Where Every Scroll is a New Adventure
All of this.
We knew we had ADHDbrain *long* before diagnosis.
We knew we had BPD *long* before even all the symptoms were showing.
We knew we even were Multiple v. early on (but were gaslit by psychiatry).
You know you better than anyone else.
Gatekeeping culture is like: “don’t get your information online it’s too easy😡!!!” Then offer “find research papers online it’s really easy🙄”
Then block you.
Self diagnosing isn’t TikTok videos and random blogs. It’s literally months to years of research. There’s a lot of reasons why someone can’t get professionally diagnosed.
Misdiagnoses happen a lot
People aren’t taken seriously
It’s expensive asf
Its inaccessible
People want to adopt
People want the right to their bodily autonomy
I’m disappointed when I go online and see my bullies are now nurses. That’s kinda the same thing when I go on here and see professionally diagnosed people who shit on undiagnosed for posting coping mechanisms.
Stop calling people “the problem” for coping. The real issue is people who post any “if you have these… you might have” THATS DANGEROUS. what isn’t dangerous is:
Finding coping mechanisms
Find organization tools to function
Therapy
Talking about experiences
Researching extensively on traits
Documenting
Unmasking
Printing off quizzes or research articles from well established resources (Embracing Autism, ASAN, AIM, awn network, A4A)
Stimming (if it isn’t harming)
Advocating for diagnosis is one thing. Being a bully online is another. It’s a disability not a quirk, a lot of self diagnosed people know it’s a disability. We can identify the actual problems in the self diagnosing community but a lot of us aren’t those.
We’re valid
About medical attention and being the first to believe to yourself.
Some of us form into ppl pleasers due to certain circumstances. Sometimes it is even hard to tell what do you feel if nobody believes you you feel this way. Than, if unfortunately you become ill, if nobody believes you... You might accidentally believe them instead of yourself. But our body is wise, and it gives emotional and physical signals to our brain with a reason! No one is living this life from your first day to your last day, in your shoes, in your skin - except YOU. You have the widest perspective on your life story. Only you live and feel the consequences of believing them and abandoning yourself. And it is not your fault, it is all you have known till that moment. Please forgive yourself, because... At any moment you have the choice to be the first human being on earth to believe you, to be by your side. I don't know if it would help, but I am alread believing you. Everything you have gone through, any emotion and sensation you have - it all makes perfect sense to me, it is important, it deserves to be seen and respected. So if you don't get the right medical attention, please don't stop searching for better options. Even if you need to pause for such long period of time to regain trust, to save money if possible... The moment you can, please keep moving forward, because YOU deserve to find those kind compassionate allies in life - who will care, who will listen, who will help without making you smaller than the equal human being you are. Because your essence is awsome and you deserve to get the help you need ❤️