I Was In A Workshop The Other Day Where Someone Was Detailing How They, Compared To Others, Show Respect

"Are you even listening?" I have heard this quesion so many times in an angry tone while misundersanding my facial gestures that it will be more upsetting than productive. If you are unsure whether I am listening or not, it's better to ask whether I can process what you are saying or wether I'm in a good head place to listen, rather than asking "are you listening?" Autism or/and ADHD?Problems maintaining eye contact aremore typically associated with Autism, but can be part of ADHD as well. The difference lies in the nuances of how and why you have trouble with it.  With ADHD, it's more of an issue with eye movement control and concentration. We tend to look at distractions more quickly and spend less time concentrating on one thing (e.g. looking you in the face). There is no fail-safe way of interpreting eye-contact.  Eye contact and nodding chances are high I'm actually daydreaming. I'm basically masking my inattention. Looking down When I actively listen, I tend to look down while concentrating on processing words. Looking up I look up while answering and trying to connect your experiences with mine. I fidget when I try to concentrate on listening until the end, so my facial expression might be tense. Doing something with my hands helps me concentrate, so sometimes I play around on my phone.When I know I need to listen carefully, I start doodling to help focus. Sometimes when I daydream, I acccidentally end up giving people the feeling that Ive been staring at them. My eyes jump more rapidly from point to point without really perceiving what I look at.This makes reading harder as well. How you can help me listen: Giving me time to mentally shift from what im doing to listening-mode messaging me when you want to talk to me a space with few distractions knowing what the end goal of what you are saying is knowing what you expect from me keeping my hands busy writings things down so i dont forget repeating keypoints of what was said to focus on listening

I was in a workshop the other day where someone was detailing how they, compared to others, show respect by not fidgeting and keeping eye-contact with people.

So yeah, I felt the need to make this comic.

Keep in mind: This isn't an ADHD specific problem and depending on the nuance, can stem from different areas like anxiety or autism. The eye-contact "issues" with ADHD stem more from impulsive eye-movements (the kind where you are not really looking at anything) and high distractability.

ADHD also has a significant overlap with eye-conditions and some studies suggest that ADHD medication can actually help with some eye-conditions. (Is that why my sight feels more blurry on days off medication?!)

Tags

More Posts from Adina123 and Others

1 year ago

We are almost four weeks into this hell and people still don’t GET IT and it makes me want to pull my hair out, quite honestly. It’s so frustrating that people don’t care to understand why war with Hamas is a necessity because their antisemitism gets in the way. That they are so quick to believe Israel is out there, putting it’s soldiers on the line just to what? Kill more Palestinians? For sport? Like running to the mamad everyday several times a day is fun? Like Israelis are to blame for the fact that Hamas doesn’t care about it’s people enough to safeguard them? Let’s not even get started on the way Jews are being targeted in the diaspora. Way to prove, in your rabid antizionistic fervor, why Israel should and must exist. Jews are safe from persecution nowhere else. You don’t have to post this, I just needed to vent…

"It’s so frustrating that people don’t care to understand why war with Hamas is a necessity"

This, Nonnie. So much this.

TBH, it's not even a necessity, it's just a reality. Hamas has been firing rockets without pause at Israel since Oct 7.

That's an act of war.

It has breached Israel's territory.

That's an act of war.

It did both those things to carry out a massacre of over 1,400 people, while also kidnapping 242 people.

Those actions constitute not just acts of war, they're also war crimes, and crimes against humanity.

That's just reality, and ALL of it was chosen by Hamas. Despite the ceasefire that existed on Oct 6 between Hamas and Israel. Despite Israel providing Gaza with internet, cellular services, 500 daily trucks of aid, water, electricity, fuel and more. Despite tens of thousands of Palestinian workers allowed to enter Israel daily to make more money than they could in Gaza.

It's also a choice by Hamas not to surrender. If they did, if they stopped firing rockets at Israel and returned the hostages, if they agreed to disarm, the war would be over in that moment. Instead, Hamas has declared they're committed to more such massacres in the future ("Al-Aqsa flood" is what Hamas calls the massacre):

People who call for an immediate ceasefire are basically calling on Israel to surrender to Hamas, and sit and wait for the next massacre. It's supporting the intended genocide that Hamas would carry out if (when) it has the means to.

If Israel, a nation still in mourning, not even having had the ability to fully process the trauma of Oct 7, went to fight Hamas in Gaza despite the obvious understanding that even more Israelis, even more young people, would die, that says a lot about the lack of choice that Israelis feel in this matter.

I hope you're doing okay, Nonnie! Take care of yourself, and don't hesitate to update me. xoxox

(for all of my updates and ask replies regarding Israel, click here)

1 year ago

I like to think that the gods are living in modern day but they dress in clothes from their favorite time periods

they have all lived for a very long time and they have seen many fashion trends come and go but even as the time passes and fashion evolves they keep the bits they like while adding details that hint at their domains

Jimmy is a cowboy attending a funeral

oli is a medieval bard that has crazy neon colors the bards of the past didn’t have access to in there time

Joel is a Roman toga but a little modernized and artistic

the most up to date with clothes is probably scott he represents the passing of time so he changes his clothes more frequently but not to keep up with

False changes often as well but not to keep up with the trend but instead as the goddess of adventure she loves to try new things and takes inspiration from many different periods she never dresses the same twice but even then she is very practical and casual only choosing to wear clothes she can move around in

Most of them choose a style and stick to it for decades until something new catches their interest

Scott who’s is intertwined within the passing of time changes so his clothes more frequently but not as much as false

pix has the oldest style that doesn’t require him to show a lot of skin probably from Babylon or something really old

so they are very mismatched and look as if they were plucked out wildly different time periods

@weird-king-eli

Empires smp god au

Pearl Goddess of the harvest and farming her title was literally the farmer pearl and in the past people kept track of harvest by looking at the phases of the moon and positioning of the constellations

Lizzie the trickster goddess of the ocean and government ocean because in season one she was a fish goddess and government because in season two she was a mayor and in both she is a scam artist trying to make a profit through morality ambiguous means

Joel god of thunder and art in canon he is the god of thunder and if anyone in empires was a art god it would be the guy that sculpted clones of himself and built stratos/mezalia

Katherine goddess order and balance and duality she fights evil by transforming from the pretty pink princess to the axe wielding warrior and as lady Katherine of the overgrown she is the one that is neutral the one that Try’s to keep order

Jimmy is The god of death for obvious reasons

Joey is the god of wealth and desire because he is a pirate and pirates like gold also he steals from false and really wants to get in xornoth s pants he also Katherine’s (understandable)

Shubble is the goddess of nature and the wild because her whole wolf thing she had going on in the first season of empires and the infected outlaw thing she had in season 2

Scott god of the passage of time and the four seasons (and rainbows) because he has connections to flowers (spring) in life series and stars in origin smp and winter in empires smp

Pix god of messengers and prophecies( he is in charge of the recaps that gives people information they might have missed also he is a prophet)

Fwhip god of fire and revenge because in both seasons of empires he has had a stubborn heated rivalry with jimmy and did not take the break up well also in art his hair is fire truck red

Gem goddess knowledge and magic because she as the wizard gem she is a powerful magician and because as the princess of dawn she teaches others about the sun god also the wizard gems empire is literally a school

Sausage love and family and lust because he is know for his platonic love (Hermes and Eddie and pearl) and let’s say his passionate spicy love( pole dancing and flirting)

Oli god of music and insanity he is a bard and who’s words make zero sense to everyone and watching him you get sensory overload ( he is the oldest but nobody believes him)

false goddess of mystery and adventure and new beginnings because she is lost her memory and is a very adventurous person also do to the lost memories she basically started from square one when she came to empires


Tags
1 year ago

Gemcyt weapon headcanons

Lizzie has a whip that she wears around her waist and it looks like a cat tail 

Joel has Roman Gladius sword that shoots lightning like how in canon pearl can shoot a laser out of her spear and of course he can make clones of him self that can also wield a sword once he gives one to them

Jimmy has a giant shield like captain America but it’s shaped like an uno card he has a hard time lugging it around so he usually resorts to water manipulation which he is also very bad at 

Scott has a rapier that can freeze stuff with a gem stone that can change shades of blue 

Grian can make little bombs and big bombs 

Etho has ninja stars

Ren has claws

Pearl has an edgy scythe 

And Scar has a gun 


Tags
2 years ago

Empires smp season 2 sheriff jimmy headcannon 

My headcannon is that as a child jimmy was a homeless orphan ignored by everyone

After his mother died he lost hope and just focus on staying alive until one day a group of kids visited the village it was big news and everyone came out to see the sight because the kids that visited where royalty from far off kingdoms future rulers 

Jimmy saw how everyone stopped what they where doing just so they could get a glimpse of the promising youngsters and he was struck with longing to be noticed like them

 From that day onward he made it his goal to become an emperor so people would love him like his mother used to 

he dreamed up tumble town a place where he wouldn’t be an outcast and where people would respect him 

He chose to settle in a dessert because in the town when it would rain due to not having a shelter he would get soaked and his belongings would risk being ruined 

Because he was homeless he never when to school he only recently learned to read 

In the town where he grew up there was a very wealthy family that had a young daughter named kirsty 

kirsty was always told by her snobby parents to stay faraway from the dirty scrawny kid she would see sometimes around town and she did as she was told until one day she got lost in the woods she was scared and alone but then she found a cave in the cave was jimmy’s “home” she didn’t question it she was taught not to question anything if it benefited her 

She took a look around and found many things food taken from the garbage, a poorly made cowboy hat and drawings of a sherif surrounded by townsfolk and adorned by them all

Then Jimmy returned at first he was embarrassed but then she started to ask about his plans and he started sharing the two of them talked until the Time came for him to show her back but that wasn’t the end of there friendship it was just the beginning 

Kirsty would stop by whenever she could not telling her parents of course they would approve of her friend she was supposed to be learning to be proper lady a perfect example of a southern bell in the making not out climbing trees or digging in trash for food and other things to help jimmy 

as the days went by she started to feel trapped jimmys enthusiasm inspired her his want for more made her want more

She encouraged jimmy to share his plans with others they started to recruit people Jimmys passion of infectious 

Soon enough they started to put the plan into motion kirsty funded most of it but the others helped to so the pioneers set out to create tumble town 

 Jimmy has dedicated his life to tumble town and as you can imagine is terrified he will be replaced and cast out once again after all he was the outsider that went from the bottom straight to the top 

he over works himself a lot trying to build the buildings and do all the paperwork so he doesn’t have to ask others because he feels he might loose their support and they will leave if he oversteps and pushes them away 

I headcanon Joel to be the opposite he was born into health and and influence he much like kirsty was excepted to be a dignified and perfect from birth 

Once he was put in charge he was finally free to do what he wanted he was like those kids that are super restricted and when they rebel they go way overboard 

So Jimmy and joel are complete opposite 

one had responsibility and devotion thrust onto him and the other had to fight tooth and nail for it 

one craves the approval of other while the other stopped caring about what others think a long time ago 


Tags
1 year ago

I always thought that in a Gemcyt au mumza would be one of the diamonds and knowing that in @sixteenth-days fic lizzie is pink diamond I have a cool idea 

one character from empire 

one character from dream smp 

and one character from hermitcraft 

They could be 3 of 4 diamonds 

Since in empires season one lore lizzie was a demigod and Kristin is a goddess I think the choice for the hermit diamond should also have a popular divine interpretation within the fandom 

My problem is that I don’t know a lot about hermitcraft so in the past when I thought about it I just put grian in the role because he was a watcher which is an other worldly being that is kinda a god  

But he is an aquamarine so I would appreciate if hermitcraft enjoyers could share their ideas and say if any body else aside from grian has a popular headcanon where they are a god or something 

2 years ago

Empires smp monster high au 

jimmy is a combination of honey swamps and Venus mcflytrap 

instead of honeys southern belle theme he goes for a cowboy theme 

he was raised in a swamp away from both normies and monsters he was a wild child before going to monster high 

so to summarize he’s a fishy slimy plant monster with a cowboy boy inspired style and terrible social skills 

Lizzie is just like Posea Reef and is the daughter Poseidon 

she has shiny blue scales covering her skin and bright pink hair and she is very tall 

she is a half human that was raised amongst normies so the monster thing is new to her she used to look different so the change in appearance and instincts freaks her out when she thinks about it to hard 

so to summarize shes an out of her depth neon demigoddess that just grew gills one day 

joel is a descendent of dr hyde like Jackson 

he transforms into a monster sometimes and his monster self is empires season 2 Joel 

He’s not a god but he’s made out of stone with stone skin like Rochelle Goyle the gargoyle

he looks like a Greek statue brought to life with glowing electric green hair and lightning powers instead of fire 

like Jackson joel doesn’t know he’s a monster and like in cannon even when given proof he doesn’t believe it he believes in monsters and goes to monster high but he refuses to believe he’s a monster 

instead of being a scientist like his ancestors he is an artist 

to summarize he’s a normal dude that goes to monster high or so he thinks he’s keeping a very shock secret from himself 

the three bond over feeling like outcast 

Lizzie and joel also can relate to each others changing bodies they make normie references and teach Jimmy about normie and monster social norms 

Lizzie and jimmy bond over being fish and become seablings 

jimmy and joel have known each other longer but not by much Lizzie only stated at monster high in the middle of the year but before that joel was ignored because he was a normie and Jimmy who didn’t know why everybody was ignoring him decided to become his friend 


Tags
2 years ago

So I remember it was said somewhere that the emperor’s are people that devoted themselves to the land and in return the land made it so they had infinite lives and the ability to build and had access to big portable inventories and could directly contact the other emperor’s it makes so much sense it explains why a lot of the emperor’s aren’t even rulers 

This makes me interested in jimmy who is a sheriff of a town with no citizens but still was made the emperor and maintains the land even Though when you think about it he seems like a questionable choice for emperor so i wonder what the requirements are 

when jimmy took a bed out of his inventory the old sheriff was shocked and asked where it came from that combined with his being trapped for so long when he could have just made himself loose his hearts and respawn somewhere else makes me think he wasn’t a emperor 

The lack of clarity on the requirements makes me worried for jimmy he has Terrible diplomatic relations with the other empires and that might have been ok if the reason for it was to focus on other things in tumble town that took priority but instead The reason is he’s getting into disagreements and making enemies he is doing worse than nothing he is hindering the advancement of The land setting them back and adding to that most of the stuff in town wasn’t even built by him and building from what I can gather is one of the most important responsibilities of an emperor 

I think in the eyes of the semi sentient mesa he’s hanging by a thread his being the only person who lives there and his absolute devotion to tumble town is probably the only reason he’s still got the connection 

Going back to what I said about the old sheriff since he wasn’t an emperor then that must mean that the land didn’t approve of his very questionable methods and those are the same questionable methods he advised Jimmy to use and jimmy has taken the lessons to heart we know he is going to implement those methods and that just might be the straw that breaks the camels back 

My prediction is that this storyline is leading up to the end of season 2 season 1 ended when jimmy accidentally caused the destruction of most of the empires including his own which resulted in him loosing his title so In contrast season 2 jimmy will lose his title and lose his mind as a result he will rage and seek revenge to focused on his plan to destroy the other empires that he doesn’t think about what happens after he succeeds so this time he intentionally causes the destruction of the empires and like last time lives to regret it 

bonus points if fwhip also plays a part like in season 1 it would make sense for fwhip to be there because he and jimmy’s stories this season are so intertwined just like before

I feel bad for the sheriff and the codfather and whoever comes next the pattern has made it’s self known even in empires a smp where no one gets a permanent happy ending and each season ends in tragedy only to be reborn and repeated again and again it’s jimmy that gets the short end of the stick doomed to end the world and start off the next season


Tags
1 year ago

I love Lizzie’s and Katherine’s 

and jimmy’s is perfect 

god au doodles :O

God Au Doodles :O

i’m pretty proud of this one actually

god au by @adina123

variations of scott’s hair :D

God Au Doodles :O
God Au Doodles :O
God Au Doodles :O
God Au Doodles :O
God Au Doodles :O
God Au Doodles :O
God Au Doodles :O
God Au Doodles :O

Tags
1 year ago

It just kills me when writers create franchises where like 95% of the speaking roles are male, then get morally offended that all of the popular ships are gay. It’s like, what did they expect?

1 year ago

Mcyt pony au ldshadowlady

Lizzies name is pink lady apple and is apart of the apple family

her cutie mark is a coin with an apple on it and she knows that people will look at her very unsubtle mark and will conclude that she’s only after money and it will be bad for business so she covers it up

potential color schemes

Mcyt Pony Au Ldshadowlady
Mcyt Pony Au Ldshadowlady
Mcyt Pony Au Ldshadowlady

Inspired by @cheerioskid and @crowswithhorns


Tags
Loading...
End of content
No more pages to load
  • aliendun123
    aliendun123 reblogged this · 1 month ago
  • aliendun123
    aliendun123 liked this · 1 month ago
  • ignored-blob
    ignored-blob liked this · 1 month ago
  • camidrahasmt
    camidrahasmt liked this · 1 month ago
  • kindlecorner
    kindlecorner liked this · 1 month ago
  • gentlemanjulia
    gentlemanjulia liked this · 1 month ago
  • pudl-e
    pudl-e liked this · 2 months ago
  • uptheantares
    uptheantares liked this · 2 months ago
  • andrikq
    andrikq liked this · 2 months ago
  • unknownhyperial
    unknownhyperial liked this · 2 months ago
  • certifiedfool
    certifiedfool liked this · 2 months ago
  • starshine331
    starshine331 reblogged this · 2 months ago
  • platonicallylovesick
    platonicallylovesick liked this · 2 months ago
  • ajduwvf
    ajduwvf liked this · 3 months ago
  • sufferingplant
    sufferingplant liked this · 3 months ago
  • dreamslikehenny
    dreamslikehenny liked this · 3 months ago
  • canadda-uk
    canadda-uk reblogged this · 3 months ago
  • browneyedmergirl
    browneyedmergirl liked this · 3 months ago
  • haruka08
    haruka08 reblogged this · 3 months ago
  • kays244
    kays244 liked this · 3 months ago
  • klemencydrake
    klemencydrake liked this · 3 months ago
  • honeebunnee
    honeebunnee reblogged this · 3 months ago
  • honeebunnee
    honeebunnee liked this · 3 months ago
  • wednesdaykit
    wednesdaykit liked this · 3 months ago
  • renee-creates
    renee-creates reblogged this · 3 months ago
  • renee-creates
    renee-creates liked this · 3 months ago
  • tintagombart
    tintagombart liked this · 3 months ago
  • auntie-writes
    auntie-writes liked this · 3 months ago
  • randomyoutube
    randomyoutube reblogged this · 4 months ago
  • lucykuro
    lucykuro liked this · 4 months ago
  • robincherrytree
    robincherrytree liked this · 4 months ago
  • shrcker
    shrcker liked this · 4 months ago
  • back-formation
    back-formation liked this · 4 months ago
  • aboutblankpages-blog-blog
    aboutblankpages-blog-blog liked this · 4 months ago
  • lady21winter
    lady21winter liked this · 4 months ago
  • leechaha
    leechaha liked this · 4 months ago
  • ek-tou-idatos
    ek-tou-idatos liked this · 4 months ago
  • voorhesfriday
    voorhesfriday liked this · 5 months ago
  • dikdikpronouncedxylophone
    dikdikpronouncedxylophone liked this · 5 months ago
  • b10h4z4rd
    b10h4z4rd liked this · 5 months ago
  • your-bouquet
    your-bouquet liked this · 5 months ago
  • jabbajacks
    jabbajacks liked this · 5 months ago
  • maolonq
    maolonq liked this · 5 months ago
  • selemercy
    selemercy liked this · 6 months ago
  • k-constance-s-blog
    k-constance-s-blog liked this · 6 months ago
  • splittingpotenzial
    splittingpotenzial liked this · 6 months ago
  • backys-things
    backys-things liked this · 6 months ago
  • tattle-tayler
    tattle-tayler reblogged this · 6 months ago
  • tattle-tayler
    tattle-tayler liked this · 6 months ago
  • kerizaret
    kerizaret liked this · 6 months ago
adina123 - Fandom ideas
Fandom ideas

231 posts

Explore Tumblr Blog
Search Through Tumblr Tags