD appreciation day

Positivity for systems with NPD

Be normal about narcissists unless it's to give them love

NPD should be EPD (Epic Personality Disorder)

Of course I have a praise kink, I have NPD

Narcissists are so beautiful and handsome and wonderful

Positivity for narcissists who like sex

I love my narcissists

Aromantic narcissists are amazing

Narcissists I love you

Easy ways to spot a narcissist (it's not what you think &lt;;3)

Narcissists deserve to be loved

As usual, if something needs to be deleted because it's wrong/comes from a toxic author/etc. please let me know. I tried to look on Google but all I found was ableist shit, so these are all found by your fellow narcissists on tumblr :)

Edit: If you have any resources, please send them to me through an ask or DM and i'll check it out/add it!

messages for those with NPD, BPD, ASPD, or HPD

you are loved, valued, and important.

the people in your life care about you, even if sometimes it doesn't feel that way.

i'm glad you're here today.

your needs matter. your feelings matter. your limits matter.

My fellow narcissists (people who have NPD) are one of the most loyal, resilient, and straightforward people I’ve met in my life. I know that our disorder is terribly misunderstood but here’s a reminder that we don’t have to align with unfair treatment pwPDs receive within the mental health advocacy community.

It’s okay to love your narcissism, it’s okay to appreciate the positive and beneficial attributes and qualities it gives us. A lot of us are incredibly protective of our friends, more than a non-NPD individual will ever be - because our disorder makes us so. A lot of us are helpful and incredibly caring individuals because of our NPD, and those closest to us can feel this blanket of care and protection settling over them. A lot of us are self-sacrificial (shocker.) because of our NPD, passionate because of it, or have other pleasant, beneficial, good qualities of character amplified because of our NPD.

I’ll make a rough guess and say that one of the most pleasant people you’ll ever meet are probably narcissists, because it benefits us to be liked, not all of us thrive off negative attention. So, hold your sanism. And to my fellow pwNPD, I love you.

reblog to tell your local narcissist that they’re the best ever

“i respect pwnpd as long as they dont hurt people” ok. anyways here’s to narcs who unintentionally harm or hurt others!!

Adding to this so we can make it relatable for more neurodivergents:

Lack of/little empathy doesn't imply lack of sympathy.

Delusions aren't just strong beliefs.

Psychosis is more dangerous for those who experience it than to the ones around them.

Compulsions aren't just habits.

Hallucinations aren't exclusively auditory or visual.

Maladaptive daydreaming is an important coping mechanism.

Slow learners aren't dumb.

Intrusive thoughts don't make anyone a bad person.

"Narcissitic abuse" and "borderline abuse" are unnecessary, stereotype-spreading terms.

Meltdowns aren't tantrums.

Burnout isn't procrastination.

Stims aren't pointless.

Shutdowns aren't just lack of attention.

Verbal shutdowns aren't a "silence treatment".

Hyperfixations aren't useless.

Special interests are more than obsessions.

Phobias aren't regular fears.

Panic attacks aren't controllable.

Self-harm isn't a trend.