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Sugaring 101: Upping your bedroom game with some sensuality and simple escort tricks.

*** Warning: Only try this with the sugardaddies you actually like and feel some attachment too. And definitely trust ***

Please heed the warning or you will crash and burn if you attempt the following.

PREPARE YOUR MEETING PLACE: If you’re regularly meeting at a hotel room, get daddy to get you a prepaid card so that you can go ahead and rent the room ahead of your visit. This will save him the trouble of doing it and allow you a chance to control your interaction. A lot of escorts do this for that very same reason: control.  For him, the businessman or exec who’s dealing with all kinds of shit this takes some pressure off him. What you have to understand about a successful man is that he’s always under pressure. He’s getting beat to shit daily from work, life, and home and he’s probably middle-aged meaning half of daddy’s life is already gone. Daunting. You need to be the calming voice in his life. When he gets there, of course be in your best lingerie, smelling good, etc, with the sheets pulled back on the bed. Or, answer the door naked, in a pair of red bottoms, etc. Or, ask to keep one of his ties for a souvenir on a previous date and when your next visit at the room arrived, have it on and nothing else.

If you host your visits at your residence, then ask daddy what kind of snack he likes. Fruit? Have some strawberries or grapes waiting for him when he comes over. He likes wine, etc.,? Have a glass poured. You can enjoy glass too. Its ok. If you have a problem drinking with daddy, refer to my warning above. :)

RELAX HIM: Give daddy a massage. Not an hour, just 10 minutes to break him down. This is a good time to ask for shit. If he has dry skin, bring some oil in your purse. First rub his back, making sure you’re getting in between those shoulder blades, etc. Skip the legs, lower torso etc. Unnecessary. He’s tense from meetings and conference calls all day. Turn him over and rub him briefly on his chest before you work your way down to his love zone. Rub his dick and don’t forget the boys. When he’s nice hard, start fellatio (if you do fellatio).  If he doesn’t want a massage or doesn’t have time that’s cool. You need to put it out there anyway. 

Time taken: 7 - 10 minutes

LAY YOUR HEAD ON HIS CHEST: After sex, cuddle up next to him and lay your head on his chest. If he has little or no hair this will be easy. If he’s a hairy bastard you might find another place to lay your head but the goal is to cuddle him. Use the hair to your advantage and play with it as you lie there. Twist it in your fingers or some shit. Make him feel like he just pleased you in every way possible. He probably didn’t, but it’s all about the fantasy. This is easy to do if you like him. Refer to my warning above! Say something meaningful like, “That was good daddy.”  If you have psychological hang-ups about calling him daddy then say “That was good baby..”  or “Mmmm I needed that.” All too often chicks are just lying there side by side with him in her own world. You can remain in your own world just do it cuddling him. This is also a good habit to have when you get married. :) 

Time taken: Not applicable

CLEAN HIM UP: Grab a warm damp warm towel, and remove the condom. Wipe up his penis and go put the condom in the toilet. If no condom was used, you can still clean him up if his penis is about stick to his leg. If  he’s caught off your guard, or ask what you’re doing, tell him “I’m just taking care of you daddy…” I got this one from several Escorts I’ve seen over the years. Trust me. You want some brownie points? Try it a few times. You can even be cute about it and say, “Gosh, you had a lot in there.” Or my FAVORITE “….I see you’ve been saving up for me. You had a lot!” The latter is perfect for you babies seeing daddy once a week. When you’re done cleaning him up, lay back on him. This is also another good time to ask for shit. 

Time taken: 30 - 45 seconds

TASTE IT: Now I might lose a few of you here but it’s my duty to put it out there anyway.  While you cleaning him up, put a forefinger in your mouth and say, “Mmm you taste good.” He might pass the hell out. If you’re good at this he won’t know you don’t actually have some cum on your finger. Hopefully, some of you catch what I mean on the latter. :) Or, if you swallow anyway then nothing is wrong with a little protein on your finger and tasting it.

Time taken:  2 seconds

PUT HIS SHIRT ON: If you’re going to be in the hotel room awhile, try this one out. This will kill him. If he wears good smelling cologne capitalize on it. With the shirt on, pull the collar up to your nose and say, “Mmm I love your smell daddy…” You won’t be lying if he wears good cologne. Chances are you already noticed his cologne but you were too much of a bitch to say you smell good. This is the sexiest shit EVER though. Nothing cuter than your 110, 120, 150 lbs ass in his big ass shirt. One of my previous sugarbabies used to do this. Drove me crazy.

Oh and congratulations!!!! Now he’s going to be thinking about you the rest of the day. You’ve inadvertently left your perfume on his shirt. Now he’s gonna be smelling your pretty little ass the rest of the day. Just don’t leave any lipstick!

Take a selfie with the shirt on. Send it to him days later in between your visits.

Time taken: 10 seconds to put on his shirt. Time elapsed before he wants to take it back off and fuck again: 60 seconds. Likelihood of you getting that Celine purse: High.

HELP HIM GET DRESSED: This one is especially important for the busy executive, businessman or man that works in a professional setting and he’s on his lunch break, or on his way home to his vanilla life. No, don’t help him pull his trousers up. But you can help with the belt as you kiss him on the chest. I’m saying as he buttons his shirt, go help him. Help him button the ones on his sleeves as well. And most important help put his tie back on and straighten it and his collar afterwards. Then finish it with a kiss. If you don’t get a chance to do all that, then collect his shoes and socks and bring them to him. Don’t’ try and put those on - that’s just corny. You’ll love his reaction I promise.

Time taken: 30 – 45 seconds

CUDDLE HIM: Recently, I learned something about myself. I read somewhere that one of the reasons why I cheat is because I as a man want to be cuddled and held. I thought this was bullshit but it’s quite true.  I know this is contrary to all the SD advice you’ve been getting but take it from a long standing member of the sugar community its true. I’ll explain this one better by giving a real life example. Now when I would first come over, Nebraska and I would sit on her bed and talk and she’d find some way to wrap her legs around and hug me like I was her long lost boyfriend. I was going through some things and it felt good for somebody in this world to seemingly take an interest in my plight. Then, she’d just sit there and stare at me like I was a big piece of steak. Staring at my mouth. When I’d talk too long she’d start taking off my clothes. While she was getting me undressed, she was always say one of these 3 things:  “ I know you didn’t’ come here to do all that talking…” or “You just gonna talk?” or my favorite “Or we gonna fuck or not daddy?” One day, after sex I was sitting on the bed and she climbed on the bed, sat down behind me so that I was in between her legs. As I was talking so she kissed me gingerly on my back and also laid her head on my back as we talked.  This shit made me feel like a king. When Nebraska and I ended our arrangement she said, “Well I was actually genuinely interested in you…” This is why I mentioned only try these techniques when you have some type of genuine attraction to daddy. Its easier to do and you won’t be faking which will speak volumes.

Time taken: none. You were going to be doing all this talking anyway, just on one side of the bed or side by side as you sat on the bed. The difference here is you’re cuddling him while you do it.  

Now, I’m about to drop half of you right here.

LET HIM CUM TWICE: You’re laying there in his arms, listening to his bullshit. Reach down and play with his love while he’s talking. After a moment ask, “You got another round in you daddy?” Regardless of his answer, go down and start blowing him again. It should be cleaned if you followed my advice earlier – clean him up. Anyway, if he said no, he’ll appreciate your dedication and let you try and revive him before he stops you. If he says yes, then its self explanatory.  Relax though. Your middle-aged daddy most likely won’t have a second round in him anyway. This METHOD is extremely effective with the sugarbabies that only see their daddy once a week.  But, for other arrangements its works quite well too.  

A lot of chicks are jumping up, cleaning up and rushing out the door, saying how you have so much to do today. Nothing kills a relationship like feeling like you’re being used (even though you actually are!). But remember, you want him around awhile. This is definitely a powerful tool to make that happen. Sends a clear signal that you’re all about pleasing him. (I hope the latter doesn’t get me in trouble). Trust me. An extra several minutes is cheap time to spend if you knew you’d be getting another 4 - 6 months out of daddy.

Time taken: 5 – 7 minutes

FINISHING TOUCHES: Put the finishing touches on it. When you’ve helped him finish getting dressed, and you know he’s on his way back to work or back to business, when he heads out the door say something encouraging like, “Go get’em baby.“ Or if he told you about some crap going on at work, take the opp to regurgitate it. “Fuck Bob. He’s an asshole. You should have got the promotion.” blah blah. You get the point. The latter can be applied even as you both do a last kiss before you head out the door. Again, it’s all about the finishing touches.

Time taken: 2 seconds

I know some of you are saying, “I ain’t doing all that shit.” But remember you are selling a fantasy. You’re giving the most precious part of your body away. Only to have your average sugardaddy relationship end in 2 to 3 months? All because he’s had his fill of your kitty. I assure you incorporating these techniques into your visits with daddy will go a long way and add months onto your relationship. This will help keep him coming back for more and more. Another way to put it, why not hook daddy for several months or even a few years and milk him dry (no pun intended) with just a few extra things?

I put the time on the end of these sections to show how long these little techniques actually take. Like I always say just a little extra goes a LONG way. These simple yet EXTREMELY effective techniques WILL prolong your sugar relationship. So why not incorporate them into your experience? I GUARANTEE daddy will respond to this stuff. I know because I’ve had it all done to me before and it blew me away then and it blows me away now as I type!

Damn I’m horny now. And my visit with sugarbaby isn’t for a few days.

Time to close the office door and get in a little pornhub and redtube.

This man is the real MVP.

✨💸 💵 💴 💳 💎💶 💷 💰🏝

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Do you have any tips/advice for: getting at least mid range to higher quality clients, getting a higher/steady volume, and any newbie escorting tips or advice you would share with a rookie? Posting Ads really seems very sketchy with the political climate the way it is and freestyling can be really hit or miss when you are starting out. Thank you!

When you’re starting out, you have to price yourself to the location. Unless you’re marketing to a specific area, or if you’re in a huge city, you’ll probably have to start out a bit lower. I would recommend starting lower (not low!) just to get a feel for escorting. High-end is a different game and no one really taught me how to play it until three months ago. Now I’m playing it by ear. Higher quality clients don’t do hourly bookings and I didn’t realize that until recently either. Big spenders want full GFE for hours on end. Trust me: don’t say you do GFE but only want them to fuck and leave. You need a good persona & to immerse yourself in it.

If you’re not sure about advertising (I’m not either because of all of the stings), you can freestyle. Freestyling doesn’t always have to be in person. You can freestyle on Tinder, Hinge, OKC, Pure, Niteflirt, Fetlife, anything that isn’t strictly for escorting. I have a good friend who pulls clients off Tinder. If you have a good bio and know how to market yourself, you’re gold. Watch who you’re matching with for telltale signs of a cop though. Set your location in areas that cops can’t afford. If you’re freestyling in person like at a bar, the way to avoid stings and to avoid lower end clients is to go to highly expensive areas on weekdays when no specials are being run to places that aren’t known for hoeing. Don’t dress indecently. Befriend the bartender, they know where the regular big spenders are and when they go. Tip them well and chat them up. When it comes to speaking to a potential client, you don’t always have to allude to something sexual either. You can talk freely (with your persona on of course) with a few flirts here and there and give them your card with your site on it. I do the same when I’m chatting up a stranger who looks well to do and could be a potential client. I personally don’t mention money when I’m freestyling anymore because it’s hazardous and I see that now. I’d only attempt it in Monaco. Men who’re interested in you will look up your site and see what you’re about, and nothing was illegal about that exchange. :-) How many clients you get based off of this is directly correlated to how much work you put into it. However, from experience, it’s better to have a few regulars than barely any regulars and a lot of new cats coming in.

The key to keeping steady clients if you’re doing GFE is to make it the best damn experience they’ve ever had. Plan it out like it’s an event! Make it special for them. It sounds cliche but they truly just want to feel cared about. If you feel like a girlfriend to them, they’ll keep coming back. So beyond sex, just talking with them, going places with them, massaging them, or even cooking for them (real shit, I knew a girl who did this) makes them feel like the money was worth it. I have regular and VIP prices. My VIP prices include things like a massage, penpal services, or any skill I have that would make them feel loved. Regular prices are GFE of course, but not as specialized. If you have any similar skill put it out there!!! Make yourself truly unique. Like, my cursive is beautiful, so after an overnight, if I’m tryna shower and he’s still asleep, I’ll write a note to him. Something cheeky. I lay it on THICK. I even remember all the details they tell me so upon our next meet I can ask them about it. I’ve made some cookies and bought them gifts (under $100, it’s nothing compared to what they pay me tbh) personalized to their tastes. They like to feel like you’re present. Like a genuine girlfriend they can travel with and spoil without baggage. That’s where the big money comes from, and it’ll keep coming if you treat them like the love of your life when you’re together.

As for tips: make sure you always get the money first and make sure it’s real. Have them give it to you in an envelope, book, or card inconspicuously. I prefer books, adds to my erudite profile. Don’t forget screening at ALL. You need to know exactly who they are. Real clients know you aren’t about to dox their information or anything. Zabasearch and Stud or Dud should be some of your best friends. Never let them tie you up or put you in any position you can’t get out of. Bring your own condoms, they might poke holes in theirs or they might be expired. Check periodically to make sure the condom’s still on. If they’re trying to position you a certain way again and again, there may be a camera in the room. Make sure to check for one and ensure that both of your phones/laptops/whatever are off and far from reach. That’s why I have a heaux apartment I rent out—because there will never be a camera in my own place. I bought detectors for that. Stick to your persona as well! Make sure you don’t contradict yourself. If you have to write down the fake shit write it down, but keep it in your brain. Keep a hoe phone, hoe number, hoe name, hoe email (protonmail is key). Make sure your photos don’t show ANYTHING identifiable. Some girls don’t use the blur feature well enough. And don’t host your site or servers in the US, that’s foolish with SESTA/FOSTA. Just ensure that whatever information you’re putting out can’t be traced back to you at all. Keep a taser, knife, or gun on you and know how to use them. Always let someone you trust know where you are so they can check in with you.

That’s all I can think of.

my fave hoe products

baby wipes - can be used to take makeup off quickly. use before & after sex,easily wipes up boob sweat and is just good for freshening up overall

throat numbing spray -  makes deep throating easier (especially if your gag reflex is bad)

aquaphor - makes lips soft and is good for any rough patches of skin

clear or light pink gloss - super flirty and cute and makes your lips look nice & pouty

salux cloth - exfoliates skin really well and will make your skin soft as fuck. it’s like a loofah but better. it’s also long so you can exfoliate your back as well.

schick intuition razor - it has a little moisturizing bar on the razor so u don’t have to use shaving cream. so moisturizing and makes you smooth as fuck. one of the best razors imo.

dr. bronners peppermint castile soap - literally makes you feel so clean and minty! if u have a vagina do not put this inside of it bc it will throw ur pH way off)

baby oil - put on wet skin to keep moisture in and make you soft af. also good if u wanna put oil on your ass & titties during sex (also be sure not to get this in your vagina bc it will give u a fuckin infection and it also it deteriorates condoms)

perfume oil - lasts longer and is is stronger than perfume (i recommend the “crown perfume” brand)

body butter - thicker than lotion and makes you wayyy softer (heres a diy recipe)

rosewater - smells like rose (obviously) and works good as a toner,setting spray,and makeup “refresher”. works well for all skin types.

aloe vera gel - great under makeup as a moisturizer & primer if you have oily skin. it absorbs fast and prevents wrinkles and makes ur skin look nice & plump. i’ve heard it can be used to shave with as well. (make sure you get the clear one, not the green or blue gel. and make sure there’s no alcohol added)

chlorophyll - basically a body deodorizer, that you take internally. comes in liquid or pill form. it’s a natural remedy for vaginal odor & bad breath. it’ll make you smell better in general though.

bentonite clay/aztec healing clay - detoxes skin and is good for break outs.

Upon HEAVY MEDITATION, my guide will be 100% free. As I write it, I realize life is all about chance encounters; right place, right time. However when we get that chance, we need to know how to hold on to it. I do not, and cannot take money from women. What I give as energy to the universe will return to me 100 fold. Give me time to finish my guide on how I view my success, and I promise everyone a FREE read filled with honesty.

So many girls have messaged me about how little money they have and if it is enough to “buy the guide.” YOU ARE ENOUGH for me to make one. I once came down to $42 to my name, and the girls I met then did not take a dime from me but played a huge role in who I am today.

I will not be one of those scammers who take your last coin to feed you fantasies. Remember this kindness and be sure to return it in your journey. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ SHARE THIS POST FOR ALL TO SEE!

Night Comes On (2018) dir. Jordana Spiro

My Guide to Escorting: Part 1

This is a comprehensive post about escorting! Under a readmore of course. Part 2 will include information about websites, how to cover your ass, pricing, payment, LLCs & DBAs, taxes, and how to up your game.

I. SETTING GOALS & EXAMINING WHY YOU WANT TO GET INTO IT

This should be your first step. What do you want to accomplish? Make sure that it isn’t out of desperation because you may put yourself in danger. If you are desperate, clear your mind. Escorting is fast money, but not all of it is good money. Please stay aware of that.

II. RESEARCH YOUR AREA

Is your area a place that you can market yourself in? Are there enough wealthy men looking to spend? If there are, you’re gold. While you’re at it, look up the legalities of escorting in your area. It’ll determine how you should operate. If you’re in the US, please educate yourself on the SESTA/FOSTA laws.

III. DECIDE HOW YOU WANT TO ESCORT/ADVERTISING

Do you want to be on a website (i.e. Eros), or freestyle? How would you go about either in your area? If you’re in a smaller city, freestyling in person may not be viable for you compared to someone in NYC. If you’re in a larger city, it may be easier for you to freestyle. More fish in the sea. It depends on your area and what you’re most comfortable with. If you will be advertising, will you use Twitter, Fetlife, Niteflirt, etc. as addons? If so, take extra precaution that your info can’t be tracked back. I don’t know much about Eros, so I’m not going to write a guide on how to use it. However, I will discuss freestyling.

Freestyling doesn’t always have to be in person. You can freestyle on Tinder, Hinge, OKC, Pure, Niteflirt, Fetlife, or anything that isn’t strictly for escorting. If you have a good bio and great pictures, you will be fine. Don’t mention money on the app, get his number and discuss money using your fake phone/fake number. If he doesn’t bite, goodbye. If he does, you have a client. Watch who you’re matching with for telltale signs of a cop though (i.e. they look poor as shit. Always pictures in public settings like public bathrooms). Set your location in areas that cops can’t afford, and make it specific to neighborhood if you can.

If you’re freestyling in person like at a bar, the way to avoid stings and to avoid lower end clients is to go to highly expensive areas on weekdays (when no specials are being run) to places that aren’t known for hoeing. Don’t dress indecently. Befriend the bartender, they know where the regular big spenders are and when they go. Tip them well and chat them up. However, you can freestyle at places beyond bars and restaurants. Bookshops, coffee shops, anywhere in affluent areas with men of quality. When it comes to speaking to a potential client, you don’t always have to allude to something sexual either. You can talk freely (with your persona on of course) with a few flirts here and there and give them your card with your site on it. Men who’re interested in you will look up your site and see what you’re about, and nothing was illegal about that exchange. How many clients you get based off of this is directly correlated to how much work you put into it.

You should also determine whether you’ll be doing incalls or outcalls.

IV. FIGURE OUT YOUR BRAND

How will you market yourself? This will be your genuine brand, the person your clients will see you as. Because of this, it should be something you can emulate easily. Are you a girl next door type? A vixen? An erudite? A mix of them? Whatever you choose, don’t stray from that lane. You should eat and breathe your persona whenever you are “on”. I recommend looking up the 13 Feminine Seduction Archetypes and seeing how you can play into yours. It’ll make snapping your persona “on” much easier. Also, you should pick a name based off of your brand. Ensure it’s not common, or taken by a popular escort. You should want your own shine.

Branding will not include all of your essence in its core. It is simply about the parts of you that your clients will most enjoy. To effectively brand, you have to envision your perfect client. What do they look like? What do they like to discuss? To eat? What are their likes and dislikes? What do they pride themselves on? After you’ve figured this out, do your research (again) on your area. Figure out how many of your perfect clients exist near you. Find everything they dislike and throw it out. Find everything they like and amp that up. For example, my perfect client I know would dislike any references to or about pop culture because they’re monied and ~cultured~. If my client hates pop culture, there is a good chance he will hate outfits that are not sophisticated and smart. So fast fashion and cheap-looking lingerie is out of the window. I know my perfect client would read Forbes, travel magazines, and investing magazines. The first and last items are business related. While he’ll want to discuss them (and while I have the range to discuss it), I am trying to be his getaway. So I will focus primarily on those travel magazines. Read those. What hot spots does your perfect client enjoy? Is it rustic, classic, or modern? What does he like to do in these hot spots?

Figure it out.

V. PICTURES

This is based off of what you are trying to market yourself as. However, you should choose different settings and poses that will appeal to your ideal client. If you are just starting and don’t have money for professional pictures, find a sub that can do your heaux pictures if you dominate them (real shit, there are men like this) or use well-taken selfies (NOT OF YOUR FACE & HAVE THEM TASTEFULLY DONE). Something I am valuing in my pictures is color theory. I am marketing myself as a getaway, so I noted which colors I saw most saturated in those travel magazines; which ones convey serenity and/or unadulterated passion. Reds, yellows, blues, whites/creams, pinks are my prime colors. I want to blend with the image of a getaway so that their minds associate me with luxurious peace. If you’re marketing yourself as the girl next door, your pictures will be vastly different from mine. However, you should always have uniform lingerie, some body makeup on, and some nice heels. It doesn’t have to be expensive as long as it’s good quality. Ensure that your clothed pictures get the same energy. PLEASE no spandex dresses or anything of the sort. The type of clients who’ll enjoy that will be low quality. If you’re not going with a hoetographer, learn how to blur your face out. Don’t pose in any reflections that would make blurring more tricky, and don’t pose in your apartment if you can help it. If so, do not give a big profile of the room out. If you know how to use Lightroom and Photoshop, all the better.

If you’re trying to be more high-end, do more clothing pictures than you do seductive/lingerie/naked pictures. Show the assets tastefully. Trust me. The more thought you put into your photos, the more your clients will pay.

VI. SAFETY

Do you have any friends that you can check in with while you’re with a client? If not, can you download apps that allow an app to check on you (i.e. Life360, bSafe, Kitestring) and call for help if you don’t check in on time? Do you have access to a taser, gun, knife, or pepper spray, and do you know how to use them? Have you taken a self defense class? Do you have a fake phone or fake number you can use? (Hoe emails can come later–use ProtonMail) If you’re doing an incall, have a trusted person with a key to your apartment just in case. Keep all personally identifiable information away from reach and locked up. Personally, I keep a separate apartment for incalls so that they don’t know where I live. If they do, they are one background check away from knowing your real first and last name. (I rented out this apartment through my LLC, so if they tried to backtrack into the apartment’s history, all they can find is my LLC name. That only links back to my DBA. My DBA can only be traced back to my name if they personally went to the county clerk’s office and illegally obtained it. You should work on being as anonymous as possible. I’ll talk about how to set one up later in the next post.)

If you’re doing an outcall, do a check of the entire place with weapon in hand to ensure that he is the only one in the room. Stay in large hotels with staff that’ll give a damn about you. Never go to his house, never do any drugs or get drunk. Have a “get out” plan and be able to formulate a quick one in your head. ALWAYS make sure you always get the money first and make sure it’s real. Have them give it to you in an envelope, book, or card inconspicuously. Never let them tie you up or put you in any position you can’t get out of. Bring your own condoms, they might poke holes in theirs or they might be expired. Check periodically to make sure the condom’s still on. If they’re trying to position you a certain way again and again, there may be a camera in the room. Make sure to check for one and ensure that both of your phones/laptops/whatever are off and far from reach.

VII. SCREENING

I felt that this deserves its own bulletpoint, although it does go hand in hand with safety. YOU MUST SCREEN. I don’t care if they’re a celebrity, you don’t know them. SCREEN. Ask for their first, middle, and last name, and their real number. You can ask for their home address, work address, anything or everything that will help you find info on them faster. Use Zabasearch, Stud or Dud, Whitepages, Google, Facebook, LinkedIn, PeopleFinders, LipstickAlley (if they’re a known hoe), Instagram, anything and everything that gives you their information. If you don’t have a good feeling about someone, TRUST IT. Don’t skimp on this step at all. If you find anything you don’t like, decline to see them.

As someone that has grown up surrounded by beaches and done surf life saving, I know how the sea works. Lots of people dont. Every summer multiple tourists die here because they don’t respect the sea, if you’re going to the coast, here’s a thing I saw on Facebook.

Rich older men don’t want to be used for their money but only seek out young attractive girls to use for their looks/sex.

I’ve been going back and forth for a while on sealing this deal with a POT. About two months now. Dinners were great, he gave me his full info, gave a cash gift on the first date, very kind man, blah blah blah.

But something in me told me not to do it.

I was supposed to text him back a week ago with a date and time to start our arrangement but I’ve been holding back.

Then last night I had a dream. We did it, and he pulled a knife on me.

Some may say I’m extra, but for my Hispanic/carribean ass that was allll I needed.

Mabye I missed an opportunity, mabye I stayed alive a little while longer 🤷🏽‍♀️

Here’s my thing: sex workers are a luxury. Not everyone is supposed to be able to afford luxuries.

When he says he doesn’t feel comfortable with allowances...

Here’s something that’s been in my drafts folder for a while. Based on some of the posts I’ve read recently, I think it might come in handy…PLEASE DO NOT COPY AND PASTE. READ CRITICALLY. Take bits and pieces, make it your own, or summarize it in some way as a come back for those messages, texts, or dinner dates.

Him: Hi. Thanks for reaching out to my earlier message. Your pics are beautiful. While I completely understand the importance of chemistry…but should we get to a point where this matters, I’m a little uncomfortable with having our relationship defined by allowances. As I said in my profile, I am quite generous, and understand the importance of ‘spoiling my partner’ but still, the set allowance would probably not work for me. I hope you understand my thoughts….

Me: Thank you for your thoughts. I understand that you are in search of an escape and so am I. My escape would involve a real connection and a refined lifestyle. I am a little uncomfortable with having a relationship that is only defined by sex… especially when the guy is attached and somewhat unavailable. I’m a beautiful young woman with no lack of suitors. I have a busy social life and I’m currently working to build a business/ pursuing my degree. I chose this kind of relationship in part because I have so little time for love. That’s not to say that my (romantic) time is not very valuable to me. It is. What I don’t value are shoes, handbags, and/or expensive dinners. These are things that I can purchase myself. Furthermore, these do nothing for me in the long run as much as say you investing in my company/ education would. I hope you understand that I’d need tangible showings… actions that illustrate I am valued… that my companion wants to put a smile on my face/ make me feel special/wants the best for me. AN ALLOWANCE WOULD DO THAT FOR ME. By the same token, I want my companion to feel comfortable telling me specifically how I could put a smile on his face/make HIM feel special/ valued. In any case, I am a rare catch and therefore am in no rush to find the man who “gets it” and me. Good luck on your search!

Now doesn’t this sound better than saying “Bitch Please! I am hot and young and you want me to spend my time on your old ass while your wife gets the unlimited credit card and I get nada! FUCK YOU!”

Key Differences In Sexes

I was reading this article by Dr. Nick Neave in which he explains how we are born predisposed to search for the best partner, because all of our ancestors before were doing the exact same things.

Here are some key points that stuck out to me.

Females are smaller and weaker than males, so, in prehistoric times, women and their offspring were prone to being the victims of predators and violence. They needed the support and protection of men who didn’t just have brute force but also had social status in the group, either through their sheer physicality or the strength of their personality. That’s why women still look for a mate of higher social standing. If a woman had a relationship with a socially dominant male, she would immediately get greater access to resources because her social standing would be elevated, too. As we shall see, modern surveys consistently show that women today ape [no pun intended?] those inherent characteristics by looking for partners who are socially dominant and have the respect of their peers, paying close attention to how men interact with, and are treated by, other men.

When couples meet at speed-dating events, typically a man will judge a woman on her looks and youth. His priorities are whether she’s healthy, interested in sex, and can give him children one day. He doesn’t care how much she earns or her social status. Typically, however, a woman’s first question will be: ‘What job do you do?’ It sounds a friendly overture, but what she really wants to know is his social position and earning capacity. Is he an industrious, hard worker, capable of providing for her and their children? Because of his power, even the ugliest politician on the planet has women lining up to go to bed with him… As American statesman Henry Kissinger put it: “Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac.”

Women will pick the powerful over the sexy. Neave goes on to quote a study in which the researchers presented women with photographs of men. The first group, described as doctors, wore designer ties, smart shirts, and sported Rolex watches. The second wore plain shirts and Swatch watches and were described as teachers. The third group wore Burger King uniforms. Women repeatedly picked doctors as potential boyfriends — even though many of the men in the third category were actually more handsome. To women, a man’s looks are less important than earning power and social standing.

It’s much less likely that a rich woman, or even a woman of average wealth, would be willing to reproduce with a poor man. He will not be able to support her during pregnancy and help her raise a healthy child. It’s better for a woman to be with a richer man, no matter how ugly he is. Similarly, beautiful women tend to have beautiful children. And the thing about beautiful children is that people treat them better. Not just adults, but also peers and teachers.

So the next time someone calls you a gold digger, whore, slut, or sell out because you want a strong, successful man, read this as a reminder and FUCK them.

I welcome ALL the ABUNDANCE coming my way✨

2019 is very personal, i owe myself alot.

800 dollars later. He didn’t even fuck me in the ass this time. His dick couldn’t stay hard so he literally was eating my pussy out and sucking on my tits. Oh by the way this was just only for a hour. So basically he paid me 1k double my rate. I love a broken dick haha. Hopefully he books me for a overnight like he says. Also now I can pay for better ads and a photoshoot session

My first real deposit after starting as a escort. I literally wasn’t getting no bookings for 2 weeks until i went on tinder and started to advertise myself on there. Ladies let me tell you something you don’t need to pay these sites 500 dollars for a ad and think you will get a booking. When i started i was paying a certain company 69 dollars a month to advertise and I wasn’t getting nothing. Until i recently today went on tinder. It just shows to take everything as a opportunity and it don’t believe the hype. I will be getting paid 1k for this booking and it’s only 60 minutes. He offered to double my rate without me even having to persuade him. Will update on how it goes.

Oh and btw a couple days before I was discouraged. So I went on a video about speaking things into existence and asking the universe to fulfill my desire. Literally the next day I got a booking.

Speak things into existence and it shall be fulfilled.

“But if you forget to reblog Madame Zeroni, you and your family will be cursed for always and eternity.”

Repeat after me sis

“EVERY MAN IS A CHECK!”

Even if it’s a Walmart worker or a ceo.

You can finesse anybody for something.

Sooo I decided to quit online sugaring apps. There full of salty guys. I’ve listen to all my og sugar babies and decided that’s a waste of time. So now I will be focusing on perfecting the art of freestyling.

This man really telling these young girls and women to fuck man that has no car and to look past the financial aspect of life for love. Are you fucking kidding me 😂. WOMEN DO NOT LISTEN TO THIS SHIT EVEN IF YOU ARE A “INDEPENDENT” WOMEN YOU STILL GONNA GET PLAYED. He literally even says if a guy has to take a bus to get to your pussy then he’s worthy of fucking. Come the fuck on 🤧

Remember ladies level up and get that bag. He’s just another pick me man who probably gotta his heart broken.

-Sugartingz

Be careful ladies this is why you always screen the person. I instantly found it number as a predator on not just this site but many others. Stay safe ladies 💕

Why does theee old man love to think somebody my age will be with them for free. Like sweetheart your 48 and I’m 22 run me my money 🗣🗣💵💵💳💳💸💰

#sugarbaby

It’s 2019 we out here making money fool 🙄🗣

Don’t feel bad for having standards

Don’t let these basic ass bitches define you sis.

If you want a nigga because he got money and he’s successful be proud of that. Don’t settle for less and get what you deserve. PERIOD 🗣🗣

how does this sound "Hey, I've viewed your profile and I see that we have similar interests and needs, if you're interested message me back." i really appreciate your help btw ;;

It sounds really boring. So boring in fact that your message is only a word or two different from the generic statement that SA attaches to “winks.” Since joining SA I’ve easily sent over 300 spam messages to POTs yet I’ve only been called out with “Is this a collect message?” or “Nice generic message” twice. If I ever sent out your version, I think that number would increase tenfold, or I’d simply be outright ignored. Likewise, whenever POTs send me messages like this, I know that they’re merely sending me an ounce more effort than a wink and are messaging 40 other women that same note.

Why I message

Realistically, everyone on these sites is talking with multiple people at once, but as humans we love to feel uniquely noticed. So the two key things I try to remember for an initial spam message are to stroke the ego and elicit interest. You’re doing a really great job with taking initiative but now it’s time to crank up your messages and get the responses you want and deserve, girl!

Think of an initial message like a voicemail. If you get a voicemail saying, “Hey it’s Andy. Call me back.” You’ll be like what does this bitch want? If you get a voicemail saying, “Hey, gorgeous. It’s Andy! Haven’t heard from you in a while. I have the FUNNIEST story to tell you. You’re gonna die. Call me back some time tonight before 10pm or else I’ll be asleep. Can’t wait to hear from you. Bye!” What are the key differences here? The first one lacks motive or reason and has no sense of urgency. You have no idea why Andy called or what he wants. Consequently, it’s not enticing and it’ll either take you hours/days to call Andy back or you’ll text him and say “Hey got your voicemail. What’s up?” You never want a POT to have to ‘What’s Up’ (aka wtf do you want) you! When people write on their profiles “Not a fan of endless emails/texting” THIS IS WHY. Make your point and make sure your point is a good one! The second voicemail not only makes the point but it leaves the receiver begging for more. What’s Andy’s story? I’ve got to hear it! I might even walk out in the middle of class just to call Andy back and hear what he has to say. This is the difference between a green check next to ‘sent messages’ and an inbox full of responses.

When I Message

On SA, there’s a daily quota of how many messages you can send so choose wisely! Winks are unlimited per day, but as I mentioned above, they are the crutch of the lazy and unimaginative. Your words carry much more clout! Rather than wasting messages on men who are too cheap/indecisive to pay for a premium membership, always make sure that the yellow “Premium” is highlighted on the banner on his profile. This way he can actually see, read, and respond to your messages!

How I Message

This might go without saying, but don’t waste your time reaching out to splenda, salt, and meatsuits. Just because BigDickDaddy69 lives 10 minutes away from you and has a million dollar income doesn’t mean meeting with him will be worth your time (but if you want a free dinner, go for it girl!). READ THEIR PROFILES. Ctrl + F for “sex”, “kinky”, “stamina”, and other TRIGGER WARNING: TACKY AS FUCK words. If he’s in the clear, move on to extracting tidbits about him that you find interesting – his career, places he’s visited, sports he’s into, activities he loves, etc. Ctrl + T his profile in a tab right next to the message you’re writing for him so that you can refer back to it quickly if need be (I say this because Doctor is technologically challenged and idk you might be too lol). While spamming out your daily email quota should not take more than 30-60 minutes and you are not here to write each individual man an ode, you do want to have some specifics.

Who I message

Assuming I’ve found a premium member who is not a meatsuit, there are two categories that he’ll fall in: Silent Sam and Fun Freddy.

Silent Sam is the standard SA user who, for reasons of extreme discretion, novice sugar profile experience, weak self-selling game, or all three, lacks a well-defined profile. His About Me and About You are brief and vague with phrases like “let’s talk”, “message me for more”, “Handsome, fit, gentleman seeks SB”, “looking for a mutually beneficial arrangement” or other NO DUH type shit. He may have little to no photos, or, worse, have several tailored-suit or beach bod selfie shots thinking that his looks speak for him. He is probably using a vague username like “NYCbanker” or a fake name like “Mike.” Although his hazy wants and needs are frustrating, he is not to be discounted for reasons such as his high income/net worth, high allowance (or it may be open/negotiable but his income is high enough), handsome photos, or ideal location. Thus, I conclude that Silent Sam has the potential to be a good SD and simply needs me to extract this from him.

Fun Freddy, unlike Silent Sam, details his love of Russian ballet and need for an SB who shares it at length on his profile. Indeed, his wants, needs, hobbies, etc. are described explicitly on his About Me and About You which are each a solid one or two paragraphs at least. He may have several photos, or still have little to none for needs of discretion or otherwise. Like Silent Sam, his income/net worth, allowance, and location work well for you but he has a leg up on Sam in that his personality and ideal arrangement align with yours as well.

What I message

(I’ve italicized the template and the rest is just content I scraped from his profile)

Subject: Hey there, (Sam/handsome/nothing if he has no name or photos)! :)

Body: SO jealous that you live in Neptune! It’s a mere four planets away from me so I drive out often for the amazing rock climbing scene. Do you dabble in that at all? Unfortunately there’s not much of that on Earth where I’m from but it’s probably my favorite hobby. Have you ever been to Earth before? As a Management Consultant, I’m sure that you travel to several fun planets and I can tell there’s a ton I’d love to pick your brain about as I too enjoy sight-seeing in various corners of our galaxy. I’ve enjoyed your profile thus far and would love to hear a bit more about you and your ideal arrangement sometime soon.

Cheers,

Kelly Clarkson

^ Silent Sam is more time-consuming to message because you have to pull teeth to fatten up your template. You can’t spew generic compliments like “You’re so handsome!” or “You seem like a fun, active guy” when you have no idea about either. You must rely a bit more on speculation. But this message does a great job of inserting yourself into the narrative of his life. Now he knows that you’re available to meet for coffee in Neptune often. He knows you love to travel and he doesn’t have to feel shy about asking you to join him on his bi-weekly business trips to Pluto. You also shoot him a few questions highlighting your interest in his life and give him action-steps (tell me more about yourself and your arrangement) to steer the conversation where you want to go and to give HIM a template for how to respond. Nothing worse than a message from a guy that says “How are you?” right? Ugh! This makes YOU have to do all of the guesswork. Don’t be that guy. Save your busy CEO the trouble and give him three or four key points to come back at you with, which will be helpful as you’re trying to learn more about him in spite of his blank ass profile. Ultimately, this message shows that you’re impressed with him all off of a few words that he wrote down – what an incentive to divulge more!

Subject: Hey there, (Fred/handsome/nothing if he has no name or photos)! :)

I couldn’t help but gush over your profile! Not only are your photos absolutely scrumptious, but you write so eloquently! It’s evident that you are an intelligent, successful, well-traveled gentleman who knows how to have a lot of fun. We definitely share a lot of values and passions in common. I LOVE that you’re a veterinarian – I have two puppies myself. What made you want to study that line of medicine?Your photo line-dancing was very handsome! Have you ever tried salsa before? If not, I’ll simply have to teach you as it is my favorite form of dance :) You seem like you’d be an absolute blast to spend time with and I’d love the chance to find that out for myself. Can’t wait to hear more about you and your ideal arrangement soon!

Xoxo,

Beyonce

^ This dude could be the most boring guy in the world but I’m still gonna what? Stroke that ego! I act like his profile blew me away. Best I’ve read since I joined the site. He worked really hard to craft those paragraphs so I reward him accordingly. As Drake says, “I’m telling every girl she’s the one for me, when I ain’t even planning to call.” Make him think that you think that he is the shit! You might be wary of doing so because then he’ll think you’re puddy in his hands, but it really has the opposite effect. These men get dozens of messages that commit the below-mentioned offenses (or are boring like yours lol) and to read from someone passionate, exciting, and lively is a breath of fresh air. Remember the voicemail thing. If you have ten “Hey call me back” voicemails and one enthusiastic, inquiring, fun voicemail, who are you going to call back first? The more interest I show in him, the happier and more inclined to learn about me he will be. Moreover, just like your message to Silent Sam, you’re seeking to insert yourself in the narrative of his life by allowing him to envision you two salsa dancing together. Once you plant this image in his mind, he’ll simply have to make it a reality!

AN INITIAL MESSAGE IS NOT THE TIME FOR:

Rapid-fire interrogation into his merits as an SD OR to bring up how much allowance I want.

“Hey there, John! I’ve loved your profile. So tell me, what brings you to SA rather than a more traditional site such as eHarmony? Have you ever been a sugar daddy before? If so how much allowance did she get? And why did it end? Can’t wait to hear back from you!”

^Hey there, SB, you’re hot. Why are you on SA? Do you like older men a lot? The harrier the better? How many older men have you been with? Did you let them do anal? How deep? ………………..Are you uncomfortable yet? This neither strokes the ego nor elicits interest. Instead, I pocket these key questions for the next message or two. Like real dating, sugar dating is about a personality match initially so I start off seeing what we have in common and then (soon, don’t wait forever) move on to see if our arrangement expectations align. As so many SBs say, treat him like a person, not an ATM.

Regurgitation my entire profile.

“Hey there, John! I’m a fun, sexy, college student at University of Tampa who is majoring in psychology. I love to dance, travel, and play with my cats. I keep in shape by running four miles a day and I’m training for my first marathon coming up this summer. Blah. Blah. Blah. Copy and paste from my profile.”

^After a guy reads my message, he will immediately go to your profile to learn more about me. So let’s give him more to learn! Don’t just say everything you’ve already said before. Your profile should do the telling and your message should do the showing. If you say you’re fun, flexible and like to travel – show it! This probably won’t elicit interest since it’s not anything he couldn’t find from just reading your profile. And it certainly doesn’t do anything to stroke the ego since it’s all about you.

Ultimatums.

“Hey there, John! I’m a fun, sexy, college student who is looking for a man to spend time with two to three times a month for wining & dining, enriching experiences, and a mutual beneficial arrangement with, on my part, a monthly allowance of $5000. Is that YOU? :)” ^ It can be tempting to send the latter message because it seemingly weeds out guys who aren’t what I’m looking for, right? Especially since guys send us these messages all the time a la, “I’m not looking to waste either of our time so here’s what I want yada yada yada.” Well these type of gun to the head messages are a big turn-off to a lot of people (especially shy newbies like Silent Sam); it’s better to start light and then delve into what you’re looking for a message or two later. While this message may elicit some interest, if anything, it hurts the ego by measuring this man against my standards right off the bat. Don’t be a salt baby. Don’t make it “Are you good enough for me? Why should I choose you?” But instead “are we good enough for eachother?” (at least not to his face)

SA winks and literal winks “;)” as they are universally tacky and creepy lol.

RECAP, AN INITIAL MESSAGE IS THE TIME TO:

Reveal specifically what I find appealing about a man.

Reveal my fun personality to this man.

Enable him to envision the exponential surge in his quality of life with me as his SB.

If you found these tips helpful, draft a few responses taking my personal experiences into consideration and send me your own ideas again off anon! I’d be happy to tell you if I’m now more enchanted and interested in having you as my SB lol