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need an essay over why the 2004 hit nickelodeon tv show danny phantom attracts so many asexuals
I’m not trying to be inflammatory, I’m just curious. How do het ace/aro people face SYSTEMATIC oppression? Gay/bi/trans people face oppression like difficultly adopting children, finding housing, they may be fired from employment because of their gender or orientation. So they are bared from normal parts of live because of their gender/sexuality. Gay ace/aro people face this too, but what do het ace/aro people experience on a societal level?
If you’d been following my blog at all or even bothered to peruse it a little before dropping this message in my inbox, you’d probably already know the answer to your question.
You’d ALSO probably know that there are bi and pan aspecs too (e.g., I’m panromantic demisexual) which isn’t “gay” (does this term also include lesbians?) so I feel like your ask erases part of my own identity and that of others in the community.
For these reasons and more, I’d bet money that you’re not here because you’re “curious”. You’re probably here because you figure this is how you’re gonna stop a “self-imposing” aspec from speaking up for herself.
Well guess what: That’s just hateful & sad.
Regardless though of your intentions, I’m here to say that there is in fact SYSTEMATIC oppression against aspecs. For example, Dr Gordon Hodson wrote this about his 2012 study:
In a recent investigation (MacInnis & Hodson, in press) we uncovered strikingly strong bias against asexuals in both university and community samples. Relative to heterosexuals, and even relative to homosexuals and bisexuals, heterosexuals: (a) expressed more negative attitudes toward asexuals (i.e., prejudice); (b) desired less contact with asexuals; and © were less willing to rent an apartment to (or hire) an asexual applicant (i.e., discrimination). Moreover, of all the sexual minority groups studied, asexuals were the most dehumanized (i.e., represented as “less human”). Intriguingly, heterosexuals dehumanized asexuals in two ways. Given their lack of sexual interest, widely considered a universal interest, it might not surprise you to learn that asexuals were characterized as “machine-like” (i.e., mechanistically dehumanized). But, oddly enough, asexuals were also seen as “animal-like” (i.e., animalistically dehumanized). Yes, asexuals were seen as relatively cold and emotionless and unrestrained, impulsive, and less sophisticated.
When you repeatedly observe such findings it grabs your attention as a prejudice researcher. But let’s go back a minute and consider those discrimination effects. Really? You’d not rent an apartment to an asexual man, or hire an asexual woman? Even if you relied on stereotypes alone, presumably such people would make ideal tenants and employees. We pondered whether this bias actually represents bias against single people, a recently uncovered and very real bias in its own right (see Psychology Today column by Bella DePaulo). But our statistical analyses ruled out this this possibility. So what’s going on here?
If you’ve been following my column, you’ll recall that I wrote a recent article on what I called the “Bigotry Bigot-Tree” – what psychologists refer to as generalized prejudice. Specifically, those disliking one social group (e.g., women) also tend to dislike other social groups (e.g., homosexuals; Asians). In our recent paper (MacInnis & Hodson, in press), we found that those who disliked homosexuals also disliked bisexuals and asexuals. In other words, these prejudices are correlated. Heterosexuals who dislike one sexual minority, therefore, also dislike other sexual minorities, even though some of these groups are characterized by their sexual interest and activity and others by their lack of sexual interest and activity.
This anti-asexual bias, at its core, seems to boil down to what Herek (2010) refers to as the “differences as deficit” model of sexual orientation. By deviating from the typical, average, or normal sexual interests, sexual minorities are considered substandard and thus easy targets for disdain and prejudice. Contrary to conventional folk wisdom, prejudice against sexual minorities may not therefore have much to do with sexual activity at all. There is even evidence, for instance, that religious fundamentalists are prejudiced against homosexuals even when they are celibate (Fulton et al., 1999). Together, such findings point to a bias against “others”, especially different others, who are seen as substandard and deficient (and literally “less human”). “Group X” is targeted for its lack of sexual interest even more than homosexuals and bisexuals are targeted for their same-sex interests.
From news coverage of a recently published study (2016):
What should the average person take away from your study?
Since I first became interested in the issue, I have come to conclude that U.S. society is both “sex negative” and “sex positive.” In other words, there is stigma and marginalization that can come both from being “too sexual” and from being “not sexual enough.” In a theoretical paper, I argued that sexuality may be compulsory in contemporary U.S. society. In other words, our society assumes that (almost) everyone is, at their core, “sexual” and there exists a great deal of social pressure to experience sexual desire, engage in sexual activities, and adopt a sexual identity. At the same time, various types of “non-sexuality” (such as a lack of sexual desire or activity) are stigmatized.
For this particular study, I identified thirty individuals who identified as asexual and asked them first, if they had experienced stigma or marginalization as a result of their asexuality, and, second how they challenged this stigma or marginalization. I found that my interviewees had experienced the following forms of marginalization: pathologization (i.e. people calling them sick), social isolation, unwanted sex and relationship conflict, and the denial of epistemic authority (i.e. people not believing that they didn’t experience sexual attraction). I also found that my interviews resisted stigma and marginalization in five ways: describing asexuality as simply a different (but not inherently worse) form of sexuality; deemphasizing the importance of sexuality in human life; developing new types of nonsexual relationships; coming to see asexuality as a sexual orientation or identity; and engaging in community building and outreach.
I hope that average people would take away from this study the idea that some people can lead fulfilling lives without experiencing sexual attraction but can experience distress if others try to invalidate their identities.
Some of the social isolation we aspecs experience comes from religious communities. Indeed, the popular myth that religious people revere aspecs is very much NOT TRUE. For example, read “Myth 8″ from the VISION Catholic Religious Vocation Guide:
MYTH 8: Religious are asexual
Question: What do you call a person who is asexual?
Answer: Not a person. Asexual people do not exist. Sexuality is a gift from God and thus a fundamental part of our human identity. Those who repress their sexuality are not living as God created them to be: fully alive and well. As such, they’re most likely unhappy. All people are called by God to live chastely, meaning being respectful of the gift of their sexuality. Religious men and women vow celibate chastity, which means they live out their sexuality without engaging in sexual behavior. A vow of chastity does not mean one represses his manhood or her womanhood. Sexuality and the act of sex are two very different things. While people in religious life abstain from the act of sex, they do not become asexual beings, but rather need to be in touch with what it means to be a man or a woman. A vow of chastity also does not mean one will not have close, loving relationships with women and men. In fact, such relationships are a sign of living the vow in a healthy way. Living a religious vow of chastity is not always easy, but it can be a very beautiful expression of love for God and others. Religious women and men aren’t oddities; they mirror the rest of the church they serve: there are introverts and extroverts, tall and short, old and young, straight and gay, obese and skinny, crass and pious, humorous and serious, and everything in between. They attempt to live the same primary vocation as all other Christians do: proclaiming and living the gospel. However, religious do this as members of an order that serve the church and world in a particular way. Like marriage and the single life, religious life can be wonderful, fulfilling, exciting, and, yes, normal. Yet, it also can be countercultural and positively challenging. It’s that for us and many others. If you thought religious life was outdated, dysfunctional, or dead, we hope you can now look beyond the stereotypes and see the gift it is to the church and world.
NOTE: YOU CAN BE A GAY CATHOLIC PERSON BUT NOT ASEXUAL, BC ASEXUALITY DOESN’T EXIST (yet somehow we’re also “most likely unhappy” and “oddities”). I sincerely hope and believe that not all religions characterize us aspecs this way. But here are some personal accounts I found on a reddit site answering the question “Do any religions have a negative stance toward asexuals?”:
Please note that the Christian pastor in the last example was fearful (or something?) that an asexual was helping to lead a youth group and kicked them out of the church as a result.
I'M DOING AN EXPERIMENT
To prove something to a friend, please
REBLOG IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES
LIKE IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS DON’T BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES
for all my asexual connor hawke fans
*screams with all of you but in confused genderfluid panromantic*
*gay screaming* HAPPY PRIDE MONTH
*screams with you but in a trans way*
HAPPY PRIDE MONTH TO YOU TOO ANON
(rushes to get a pic out before the day is over).
All of the above please
REblog if you are Asexual, support Asexuals, or spend most of your time actually thinking about Superheroes.
I drew my ocs and their flags for pride month!
My flags are your standard rainbow and non-binary flag :o
Struggling to not instinctively like is lmao
I'M DOING AN EXPERIMENT
To prove something to a friend, please
REBLOG IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES
LIKE IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS DON’T BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES
I've never felt more understood
y'know, one thing i don't see get talked about much in regards to asexuality is how it feels to never be 'sexually motivated' by anything
and not just when it comes to advertisements using 'sexy' models to try and sell you stuff, but like. in general
sex as a favor, sex as a bribe, sex in exchange for whatever
casual sex, 'friends with benefits' situations, even simple flirting
it all looks a whole lot different from the perspective of someone who's immune to manipulation via sex appeal, who has virtually no understanding as to why sex would motivate someone to cheat on their partner, etc. etc.
sex is worthless to me
i mean, it's useful as a story element in fiction, but it genuinely perplexes me that sex is such a driving force behind so many aspects of irl society & of people's individual lives, for better or for worse
and that it's so deeply ingrained into how the average person views the world & various situations, because the average person feels sexual attraction, whereas i do not
i think the barrier between aces & allos is actually even deeper than it seems on the surface at times, because it's more than just the grating expectation that everyone must want to 'settle down' and have kids, it's also the fact that the majority of the world is sort of 'in' on a joke that aces will never truly be a part of
Petits oiseaux / Yôko Ogawa
Deux frères liés par une relation d'amour fraternel, de complicité, et de tendresse vivent ensemble leur passion commune pour les oiseaux.
L'ainé parle la langue pawpaw, langage unique, inspiré du chant des oiseaux, et seul son cadet le comprend. Il vit paisiblement dans l'oubli de soi, et l'observation silencieuse des petits oiseaux de la volière d'un jardin d'enfants.
Le cadet travaille à l'entretien d'une résidence pour les invité.es d'une grande entreprise, et prend soin de son frère, avec lequel il partage une vie routinière agréable et rassurante. Puis, il continue sa vie seul, une fois son frère décédé, dans le souvenir de sa mémoire et le soin des petits oiseaux qu'il aimait tant. Le monde extérieur ne le comprend pas, et menace parfois sa fragile tranquillité. Mais, toujours le "monsieur aux petits oiseaux" parvient à retrouver la joie dans les petits plaisirs simples, uniquement accessibles aux gens sensibles et discrets.
L'écriture de ce roman est douce, sans fioriture, ni effet littéraire tapageur. La traduction est si proche du japonais que la musicalité de cette langue transparait encore dans les dialogues, ou dans certains rejets de l’action à la fin de la phrase.
Une bulle de sérénité et de délicatesse nous enveloppe à sa lecture.
Merci à l'autrice, Yôko Ogawa, pour ce très bon moment. Merci à la traductrice Rose-Marie Makino-Fayolle.
Je ne considère plus les oiseaux de la même façon depuis cette lecture.
“il songeait aux oiseaux migrateurs qui volaient, guidés par des secrets que les hommes ne pouvaient comprendre. L’endroit qu’ils cherchaient à atteindre était inaccessible, même s’ils se préparaient avec le plus grand soin. Ils migraient vers cet endroit lointain sans aucune hésitation, sans se plaindre ni ménager leur vie.”
Tyler wishes you all a happy pride month
that’s the asexual flag btw he is asexual but he still loves you all the same!
Leo coming out-
Leo to the seven+nico, reyna, will, Calypso and Thalia: everyone, I want to tell you something.
Jason: what is it Leo?
Leo: for the last couple of weeks I was thinking and trying to figure something out an-
Piper: what was it?
Leo: my sexuality, it was on my mind for the last couple weeks and I finally figured it down and I wanted to tell you.
Calypso & Hazel: what is a sexuality?
Annabeth: ho right, you don't know. A sexuality is what you are attracted to or when or how or who to people.
Calypso & Hazel: thanks for the explanation.
Percy: so Leo, what is your sexuality?
Leo: everyone, I am aromantic asexual.
Calypso & Hazel: what does it mean?
Leo: aromantic means you experience little to no romantic attraction, and asexual means you experience little to no sexual attraction. Its a spectrum, in my case I don't feel any romantic or sexual attraction to people.
Hazel: oh, thanks for the explanation.
Reyna: but what about all the times that you flirted with people?
Leo: oh that time I just confused other kinds of attraction as romantic one.
Reyna: oh, alright.
Jason: and don't worry Leo, we except you just the way you are.
Leo: thank you Jason.
Actually if you liked Redwall as a kid you’re
a-spec now. Sorry I don’t make the rules
I'm asexual and spent my childhood reading the DC & Marvel character encyclopedias over and over
REblog if you are Asexual, support Asexuals, or spend most of your time actually thinking about Superheroes.
I can't believe I have to say this but
Asexual people are in the lgbtq community!! Stop acting like we're not
The entire point of this community is to have a safe space and accepting group of people for those who don't align with the majority of our current society and face discrimination for not being part of the norm
It's not about "if you're gay enough", it's about finding safety in a large group of people and fighting for our rights.
I'm currently reading Deadeye Dick by Kurt Vonnegut and wow I don't think it was intentional but some parts of it Really fucking resonate with me as an asexual
Thank you <3
It's been bugging my brain, and that's why I asked, as an AceSpec Person, it is much help!
my headcanon being Aceflux/AceSpec Kaneki and many of my characters being Aromantic or Asexual or on the A-Spectrum it's very helpful and scratches my brian well <3
How does Asexuality affect a ghouls' heat? Like if they are on the AceSpec does heat affect them at all?
Do they just not go through it at all, are the symptoms/affects not sexually but more romantically or sensually?
Do AceSpec Ghouls/Half-Ghouls exist/is it it possible for one to be on the AceSpec?
Sorry if you've already awnsered this!
Acespec ghouls!
Just like humans, there are a variety of ways ghouls experience attraction, and the lack of it is no different. There are just as many ace and aro ghouls as humans
Unfortunately, they have some more things to deal with than humans do. Namely heat cycles and pheromones. They get effected by these same as anyone else because, unlike attraction, these are purely biological. And it is miserable. Heats are bad enough for allo ghouls, but ace ghouls have a whole other layer of shittiness. Their bodies respond the same, and some ace ghouls who aren’t sex repulsed will even have partnerships agreed on with friends for it just to appease the instincts, but those who don’t want that generally deal with it alone
For the most part though, aroace ghouls are accepted without issue. There’s some confusion with other ghouls as is to be expected, many thinking that they’re simply So Good At Defending Territory That They Aren’t Even Letting A Mate In, but there isn’t the same culture of marriage and romance that makes it an issue as it does with humans
In ghoul culture, relationships are less strict and defined. It’s common for ghouls to be polyamorous or not in relationships at all, and there are a lot of undefined dynamics that don’t fit into the human definition of a partnership. There are aro and ace ghouls who have romantic or sexual relationships with one or multiple partners, as well as some who would prefer neither. Since allo ghouls have plenty of relationships like these, it’s not uncommon for ghouls to go their whole life without being fully aware they’re ace or aro because the types of relationships they want or don’t want are considered completely normal
Exactly this ☝️ you are never going to understand everything about everyone. Sometimes people don't even understand themselves! But being open to learning and respecting different experiences (including your own) is how you begin to understand!
“I don’t understand asexual people” “I don’t understand non binary people” you don’t have to. you can think a sexuality or gender makes no sense, and still support people who identify that way. you can still be there for them and be kind to them. I didn’t understand asexuality, so I talked to asexual people and read stories written from their point of view and actively tried to understand it. after learning, I think I might even be on the ace spectrum. the point is, you can respect people without understanding them.
Ninjago Ship Thoughts
First and foremost I’m gonna tell you my head-canons for the ninjas sexualities since it’s probably gonna affect my thoughts on the ships.
Cole - Gay - the entire “dad I’m a ninja” is so fucking queercoded so that’s my reasoning.
Kai - Bi - this man primarily flirts with women but he gives strong bisexual energy and I stand by that.
Zane - Pan - I don’t feel like Zane has a strong enough grasp on gender for it to affect who he dates.
Jay - Omni - I feel like he has a preference for women but I feel in my soul that he’s at least had a crush on a guy before.
Nya - Bi - I don’t know if she’s ever had a crush on a girl but a girl has definitely had a crush on her and she would not be opposed to dating a girl.
Pixal - Pan - I feel like she has a better grasp of gender than Zane but gender doesn’t affect who she likes.
All other characters are up in the air for me. I lean towards seeing lloyd as aroace but I’m not certain. Anyway I’m with my thoughts. (These are in no particular order)
(Jaya) Jay/Nya - let’s start with a canon ship! I like how this relationship is portrayed in later seasons and they have some cute moments earlier in the series, but I definitely like there relationship post Nadakhan the best (I’ve butchered the genies name I know it) Jaya is sweet and I’m happy that Nya was given strong characterizations outside of her relationship with men overall I’d say this is a solid 8/10.
(Pixane) - Zane/Pixal - I love this ship so much, she has half his fucking heart and there both so great. Zane and Pixar are both fully independent who love each other and there so cute. I think one appeal of this ship for me is that I can see the both as romantic or platonic partners because they both mean so much to the other. Anyway love this ship 9.6/10
(Kailor) - Kai/Skylor - I love Skylor she’s super cool but this pair really only interacts once and awhile to briefly flirt before they just go there separate ways. Obviously both of them are busy so it makes sense that they don’t get a lot of time together. Kai definitely had a crush on Skylor and I think Skylor reciprocated those feelings. There cut and interesting but don’t have as much development as they need for me to be compelled to be invested. Solid 6.5/10.
(Llorumi) - Lloyd/Harumi - these two have a fascinating dynamic that I think is really fun to watch but I cannot see them as romantic partners. I know some people see them as siblings and I really don’t see them that way. And again there really interesting as a duo and while I want the pair to heal and improve there relationship I don’t really want them to date. Overall 5/10 cool duo don’t see them as romantic.
(Lloykita) - Lloyd/Akita - It’s pretty cute, I love Akita so I do hope we see her again. There relationship feels like a summer relationship they have this brief sweet period of time together and they leave on good terms unsure if they’ll ever meet again or if the other will still have feelings if they do meet again. I also really like the idea of these to being together in a queer platonic way. It’s really cute and I love both of the characters individually so it’s a pretty solid ship in my opinion. 8/10 it’s sweet.
(Conia) - Cole/Vania - it feels like a lesbian and a gay man being best friends. I love these two I think there great friends and could even see them being platonic partners but like I don’t see them doing more than that. Solid 5/10 cool pair don’t see it as romantic.
(Lava) - Cole/Kai - There so cool and I think this ship is really fun. I think that these two are both really great characters who mesh well I can totally see them dating and think it’s a really cute ship. These two are bonding over there weird ass family lives and crippling self doubt! These two are a cute pair 9/10
(Bruise) - Jay/Cole - these two are so silly and honestly this is a cute ship. I think Cole was definetley involved in Jays realization that he wasn’t straight. I think this is a cute ship but not one I have super strong feelings on 7/10
(Mudshock) - Jay/Cole/Nya - the best solution for a love triangle is polyamory. That said I wasn’t a big fan of the love triangle but in Ninjago since Cole didn’t actually seem interested in Nya, and Nya only was interested in Cole cause a matchmaking system said so. These three are definitely great friends who joke about the love triangle and hang out but I don’t know that it’s my favorite ship. 6.7/10 Cute but not great.
(Polyninja) - Jay/Cole/Kai/Zane - I think this is probably one of the greatest things I have ever seen. All of these characters are so close and care for each other so much. Together they can help each other grow and thrive. It’s really an awesome ship solid 10/10
There are lots of other ships I will talk about but I’m supposed to be doing my summer class final so I’ve gotta go try to be responsible. Anyway have a good day/night I love seeing comments so say hi if you’d like to :D
So rewatching Ninjago got curious about Lloyd’s age and I’m not sure what to think.
Physically he’s the same age as nya who was 13-14 at the beginning of the show and who is as of season 16 she’s 16-17 (according to Tommy who is part of the creative team) this means about 3-4 years have passed since season one. Before the events of tomorrows tea Lloyd was ten years old meaning he’s now mentally 13-14 as of season 16. This means tommorows tea theoretically aged him up about 3-4 years. So In summary lloyd is a 13 year old in a sixteen year old body (possibly younger as I’ve seen some people say he’s 8-9 In season 1)
This is worth noting and for me makes it really odd to see romantic plots pursued with Lloyd’s character. Because it’s a strange predicament. I think the only way to fix this would be to have Lloyd's aging stall. So he stops physically aging and let's his mind catch up to his body. (I personally head anon Lloyd as aroace so this isn't a problem for me but something that crossed my mind)
Anyway I've put far to much thought into this children's show, and am now going to go off and be a productive member of society.
