Heteronormativity - Blog Posts

Heteronormativity is heterosexuality raised to the second power: it is heterosexuality not as an erotic orientation or even a compulsory regime that brooks no alternatives, but heterosexuality as the template for all forms of meaningful social organization.

Orgasmology, Annamarie Jagose (via conventionalityisntmorality)

Wrote this in the comments about Meljay being a straight ship yet feeling as queer as Jayvik and it was I think I cooked with this fr

"Viktor is too busy turning shimmer into wine and walking on polluted water for heteronormativity."

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My mom argued with me for "letting" my bro play Dress to Impress on my Roblox account

She said it was a game for girls and he shouldn't be playing this kind of stuff and, honestly, this is so frustrating and sad

We were genuinely having a blast. Bro went full competitive mode, excitedly putting outfits and getting super happy with his 4th place (he ate)

It's such a harmless and fun game. Specially to play together. This whole heteronormative gender role thing is such a PAIN IN THE ASS

Let people enjoy harmless game they have fun playing .

So what if a young teen boy is playing a competitive dressing game with his sister? Even if he was alone, too. What's the wrong thing about this?? It's infuriating to see people being deprived from doing stuff they enjoy because "it's for boys" or "it's for girls". It's a game. Period.

This whole frail toxic masculinity is a deeply rooted behavior that must be changed. Let boys have fun! Being by playing shooting games or dress up games. Who should care? Only hobbyless people who have nothing else to do with their lives, obviously.

This whole "oh but that will influence men to be more feminine and gay" talk is so dumb. Even if it did influenced boys to "act more feminine", the only harm this cause is done by those closed minded people who shame people for expressing themselves in a way that makes them happy and confortable. The only issue this may potentially cause is solely and fully the fault of these people.

The harm a boy wearing a skirt isn't caused by the skirt, but by the person who shames, insults, belittle and forbid him to do so.

This is a way bigger rambling than I expected but anyways. I'm mad. We were just playing a fun game together. And now we can't. At least, while mommy and daddy are home.

Just let bro cook!!!!! (He made this all by himself)

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What I find immensely disappointing and hypocritical is the stubborn refusal by cishet people to understand queer identities and feelings. They claim their reason for non-belief is ignorance, but have they ever tried to come out of their 'ignorance is bliss' bubble?

Cishet people are quick to reject any literature or media which involves - or talks about the the lives and experiences of - queer people; they say that they're unable to relate, hence it would simply bore them or go over their heads.

How is it possible to understand people if you're not ready to see their point of view? How is it possible to understand people if you're not ready to listen to what they have to say? You say you don't want to read a book about a non-binary character, not fair, but we'll assume it is as to not offend your little cishet feelings. But when somebody tries to tell you that non-binary identities are valid and that sex≠gender or that a person's feelings matter more than what YOU perceive or assume their gender to be based on their genitilia/chromosomes/sex organs, you immediately reject even the possibility of their existence by claiming that you haven't heard about anybody like that/ you just don't get it/ it's hard to understand when you haven't gone through it.

Books and media don't just provide knowledge, they show you perspectives you've never imagined before, they talk about the lives of different people, they help you empathize, they help you understand different cultures, genders, sexualities, feelings- and claiming to "not getting it" is fucking bullshit when you refuse to even acknowledge these resources which would let you gain knowledge and understanding.

I recently saw a person comment how a certain sexuality wasn't valid and that it was "common sense", to which another person replied, telling them to read a certain book wherein a person talks about their experienced. The former mockingly said that they didn't have time to waste reading about matters which were bullshit in the first place and stuck by their argument - refusing to listen to a person who both, who was experiencing it themselves and had read a book about the same. What the actual fuck?

How does this even remotely make sense? You are rejecting a person's identity - a totally valid identity by the way - while not knowing a goddamn thing about it, assuming you didn't have to because it's just "common fucking sense"?

Common sense is not common anymore. And I don't mean it in the "you're stupid, shut up" way - I mean it in the "common sense in this context, is an illusion created by the cisheteronormative culture we live in to reject and shame any sexuality or gender which does not fall under 'heterosexual' or '(cis) male and female' categories. Moreover, it is a form of gatekeeping where asslicker queer people refuse to acknowledge any sexuality other than gay, lesbian or bisexual and any gender other the binary genders.'

So no, your ignorance isn't "common sense", it's erasure and prejudice and your refusal to learn and unlearn concepts means you're blatantly rejecting the truth about the world, you're ignoring the world for what it actually is - fluid and ever evolving.

this art and post are dedicated to my mother, who says that i should be someone i will never be and i should do things i am never going to do, and that it's the "right way" in life.