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I don't know what I'm doing..

Fave thing about Aromanticism?

Mine is the fact that aro is punk af. What’s your fave thing about our phenomenal community?

The duality of "If you even imply that being aro or ace condemns someone to a sad and lonely life I will fucking fight you"

and

"being aro and ace is the most isolating thing I will ever experience"

“Ancient spirits roam the wilderness, their voices sound in the wind, as though they never left. We were merely lost souls ready to return to the Earth Giver, waiting, hoping. I could feel the cold ground beneath my paws, and I knew it was time.” Eunho, smilodon: died 14,983 BCE and resurrected during the Megafauna Awakening, 2073 CE

CLADISTICS ruined my life

Do any of y’all (my aro friends and followers) ever feel like you’ve resigned yourself to a life of being a “surplus wheel”?

I mean, my friends are incredible. They don’t try to push me to date since they know I’m aro. They don’t fawn all over their partners when we’re in the room together.

But they show enough affection and happiness that it makes me feel inadequate or like I shouldn’t be there, no matter how much they are clear about wanting me to spend time with them. When they talk about love and how much it means, I feel so disconnected.

I don’t want to be alloromantic. I don’t need that kind of love, but sometimes I feel like I should. I’ve been the third, fifth, and even seventh wheel before. It’s a happy enough place to be until everyone pairs off and you are left staring at your phone, sitting on the floor, alone.

I feel guilty about taking time with my friends because I don’t know why they wouldn’t rather be spending time with their partner. Or if that’s actually the case, and I’m just taking up precious time. I know people can have friends and partners too, but it just feels like I’m standing in the way of something more important.

I know this feeling will pass; I’m just in a bad headspace about it right now. I don’t have anyone to talk to about this IRL because all of my good friends are alloromantic. But as much as I know it will pass, I also know it will return. I’m mostly just venting, but if anyone out there has ideas about what will help, I’m all ears.

I love the ark fandom because so may people refer to the different creatures as "Dinosaurs" despite them clearly not being dinosaurs. I mean this with no ill will or sarcasm btw, it's a pretty funny thing we do. like

Sir I'd hate to inform you. That is a platypus.

Part of being aromantic, at least for me, is always being the third wheel. Feeling awkward and left out whenever my friends leave to go on a date or whatever and I have no one to hang out with. I'm not saying that I want to intrude on someone's date or whatever, they deserve to have time to themselves. I get that. I just wish I didn't feel so alone when everyone around me has someone special to them and I don't.

And it's not like I want to be in a partnered relationship, either. I actually feel pretty squicked about the concept of being the recipient of romantic feelings, and I feel completely neutral about having a qpr (aside from the knowledge that I don't feel any sort of attraction and don't particularly want to have to make personal decisions only with the help of someone else).

I guess it just makes me feel a little like I'm not anyone's most loved, if that makes any sense. No one loves me more than anyone else. I'm nobody's best friend, nobody's dearest individual. And partly that's freeing, because I don't have to figure anyone else into my future, but it's also sad, too, because I'm nobody's favorite and I'll always have to take a backseat to other people.

Ugh, idk. I shouldn't be complaining. I have great friends who I love dearly and who care about me. I just have to constantly be aware that I'm never going to be the first one someone thinks of when they think of home.

I misread a post observing that a tyrannosaurus is chronologically closer to an iPhone than it is to a stegosaurus as claiming that a tyrannosaurus is taxonomically closer to an iPhone than it is to a stegosaurus, and I swear my first thought was “okay, what have those cladistics weirdos done this time“.

Any other birds, apart from cassowaries, that look like dinos?

thick-billed ravens rank pretty high on the "jesus christ a dinosaur" scale imho