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Hey, I just recently learned about HSP because I always had the feeling that something is kind of wrong with me and my mother always thought I was highly intelligent. Not sure about this but I identify a lot with HSP I already bought a book about the topic and feel like the tips they give there would help me a lot. But I live with my family and it's kind of impossible to start a routine that would make me feel better because they don't listen to me or believe in HSP it's really frustrating:/
Hi and thankyou for reaching out to me! I know it can be frustrating when other’s do not understand or make the effort to at least learn about the HSP trait. I believe relationships can actually be strengthened when we take the time to learn more about ourselves and others. Unfortunately, this is often not the case and you are not alone. Also, I am learning that being an HSP is not a flaw and HSPs are often creative and gifted! Being a smaller portion of the population, however, HSPs can easily be misunderstood. There are a number of therapists that know about and specialize in working with highly sensitive people. They can determine if you are an HSP and are skilled in this area. There are also many resources available on the topic. I hope I can help point you in the right direction and that you are doing well!
With love,
Dahlia
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5 Reasons Highly Sensitive People Struggle With Loneliness
June 26, 2019
For the past month, I have debated on whether or not to post about loneliness as it can involve various factors or perspectives. I would also love to elaborate on this topic in my next article post as I am exploring ways to dissolve my own feelings of loneliness.
As humans, we are wired to connect with others and I believe it is an important need to be addressed. Without healthy connections, people usually try to meet these needs in a variety of unhealthy (self destructive) ways.
Although most people experience loneliness at some point in their lives, this feeling seems to come with the territory of being a highly sensitive person (HSP) on a chronic level.
Why Do We Feel Lonely?
The following list includes five common reasons HSPs may struggle with loneliness...
1. Self Isolation
Most highly sensitive people require plenty of alone time to process things (especially introverts). Although solitude is needed to recharge and protect our sensitivity, we can easily take our alone time too far without realizing it. Too much solitude can lead to self isolation. Experiencing overwhelming emotions may also lead to isolation.
2. Feeling Misunderstood/ Invalidated
Feeling misunderstood also seems to come with the territory of being an HSP. I believe one reason is that many of us want to be true to ourselves and express ourselves authentically in a society that encourages the opposite.
As HSPs, we tend to experience our emotions intensely and process things deeply. It can be difficult to express ourselves in ways non HSPs may understand and (often is misunderstood) as a result, many HSPs may feel invalidated. The HSP may have difficulty finding people that understand or validate their feelings or ideas.
3. Fear of Rejection/ Criticism
Along with feeling misunderstood, HSPs are prone to fearing rejection. Many of us struggle with social anxiety and may feel inadequate.
I believe that many people don't realize that HSPs tend to be highly self conscious and can be hard enough on themselves. The added pressure from other's criticism can simply be too much to process for an HSP. This can lead to withdrawal and loneliness.
4. Vibes
Hsps are often intuitive empaths that can pick up the energy from the environment or other's. We can also easily pick up on social cues, expressions, intentions or the underlying motives of other's.
HSPs may also feel super uncomfortable around "fake" people and want to avoid surface level friendships in general. HSPs tend to prefer deep and meaningful connections and conversations and may avoid certain people or situations if an uncomfortable vibe or feeling arises.
5. Rumination
Highly Sensitive people are known for having abundant inner worlds and a natural talent for creativity (which is amazing)! Unfortunately, this trait can also make HSPs more prone to rumination (overthinking/feeling about situations).
Rumination can also be linked to anxiety, depression, trauma, various forms of addictions (All can be isolating experiences).
The heightened state of anxiety associated with rumination may lead to a fight or flight reaction causing an HSP to either avoid social situations or negatively react. This can lead to more feelings of isolation, invalidation, and avoidance.
You Are Not Alone!
If anyone can relate to this article, please know that you are not alone in this world and your feelings are valid! There are others (including myself) that can relate and care!
I plan on writing more about this topic and my journey to dissolving my chronic loneliness.
If you can relate to this post or need to reach out, feel free to share in the comments! Thankyou very much for your support!
With Love,
Dahlia
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10 Ways for Highly Sensitive People To Create New Habits That Stick
May 6, 2019
In my last article, I mentioned the importance of consistency when it comes to practicing new behaviors to cope with emotional overwhelm. (The topic of the post).
In this post, I would like to build upon the topic by sharing some ways I have learned to integrate new behaviors or habits in such a way that improves my persistence. As I have learned over time, persistence is key!
Because I have always struggled with persistence and sticking to rigid routines and mundane tasks, I have had to strive for persistence in a number of ways. I have had to learn about the importance of implementing routines (particularly for HSPs) into a daily schedule.
Implementing daily habits and routines for HSPs can be a necessary component to achieving a sense of security and balance in an overwhelming world.
Building routines can be a great way for HSPs to seek comfort and a gain a sense of knowing what to expect in a world where unexpected things happen. It can also help HSPs maintain greater focus on personal goals/dreams when there are multiple distractions arising from multiple sources. I have learned that it can also help avoid procrastination, which can lead to regret and even more feelings overwhelm.
While routines can be an excellent tool to simplify one's life, I know many highly sensitive people can find change overwhelming. I know from experience that trying to change too many things at once can be overwhelming and be an obstacle to reaching goals. That is one reason I believe starting with small goals and gradually building up to larger goals is more beneficial.
It is important to know that creating new habits can take time and patience. The time it takes to build new habits can depend on the person, the habit, commitment to the habit, and other lifestyle factors. Many people believe it takes approximately one month to create a habit. Others believe it takes more or less time to reach their goals.
It has taken me various amounts of time and effort to create some of my current habits/routines, but I would like to share with you some helpful ways I have gradually created new routines/habits into my schedule. So far, it has helped improve the quality of my life and is helping me reach my goals at a more comfortable pace!
10 Ways to Build New Habits/Routines
1. Determine What You Truly Value and Intend to Create for Your Life
Knowing exactly what you want to achieve and prioritize can help give you a sense of where to start and simplify your goals. Writing down your intentions/goals can help you get more clear about your goals. It may include both long term and short term goals.
2. Start With Small Achievable Goals
This may include starting with one or two simple goals that are realistic and easy to achieve. These goals can be modified over time accordingly. The more the habits are practiced, the more likely it is to continue building upon the smaller goals. i.e. walking 10 minutes a day and gradually increasing the habit over time.
3. Combining a New Habit With Existing Habits
I find that tying new habits/routines to an existing routine is one of the best ways to not only get motivated, but can help with persistance. It is also a real time saver! For example, I started doing 10 jumping jacks after I brush my teeth each day. Over time I not only increased the amount of jumping jacks, but the amount I brush my teeth as well.
4. Using the Cue/Behavior/ Reward Technique
Everyone is different and may prefer different variations of this technique but the concept is the same. There are many sources online that further explain this concept. An example of this concept would be when I could barely get out of bed (let alone) take weekly classes, I chose to buy my favorite coffee drink (reward). The behavior or routine was getting out of bed and going to school. The cue was my alarm going off and the school day being on the schedule. Thankfully, I can attend class regularly without having to buy coffee every time but it did make a difference! Seeking out motivation and inspiration also helps facilitate the practice of a new habit. i.e. music, inspiring speeches etc...
5. Connections and Accountability
As I mentioned in my previous article, being accountable can help increase the chance of completing a task or goal. One way to be accountable is joining a community of people with similar objectives or goals. This can be helpful with motivation and create connections with others. i.e. Joining a fitness community online or in person.
6. Reminders
Having reminders such as visuals, auditory, written, or verbal reminders can be great ways to stay on track. i.e. leaving sticky notes around or using timers to complete tasks and stay on track.
7. Letting Go of Perfectionism
This includes not comparing yourself to others, letting go of "black and white" thinking, and expecting instant results. It's about knowing you may not do it all perfectly but you also don't give up on achieving your goals. I also find that having patience with yourself and the process and accepting that it is not going to be perfect can help with persistency.
8. Track your Progress and Celebrate the Milestones
Tracking your progress can help you see how far you've come to reach your goal. Rewarding yourself for your progress can help reinforce the new routine or habit you want to obtain. Some people use habit trackers or draw chains to keep track of progress. I also find that writing or talking about the progress can be another useful way to keep track of goals.
9.Environment
Similar to a growing plant, the right conditions to grow a new habit can impact the growth process of habit development. It's easier to focus on a goal or task in a comfortable environment. Also, being in a new environment provides new cues to start a new habit. It is about what works for you!
10. Replace a Negative Habit With a New Positive Habit
Much of our behavior is truly based on habits. This includes both positive and negative habits. I believe most people have at least one habit they know is not benefiting them and wish they could quit repeating it. Getting rid of negative habits can be difficult because the mind connects it with some kind of reward. The process of changing the behavior may also include setbacks, time, and may not occur in a linear fashion. There are also triggers or cues in the mind's connections that can trigger the behavior or habit. An example of replacing the negative habit is knowing your triggers or cues for the negative habit and replacing it with a new behavior. i.e. Drinking flavored sparkling water when having the urge to drink soda or alcohol. In this way, new connections can be made and the new habit can be developed over time.
Although most HSPs can be easily overwhelmed when faced with change , incorporating a degree of new healthy routines or replacing negative habits with positive ones can be beneficial. The tips in this article are ten of the ways I have worked toward developing new habits. Hopefully it will help someone achieve their goals and dreams! Feel free to let me know in the comments what works for you!
With Love,
Dahlia
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What I Love About Crystals!
March 9,2019
After experimenting with a variety of gems over the years, I have experienced a variety of benefits crystals and gemstones exude, such as a sense of peace and tranquility. Simply holding the glossy surface of certain crystals, such as sodalite(my favorite) have been calming for me.
Crystals have also been a great focal point during meditation or when I easily get distracted. I also love the variety of colors and textures displayed as decorations. To sum it up, I think crystals are fun and full of sensory beauty!
Crystals are natural elements made of energy that have been on the earth for ages. There are a variety of shapes, sizes, colors, patterns, textures, properties, and intended uses for crystals. Each crystal truly is unique and may have different energetic effects in a given environment.
Crystals may vary in purpose, meaning, or intended use. Crystals are used in meditation or for a variety of spiritual pursuits. Due to the radiant and aesthetic nature of crystals, many crystals are used in the realms of interior design and photography. A variety of crystals are even thought to bring tranquility, peace, and clarity of mind.
Because highly sensitive people are more prone to energetic and emotional overload, crystals can be an excellent tool for the highly sensitive or empathic person! If anything, crystals are a universal source of visual stimulation and a way to connect with nature! That's a another reason I love crystals!
I plan on posting more about crystal again soon. Feel free to let me know what you think in the comments and wishing you all a lovely day or night!
With love,
Dahlia
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