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You know, if I had to describe my experience as an aromantic in one word, I think I’d go with “alienating”. Let me explain:

Imagine you’re aro and watching TV. There some kind of SciFi show on and they are debating the personhood of an AI.

The AI shows curiosity and a thirst for knowledge. They have desires. They have strengths and weaknesses. None of this convinces the doubters.

The AI makes friends. They take up hobbies. They talk about their hopes and dreams for the future. Surely this is enough to relate to them as a person? It’s not.

The AI is shown to fall in love. This is framed as the ultimate proof, the one thing that must humanize them even to the staunchest denier of their personhood or else that person is irredeemable.

You change the channel.

There’s a children’s cartoon on. “What is this?!” the villain cries, pointing at a couple. Their inability to understand the romantic love between those two is framed as stemming from the fact that somebody so deeply evil simply cannot understand something as pure and good as romantic love.

You change the channel.

There’s a sitcom on. Two characters are discussing a third character. “He’s really not that weird,” says one character. “He hasn’t been in a relationship for [x] years!” the other refutes. Cue the laugh track. The implication is clear: If he’s not in a relationship, it must be because he’s too weird.

You change the channel.

There’s a Christmas movie on. The main character is a successful businesswoman. She’s shown talking to her friends and family regularly. “You need a man,” her mother says as they bake together. The daughter denies this. The rest of the movie is all about proving the mother right, as suddenly her career, her friends and her family are framed as not being enough for her to lead a fulfilling life.

You change the channel.

It’s some show aimed at young teens and tweens. “Ew,” one character comments as the idea of them having a significant other one day is brought up. This is treated as a sign of their immaturity.

You turn off the TV.

Your experiences aren’t enough to humanize a non-human character. You’re the villain. You’re a weirdo. Your life is incomplete. You’re immature.

You’re tired.

There’s a reason it was an aro who coined the term voidpunk.

you’ve heard of long-term partners, now get ready for:

long-term friends that don’t get bored and abondon you as soon as they are in a romantic relationship

I think it’s very important that everyone knows that palaeontologists keep small fossils in little gelatin capsules:

You know…like these things:

No comment on whether or not they grow in water, though.

I misread a post observing that a tyrannosaurus is chronologically closer to an iPhone than it is to a stegosaurus as claiming that a tyrannosaurus is taxonomically closer to an iPhone than it is to a stegosaurus, and I swear my first thought was “okay, what have those cladistics weirdos done this time“.

IT'S FINALLY JUNE!!!!

So here are a few tips to support aro and ace people during pride month :D

Give them all your money

Share your credit card information with them (make sure to include the correct PIN)

Help them invade Denmark (Bonus points if you're Danish)

This isn't a comprehensive list and every aspec person's needs are different, so feel free to add to this <3

whatever our souls are made of, you and me are going to end up stuck in the same ice hole

actually fuck this im gonna walk into the deep sea and never come back. bye

Even if scihub is blocked by your internet provider they have a telegram bot that gives you the articles provided you give them a doi or issn

FOB lyrics that feel incredibly arospec to me

so boycott love

love never wanted me but I took it anyway

this is a love song in my own way, happily ever after below the waist

its a strange way of saying I know I’m supposed to love you

I got your love letters, corrected the grammar and sent them back

it’s true romance is dead, I shot it in the chest and in the head

I thought I loved you, it was just how you looked in the light

Be the ghost you want to be

it seems so strange to me that the only people it is socially acceptable to live with (once you reach a certain stage in life) are sexual partners? like why can’t i live with my best friend? why can’t i raise a child with them? why do i need to have sex with someone in order to live with them? why do we put certain relationships on a pedestal? why don’t we value non-sexual relationships enough? why do life partners always have to be sexual partners?

oh my fucking god can we kill the whole thing of “platonic friends don’t DO that!” shut UP oh my god. fuck offfff pleaseeee <33333 platonic friends can be the most important people in the world to each other, platonic friends can think about each other a lot and be inspired by each other and choose to live for each other and be possessive in life or death situations and be intense i’m so tired of people acting like platonic friendships can’t be that i’m tired of them being viewed as less as!! this is exactly what i mean when i say platonic relationships are not less than romantic ones!!!!!!!! and i’m so so tired of people misinterpreting that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! fuck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

the dubious philosophy of salmon

Fave thing about Aromanticism?

Mine is the fact that aro is punk af. What’s your fave thing about our phenomenal community?

Want to learn something new in 2022??

Absolute beginner adult ballet series (fabulous beginning teacher)

40 piano lessons for beginners (some of the best explanations for piano I’ve ever seen)

Excellent basic crochet video series

Basic knitting (probably the best how to knit video out there)

Pre-Free Figure Skate Levels A-D guides and practice activities (each video builds up with exercises to the actual moves!)

How to draw character faces video (very funny, surprisingly instructive?)

Another drawing character faces video

Literally my favorite art pose hack

Tutorial of how to make a whole ass Stardew Valley esque farming game in Gamemaker Studios 2??

Introduction to flying small aircrafts

French/Dutch/Fishtail braiding

Playing the guitar for beginners (well paced and excellent instructor)

Playing the violin for beginners (really good practical tips mixed in)

Color theory in digital art (not of the children’s hospital variety)

Retake classes you hated but now there’s zero stakes:

Calculus 1 (full semester class)

Learn basic statistics (free textbook)

Introduction to college physics (free textbook)

Introduction to accounting (free textbook)

Learn a language:

Ancient Greek

Latin

Spanish

German

Japanese (grammar guide) (for dummies)

French

Russian (pretty good cyrillic guide!)

FUCK aliens ! we got these crazy shits under da sea and we’re not payin any attention!!!

Some Norse news today: “Runor is a new digital research platform that makes approximately 7,000 runic inscriptions available, as well as reports and images from various databases, institutions and collections.”

You can explore the map without logging in, read transliterations and translations, and also search runic texts.

Check it out: https://app.raa.se/open/runor/search

I feel rage (respectfully)

This is the last thing, I promise. Because, well, I want to spend my fandom time having fun and NotW is not that.

Beau DeMayo during his Q&A:

The books on which The Witcher Netflix is based (that the writers are meant to have read, absorbed and adored):

Bare in mind, Geralt was younger than five during all this, according to Netflix.

Elaborate, DeMayo? We shouldn't have to. You and your producer are being paid to know this.

Aro culture is ys I doubt my romantic orientation on daily basis wherever seeing a pretty person but u shd never doubt it for me and comment on it. It’s *my* romantic orientation and *my* right to question it. Mine only.

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The duality of "If you even imply that being aro or ace condemns someone to a sad and lonely life I will fucking fight you"

and

"being aro and ace is the most isolating thing I will ever experience"

CLADISTICS ruined my life

A CROW TRIED TO GO IN OUR CLASSROOM AND HE HAD A PEN

do i want to do that because i really want to do it, or do i just want to change my life drastically?

The aromantic agenda is a good one.

Go and think about what kinds of relationships you want. Don't think about labels like romantic or platonic or sexual, think purely about what relationships would make you happiest.

When I realized I was aromantic, I was asked things like "Would you still date? Would you have a QPR? Will you ever kiss?"

But the aromantic community didn't ask that. Instead, they focused on "What do you want in a world where anything is possible?"

And I realized I want to be alone, surrounded by friends and family I love who are close enough, I can bring them fresh baked scones when I overbake.

They asked me "What do you want?" and the question was so broad, I could weigh labels in my hand like queerplatonic partner and nonpartnering and significant other. I could look at these and shrug and say, "What I want is to not worry about questions I don't care about." I could shelve these indefinitely. Maybe even forever. And just enjoy being myself.

The aromantic community celebrates exploration. Tells people asking if they are aromantic, "This is a personal decision. Your personal decision. If this label helps you, take it. If this community helps you, stay as long as you need. You don't have to be labelled anything, aromantic or otherwise, unless it would bring you comfort. You don't have to be anything you aren't."

It's a good community with good philosophies born from a unique experience, not rooted in missing out, but in being forced to consider what you want when you don't want what's expected.

The balance of

“stop acting like being aro is a great tragedy and that I’m doomed to be sad and alone forever, just because our experiences aren’t the same as yours doesn’t mean our lives are horrible”

and

“stop acting like being aro is easy and stress free because we don’t have to deal with romantic relationship drama, it’s not fun, it’s alienating and hard to navigate a world that has no idea how to reconcile your existence”

Me in fourth grade: I am a god above you all. I have a twelfth grade reading level. I'm one of the two biggest readers in school and everybody knows it. This book? Yeah, I started it yesterday. I finished it today. Yeah it's 600 pages, what about it? You fools are nothing compared to me.

Me now: I can only read fanfiction and comic books. I can't even reread my favourite books. Actually starting a new book? Not happening. Reading is still my favourite activity but I can't do it. I am physically incapable of reading more than ten pages. I had to google how to spell twelfth. My favourite books are all over 1000 pages send help.

Anyone else feels like they overshare everything with others and at the very same time haven’t opened up at all to anyone

what i’d really like is for someone to objectively watch me for a week or so and then just sit down with me for a few hours and explain to me what i am like and how i look to others and what my personality is in detail and how i need to improve where do i sign up for that

part 1

i tried to make a funny but unfortunately i can only make bad puns.

lgballt