Do Any Of Y’all (my Aro Friends And Followers) Ever Feel Like You’ve Resigned Yourself To A Life

FOB lyrics that feel incredibly arospec to me

so boycott love

love never wanted me but I took it anyway

this is a love song in my own way, happily ever after below the waist

its a strange way of saying I know I’m supposed to love you

I got your love letters, corrected the grammar and sent them back

it’s true romance is dead, I shot it in the chest and in the head

I thought I loved you, it was just how you looked in the light

ok fuck it

every single person who reblogs this will get a picture of a possum in their inbox, loosely based on the vibes i get from your blog

(as long as you have asks or submissions on tho)

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MY FELLOW AROMANTIC SIMMERS I AM LOSING MY MIND

so the latest update to the sims 4 added sexuality customization. i was like “oh cool we can probably, like, make gay sims now instead of having everyone be bi. cool. good for the gays.”

I dared not HOPE that they would even think about aros but DUDE. THEY ADDED THE SPLIT ATTRACTION MODEL

YOU CAN NOW MAKE SIMS THAT ARE ARO, ACE, OR OTHERWISE HAVE SPLIT ATTRACTIONS VIA THE NEW SEXUALITY TAB IN THE CREATE A SIM (its under the same tab as the custom gender options)

[image ID: a small cropped screenshot of a notification from the sims 4, in which a sim says “I am not interested in romantic relationships.” end ID]

NO MORE DO WE HAVE TO SUFFER WITH THE (modded in from sims 3) UNFLIRTY TRAIT. THIS IS SO MUCH BETTER. IT STRAIGHT UP DELETES THE OPTION FOR ROMANTIC INTERACTIONS, BOTH PLAYER MADE AND AUTONOMOUS, FOR THE SIM AND FOR ANY SIMS INTERACTING WITH THEM WHO KNOW THEIR ROMANTIC ORIENTATION.

and!!!!!! then I thought!!!! no! it couldn’t possibly be! this is wonderful but they couldn’t possibly have moved the sexual interactions out of the romance tab, where they’ve always been in every sims game! if you only check the sexual attractions and leave romantic attractions unchecked it probably just like, doesn’t let you do them! they couldn’t possibly!

NOPE

[image ID: a cropped screenshot of the sims 4 showing some interaction options listed under the “friendly” category in the interaction tree. the highlighted interaction is “ask to be WooHoo partners.” end ID]

WOOHOO PARTNERS. FWB. A COMPLETELY NEW RELATIONSHIP TYPE THAT UNLOCKS WOOHOO INTERACTIONS WITHOUT REQUIRING A ROMANTIC RAPPORT LIKE YOU’VE ALWAYS NEEDED IN THE SIMS.

[image ID: a cropped screenshot of the sims 4 showing three different WooHoo options listed under the “friendly” category in the interaction tree. end ID]

LOOK AT IT. IT PUTS THE WOOHOO OPTIONS UNDER THE FRIENDLY TAB.

this is alloaro representation! this is legitimately alloaro representation, with gameplay dedicated to alloaro relationships!

fuck EA and the Sims for their cashgrabbing DLC nonsense and etc but whichever individuals on the dev team are responsible for these features, you have my respect

Open letter to aromantic and aro-spec allies: On overuse of the word “valid”, and why it needs to stop

Aka look at me so bitter I’m actually engaging in community discussion and tagging things instead of just venting on my blog because I’m shy

Whenever I see aromantic or arospec positivity- which, frankly, is not very often- it almost always seems to come in one specific form: Telling us that we’re “valid”. That it’s ok that we don’t (or rarely, in the case of some arospec identities) experience romantic attraction, because we’re still Valid™.

I hate it. And many other aros do, too.

I’m sure most of you mean well, and simply don’t know any better, which is why I’m going to try to explain this as politely and clearly as possible. Please take a moment and listen, because god knows aro voices are so rarely listened to.

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I don't know what I'm doing..

has aro tumblr ever talked about how being aro can put you more at risk of unhealthy/codependent friendships from either desperation and fear of abandonment or just feeling like you need to fill the void of romance

at the very LEAST i think there’s a point to be made about amatanormativity encouraging unhealthy codependent behaviours, in romantic relationships or otherwise

you’ve heard of long-term partners, now get ready for:

long-term friends that don’t get bored and abondon you as soon as they are in a romantic relationship

Welcome to the space age, ladies and gentlemen

what i’d really like is for someone to objectively watch me for a week or so and then just sit down with me for a few hours and explain to me what i am like and how i look to others and what my personality is in detail and how i need to improve where do i sign up for that