Npd - Blog Posts

I just would like to add, not correct or change any of this:

People with personality disorders, anxiety, depression, PTSD, etc are SOMETIMES ALSO ABUSERS and their mental health definitely plays into their patterns of abuse. I've...unfortunately been on both ends of being abused by a mentally ill person. I'm not proud of how I behaved on one end and and my experiences at the other won't excuse that, ever.

That being said, language is highly important and it IS critical to avoid generalizing terms for oppressed groups like mentally ill and disordered people, so yes to all of the above. Just...remember people are complicated, yeah?

Can I please find a single resource for abusive relationships without there being "narcissistic" in the tile like come on.

Haiii for the NPD playlist thingy I think 'Brutus' by the Buttress is great ( heads up she might be a radfem tho so you can use local files instead ) also 'Super Soaked' and 'Black Hole' by Be Your Own Pet !!!!

( these are based off my npd experiences which are tainted by my bpd too so I get it if you think they dont fit )

Epic thank you <33

(I love Brutchress but I actually had no idea she may be radfem so thank you for telling me (・・;) <3)

I fucking HATE the term "narcissistic abuse."

If that exists, so does autism abuse. So does ADHD abuse. So does OCD abuse.

"That doesn't make sense!"

NEITHER DOES "NARCISSISTIC ABUSE."

That shit is just straight up ableism.

Eichi Tenshouin from Ensemble Stars has NPD!

needed this today so im reblogging it in case someone else does too

Sometimes your worst fears are true. Sometimes you’ve annoyed a loved one. Sometimes you’ve even upset them or frustrated them.

But you know what? It doesn’t mean they’re done with you. It doesn’t mean they’re going to leave you.

It is normal to be annoying sometimes. It’s normal to not be perfect and to have off days. It’s normal for relationships to not be in perfect harmony all the time.

My point here is, yes, while sometimes they are true, it isn’t the end of everything. It’s actually quite normal. And you’re going to be okay.

Hm... I definitely have some dependent traits. But some borderline traits, too, and a few NPD.

(I have a theory that AvPD, BPD and NPD are different expressions of the same core issue. They all circle around a very particular kind of shame, which is why we can all learn a lot from each other. I’ll have to do more research before I can figure out if DPD fits the same pattern though)

I believe I have both avpd and dpd, but it's kind of confusing for me. Do you think that's possible, and if so how do you think a person with both would behave (for comparison to myself)?

I think DPD is confusing for a lot of people, so don’t worry, you’re not alone in that. But AvPD and DPD is actually a really common co-morbidity, as you can see by the data at this link: here. (Beware of Out of the FOG in general, but it’s the only site that has statistical data on these things.) Plus, PDs are most co-morbid with other ones in the same cluster.

Someone with both AvPD and DPD would probably have a pronounced relationship with a “safe person”, I imagine. Who in this case would also be what I think the majority of the DPD community refers to as their “depended”. But while most people with DPD seek validation and dependence from many people, and rely on the opinions of others for whatever they do, I think people with AvPD as well would mainly focus on the one person, and be terrified of engaging with others, even if they wanted to.

But experiences will vary, as they always do. There are a myriad of experiences for any disorder, so matter what the clinical expectation is. Some people suffer from some symptoms more than others.

I hope that helps!

- Shinji

Straight up narcing it. And by "it," let's just say, my personality.

who's up narcing their personality disorder - [etsy shop , still a wip!]

npd culture is getting pissed that you aren’t getting compliments anymore like even a fucking you smell nice today would suffice

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inside of you there are two wolves: one has a superiority complex and the other hates them self. you have npd

npd culture is a teacher in your childhood praising you for being good in maths that you started making it your top priority so more teachers notice your skills

until the education system starts getting progressively worse that you can barely get a reasonable grade and feeling like you've lost your achievement forever

-🍷

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how I feel after alienating everyone in my life

a cut that always bleeds

I have not seen an uglier flag than this

i do °❀⋆.ೃ࿔*:･

NPD is NPDing

to the universe as a whole

"how are you feeling today?" gives me war flashbacks.

Fractured Fury

The world stands still, the air goes thin,

A silent void erupts within.

A crack inside, so sharp, so deep,

A wound that wakes but does not weep.

Then fire strikes—my veins ignite,

A raging storm, no end in sight.

My breath is smoke, my voice a blade,

A fury born, a war replayed.

I scream, I shake, the earth must hear,

A beast unleashed, too wild to steer.

The walls may break, the sky may fall,

Yet still, my rage outlives them all.

Then silence creeps, so cold, so vast,

A fragile peace that will not last.

The ashes glow, the embers hide,

But fire still burns beneath my pride.

- a little poem about how i feel about narcissistic injury and narcissistic rage :)

A midnight breeze whispers, sudden and cold,

tracing her thighs, with fingers sharp and bold.

*trying to get help with something*

"weak, worthless, useless bitch"

*splits on myself*

i need to see blood.

how I see that one girl who i can call my best friend...🫂

IC 405, Flaming Star

The first touch felt like a cure,

chaos faded, the world seemed obscure.

Sorrow hushed, anger dissolved,

in a pool of blood, a flower evolved.

Can someone recommend books which have a trauma informed/schema theory perspective/non-ableist non-sanist or even an anti-psychiatry take on personality disorders?

fuck would it be bad of me an undiagnosed highly suspected npd haver to coin an npd related term/gender,,,? Started suspecting a few months ago and have done a bunch of research but unlike ADHD (diagnosed) and ASD (highly suspected and peer reviewed by some diagnosed autists [hi tiny]) I don’t know anyone with NPD that I can ask if they think my experiences ‘fit’ under NPD and even though I’ve done research and looked at others’ experiences and related heavily I don’t feel like I’m /allowed/ to even just say I suspect it- I don’t know- I’m sorry- I might just delete this- I just don’t know… and because I’m not diagnosed and I’m not even sure at all I’m scared of doing something that I’m not supposed to…

SERIOUS TALK . CENSORSHIP

the amount of censorship and ignorance regarding anything that isn't remotely 'normal' or seems 'realistic' to the average eye is absolutely disgusting and genuinely ableist. see someone who's visibly disabled? oh, no, you can never go up to them! come on! avoid them! they're too different from you. you would never be able to understand them. they would never be able to understand you. have a friend who has a stigmatized mental health condition? oh! they must be faking! nobody *actually* has that! it's too rare! we should stop being friends with them! they must be a monster! have someone tell you that you have an invisible disability? that doesn't exist! if i cant see it, then you don't have it! i know your body better than you do! prove you have your disability, then! and the funny thing is, these types of things are completely censored- viewed as 'wrong' or 'not something to be talked about'. when really, it's just an excuse to not talk about, spread awareness, or allow those who are troubled by these conditions to speak up. TALK ABOUT YOUR ILLNESS. TALK ABOUT YOUR DISABILITY. TALK ABOUT YOUR 'ABNORMALCY'. show the world that **you aren't weird or crazy or monstrous for not fitting the norm.**

NPD adjacent flag! This flag is left vague so one can use it whether they are sure they have NPD, or just display traits, or are questioning. This was made with people who have trouble pinpointing their neurodivergencies in mind and is NOT to be used by transid/transx supporters.

[ID: Three images.

The first image is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are red black, dark red, brick red, terracotta orange, carrot orange, yellow orange, bright yellow, white, bright lavender blue, and lavender blue. In the center of the flag is the outline of the narcissus flower colored red black. End First ID.

The second image is a flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are maroon, red orange, bright orange, bright yellow, pink white, light blue, light purple, flower purple, and plum purple. In the center of the flag is the outline of a narcissus flower colored dark purple. End second ID.

The third image is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are bright purple, bright magenta, bright red, bright orange, pastel orange, bright yellow, off white, white, pastel green, and tea green. In the center of the flag is the outline of a narcissus flower colored dark indigo purple. End third ID.]

[ID: A divider that consists of a thin white line with three stars on each side. End ID.]

Flags by me, with sampled colors from NPD flags created by @/npdsafe and @/acidkeylime. Requested by @loveasappho. Tagging @npd-archive.

Narcissus outline symbol from the noun project. Link: https://thenounproject.com/icon/narcissus-1276973/

Flags without symbols below the cut:

[ID: A divider that consists of a thin white line with three stars on each side. End ID.]

[ID: Three images.

The first image is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are red black, dark red, brick red, terracotta orange, carrot orange, yellow orange, bright yellow, white, bright lavender blue, and lavender blue. End first ID.

The second image is a flag with nine equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are maroon, red orange, bright orange, bright yellow, pink white, light blue, light purple, flower purple, and plum purple. End second ID.

The third image is a flag with ten equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are bright purple, bright magenta, bright red, bright orange, pastel orange, bright yellow, off white, white, pastel green, and tea green. End third ID.]

NPD flag colorpicked from Mars!

[ID: A flag with seven equal horizontal stripes. In descending order, the stripes are dark orange brown, dark plum red, chestnut red orange, sunny yellow orange, white, and misty blue grey. End ID.]

Flag by me, based on the flag by npd-safe. Tagging @npd-archive.