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What’s the Game Plan?

Disclaimer: This is purely for me, do not come on here with any judgement about how I’m choosing to conduct business. If you see anything here that might be helpful to you, then by all means, implement it. If not, move on.

Escorting Persona

Changing (Back) My Wardrobe

I’m going back to dressing how I normally did when I was freestyling and just in my regular life for events and such. Dressing how I originally did. Time to bring out the Victoria Beckham, Cushnie et Ochs, Brandon Maxwell, Milly, Roksanda, Stella McCartney, and Jason Wu pieces that have been just sitting in my closet. I’m also going to hold back on certain shoes because they look so trashy now.

New Photos & Photography Styles

Black Lotus — For sultry images. Will be doing in the next 2 months with very dark and classic pieces.

AT Glamour London — For glossy and polished photos. He’s lovely to work with and I can’t wait to collaborate with him again. I can’t use the past photos he shot of me (even though they’re sooo amazing) for privacy reasons. I’ll be doing so when next in London in the next couple of months.

Hello Miss - For the really light and vibrant style. I’ve sort of just missed his Canadian tour since I was away. He’s still available for another week, but our schedules are conflicting, it’ll have to be if he’s back next year (unless I tour Australia early next year).

Inamorata Photo - For the pov aesthetic. Specifically “The Date” package. I’m thinking February 2020 since I’ll definitely be in NYC.

Strategic Engagement

I currently try to follow all SW’s that follow me, however I really can’t relate to some of the content on my timeline. I feel like it comes across as rude to not follow back a SW that follows you, and I feel almost guilted into following back girls that are new and have no following. I genuinely would love to RT and support everyone, but some of the content does not match up with my intended branding and I’m 1) not trying to get shadowbanned for RTing nudity/profanity/pretty much anything that goes again twitter guidelines and 2) the content is not something that MY targeted audience would appreciate or interact with. Yes, this totally sounds like a whorearchy thing, and maybe it is. I feel like no one is willing to admit it, but I simply can’t relate to a lot of the people on the platform. As terrible as it sounds, I have to stop interacting indiscriminately. Perhaps I should start utilizing the mute button.

Advertising

I still have to figure this one out since I’m not a fan of advertising. I made a lot last year and I basically never advertised. A good chunk of my income this year has come from monthly “arrangements”, my regular clients that I met last year from not-advertising, and touring Asia & Europe. I’m thinking I’d like to start advertising in the US as a large percentage of my North American clients are from the US and far outweigh my clients from Canada. However, the well known sites are not an option for me considering there are raids with Eros and I’m not interested in providing my ID to multiple sites. Tryst works locally and in Asia, but it’s otherwise useless elsewhere. Slixa is a waste of time and gets almost no traffic, plus they’re very discriminatory (that’s a conversation for another day). I really like Scarlet Blue for when I’m touring Asia & Europe. I got the required vouches for P411 but I’m not sure if I want to give up my ID to use it; I’ve heard varying feedback and opinions from providers, some love it and others absolutely loathe it. I also can’t guarantee that they won’t have the same issue as Eros or TER. At this point, Twitter might be my best bet which brings me back to my dilemma of hating social media. However, I’ll try my best to push out content and build a following.

Escorting and Social Climbing

Touring Internationally For Events

This is general advice and can be implemented by anyone. It’s tried and true, I did this. This, by far, has been the most lucrative aspect of this industry. It’s extremely tiring both physically and psychologically, but last year I toured for 2 months, took a two month break, then toured for another 4 months; I was basically a shell of myself by the end, but I made a tremendous amount of money and made great connections for personal life and work life. I did a similar thing this year, but the longest I’ve gone is a month and a half straight without a break, and I think for my own sanity I’ll try not to over exert myself going forward. I’ll probably make a separate post about touring.

One thing to keep in mind, touring is VERY expensive. Not only are you paying (or getting someone else to pay) for flights and accommodations, but you’re also paying to get into these events. There are expenses attached to going out to meet people. You can’t just go and stay in your hotel room all day. The only reason I can justify spending what I spend is because I almost always make back 4x what I spent, typically more.

Touring somewhere specific two or three times, possibly more, is a good idea. Once when there’s a known event or influx, and another time when it’s devoid of travellers or event-goers. I’ll give examples of what I did last year and this year. For Singapore, go during April for the Yacht Show, in September for the Grand Prix, and then also going in June/July and November when there is essentially nothing going on aside from locals, expats and business travellers.

Try to diversify where you go and coordinate the events so you can constantly tour for prolonged periods of time. If you’re crazy like me, you can try this and I guarantee you’ll make an absolute killing. In fact, this is pretty much all I’ve done this year and I’m making good money. Expect to be away for 2-3 weeks. Go to Hong Kong end of March for Art Basel, head to Singapore afterwards for Yacht Show. You can go back home at this point to rest and gather yourself and prepare for the next phase. Expect to be away for 4-10 weeks. Head to Cannes/Monaco for the Film Festival and Grand Prix. Head to Paris straight afterward for the French Open. Take a one week break then head to Switzerland for Art Basel. Take a 2 or 3 day break then head to London for Royal Ascot and overall heauxing in the city. Take another one week break then head to Paris for HCFW. Leave on the last day and head back to London for Wimbledon. By the end, that will have been about 8-9 weeks. You can vacation or just go home at this point. I came home after Wimbledon this year and didn’t work for the rest of July or August. Basically, this has proven to work since I’ve don’t it twice so I’m thinking I’ll be implementing it again for next year and possibly the year after if I’m still in the industry.

More After I Exit

Attending Events For Personal Reasons

TED is something I’ve been going to for fun and because I personally enjoy it. It’s mostly dominated by men and they’re everywhere. A lot of people within tech and other industries. I’ve met a few “clients”, who don’t know they’re clients through attending. It’s somewhat of a mistress or part-time girlfriend situation with them. I want to start attending more conferences and events of this nature. I’m going to look into doing anything having to do with the non-profits, NGO’s, and charities. I’ll have to find a way to attend more galas and invite-only fundraisers. This is, however, more for social climbing for personal and business relationships.

I’m so scared to tour. The thought of being alone in another state scares me. But I want some REAL money and my city is such a cheapskate

My asshole hurts 😕

The Jetsetting chick and IT girl guide

This is a guide for girls wanting whale daddies and long term relationships or to live like a Russian IT girl. This is for girls who are interested in the jetset lifestyle. Yachts, parties, international travel and galas.Who want to do more than date men.This is by no means easy. And not for the faint of heart

1. You

You are your biggest investment. And if you want investment then you invest in yourself!!!!You’re much more likely to go to a store that is clean and presentable cause it shows they’ve actually put effort into making the place look decent for customers. Same with you.

You are best your asset so read the following

2. Your look

Looks matter. But you don’t have to be beautiful, just attractive and captivating. We all like things that appeal to our senses. Notice how some dudes have fetishes for legs, heels, tight dresses and long hair, that’s how powerful the physical is!

Ideally, you are likely to be a show stopper, luxurious flowing hair, good skin, you look amazing in your fitted clothing and your body looks great. You dress to accentuate your best features. You do not neglect details and your nails,makeup and scent are on fleek. You look expensive and alluring.

3. Career

A lot of your mega successful SB’s hide behind their businesses and careers.Most successful men are career driven so this is a fairly easy way to meet them & owning a business no matter how small gives you endless excuses to go to networking events and business socials all over the globe.

 Any job can be turned into a goldmine Here are some industries and careers you can look into.

Real estate/property

Makeup and fashion

Chef and waitress

Realtor, designer

Personal shopper

Air hostess

Dancer and musician

Hair stylist

Adult entertainment(stripping for example)

Personal assistant

Oil and gas industry

Hostess

Jobs in business district

4. Socialize

Socializing is at the heart of everything. Knowing the right people is essential if you want to get invited to a yacht party in France.

A lot of these sites are trashy and the men have no tangible assets. It is not like it used to be. These men often do not live lavishly. Do what Russian women do and go outside. They practically plant their selves where rich guys are. They’re not sat down waiting for a inbox message. Its basic mathematics, the more options, the more chance you stand of getting what you want. Your social life needs to be a daily thing. You could

Go to auctions

Exclusive nightclubs

Take art classes

Volunteer

Get involved with local politics

Visit country/ private members clubs

Investment seminars

Dine and drink in exclusives wealthy areas

Learn sailing, assistant, skiing, tennis, golf

Black tie events- make an effort to go to galas, races and balls

Opera, galleries, theater and ballet

Move, travel and or live a wealthy area

Gyms in rich areas

Dance classes -some rich folk love to dance

Art classes

Hotel bars

Upscale supermarkets

5. Perceived value

You need to be good at something. It is a market place out here. We are conditioned to want the best and be surrounded by it. And when you’re someone who is successful, you’re gonna be drawn to success in others

Put yourself and talents on the limelight. If you are beautiful and tend to stand out, act as if you are the perfect eyecandy. Maybe you are domineering and bossy which may be a good thing for someone tired of having their ass kissed all day.Maybe you are super intelligent and a real  delight to a hardcore scholar.If you are super funny and nice to be with, show it off. Own the hell out of your skills and best attributes and you’ll attract the right people, It has been proven time and time again that’s there’s no real different between some expensive brands and regular ones. Only the perceived value.

Your reputation, attributes and persona makes your perceived value. act royal , get treated royal

6. Fit in

Ancient courtesans groomed their selves to fit in with the upper echelon. They would train for months to years. Nobody questioned their motives cause did what the rich did and as a result became one of them. They were often accepted into the toughest of circles and able to gain access to wealthiest of men for this reason.

Learn luxury living inside out. Learn about watches, cars, property and expensive and fancy shit.Eat what the rich eat if you can afford to. Go where they go. Party where they party. Read what they read.Don’t lie and say you’re accustomed to luxury living when you don’t know your Chanel from Cartier. Which brings me to….

7. Etiquette

Learn how to speak, act and present yourself. Learn your basic etiquette. You’ll be amazed at how simple things can be perceived as rude or classless.Always be learning and be in motion. Learn several subjects and do courses. Expand your vocabulary.

8. Social skills

You need to master social skills from eye contact to tone of voice. You need or be an amazing conservator. You need to learn how to diffuse tension.You need to be friendly and approachable, You need to be able to discuss some topics with  passion at any one time.

Then you can move on to heavier things like manipulation, seduction and persuasion.

9. You

don’t force yourself into a lifestyle you may not enjoy.Take care of number one. always take time off to look after yourself.You don’t need a man to live a fancy lifestyle, you may just want to network.

I usually don’t do younger clients but this 30 year old black client blew my back the fuck out 🥵

He was attractive too. I lowkey want more of him

Trust no bitch,

Trust no sex worker,

Trust no one.

10 Questions to Ask a Pot, BEFORE Starting an Arrangement:

Its more common than we admit, that when we first begin to communicate with a “rich and generous” Pot, that we tend to tread lightly as we don’t want to (or are scared to) rock the boat. In my opinion, thats just bullshit. If I’m putting my time, my body, safety, energy, goals and dreams, plus my physical and mental health on the line, you better believe I want some answers first before crossing any lines and agreeing to any arrangement.

It’s important to ask thought provoking questions (not just the make-us-look-cute-small-talk kinda questions) and to really pay attention to their responses. Are they sincere, well thought out and organized answers or are they taking pick-up lines straight out of a book that could possibly be called “How To Get Laid For Free”

If I was talking to a Pot (or any man or woman at any stage) and they were offended/outraged or even hesitant to answer any of the questions listed below…that would give me something to think about. After-all, its not like I would be asking them to start a formal judicial hearing…I just want to know what I’d be getting myself into. Plain and simple.

1) Why are you looking for a Sugar Baby, and not a girlfriend?

* Maybe he doesn’t fully realize what a Sugar Baby is, and just thinks you’ll be a girlfriend that he has to pay for all your dinners together and get the popcorn while you’re out at the movies? It’s happened before. This is a simple way to put it out there, that there is going to be a definite difference between you and a girlfriend.

2) So far, (because its still new) what is your favourite aspect about me?

* This is important. If he is blunt and says “its your intelligence”, then go get some current news articles, or popular and classic books and stay informed my friend! If he says “its your athletic ability”, take him out to play beach volleyball on a nice day, or go to the gym together for a date. If he says “its your chest”…well then, that’s up to you to either play it up or smack him. In my opinion, I would do whatever I felt worked to keep him hooked…but without affecting my self esteem or self worth. His role is to help lift you up in life, not hold you down.

3) What are 3 passions that you used to enjoy and what are some new ones that you currently do?

* This will give you an opportunity to enliven some of your dates by sharing his past passions with him, and by making sure that even if you don’t enjoy his current ones…that you make the effort to either watch or participate in them for him. He will feel valued and it’ll help strengthen your bond if you can connect with things that he enjoys. Who knows, maybe he has given up on certain passions in life because his wife or current girlfriend hates them. It’s an easy and fun “in” for you.

4) What goals are you working towards now?

* A man without a goal(s) is a scary thing. There is not one person in this world who can honestly say that they have completed all of their life’s goals and can now sit on their butt, twiddling their thumbs for the rest of their life. Goals do not need to glamorous, extensive or expensive. They can be the very smallest of things, but to me, a person without a goal has no drive, lacks motivation and doesn’t have that “gusto” in life that I’m looking for. PLUS, if someone has no goals or lacks the desire to create one…how can I expect them to be understanding of, and to support me in achieving mine?

5) If we were ever seen out in public together, how would you want me to handle the situation. What could I expect from you?

* I have had this talk before with my SD, and thankfully so! There have been times where we have been out together and we have run into (or close to it) someone that we knew. Thankfully we don’t play in the same social circles, so it helps to limit our chances. One of our easiest “cover stories” is manageable because I am his daughters age. If someone comes up to us, I politely say something like this “Oh, I’ve kept you long enough. Please tell Tina that I said hi, and it was nice running into you!” And then I politely make my way somewhere else and just send him a text of where I am or whatever it is that I’ll be doing to keep me busy until he is in the clear. And I wait patiently. I do not send 20 texts and carry on a conversation with him. At this point in the game of privacy…I no longer exist, right ladies?

6) If we were to have a “sleep over”, would you be ok with me taking some time to myself? What do you feel would be an appropriate amount of time to ourselves before coming back together?

* Trust me, if you’re like me, you’ll want your own space so that you have time to relax, unwind, clean up, catch up on texts/messages, have a nap, enjoy a tea etc. He may be the type of person who doesn’t want or need to have time apart, but that doesn’t mean that you should hide/ignore your need for some space. If you do not have some sort of understanding beforehand, it could get ugly if you begin to get annoyed at or with him. I most definitely need my “me” time and I’m very upfront about it. Its simply easier to have the conversation and expectations agreed to BEFORE you decide to spend 24 hours together.

7) When we text, are there certain words/language/innuendos that you’d prefer to avoid?

* If he is the “nervous first time SD” or if he has a curious wife/spouse, you may need to help him feel at ease, by stating that you respect this part of your arrangement and that you want to work with him to keep any suspicions to a minimum. It could help to relax you and him, if you both know what the rules and expectations are when communicating. You don’t want to be saying things like “Ok sweetie, I’ll see you tomorrow and I’ll wear the red dress you bought me. XO”…and his wife has access to his phone. That could back fire on you both, not just him. It’s simple and easy to create code words/sentences. For example: if you want to say “Thinking of you, good night”, you could say something like “I’ll see what Jackson says tomorrow”. And you’ll both know what it really means, and if anyone happens to pick up his phone and read it, its harmless and safer to cover/explain.

Remember not to take it personal that you are a hidden aspect to his life, that sometimes you’re simply not allowed to exist, that you are a “secret”…because you are. Do you want him as an SD or not? There are just some things that we need to put our pride aside for and do to keep their lives running smoothly, so that our lives do as well.

8) If I ever needed extra financial help, for whatever reason, and I felt that I wanted/needed to ask you for your assistance, how would you prefer me to ask? Subtly or straight to the point?

* Some men are turned off by feeling like a bank machine, while others get turned on by it. It’s important to know which kind of response you could expect from him by asking for extra help. This way, you’ll have a better idea of how best to use your allowance when you get it. If he’s not the easy going-extra-help-kinda-guy, there is nothing wrong with that at all…it simply means that you need to prioritize your wants over needs and use your allowance, or money that he does give to you, responsibly.

Some arrangements have more wiggle room for “extras” while others are based on strict numbers and rules. If you do feel that you are going to ask for extra support…start small and assess his responses/reactions to you. You’ll get a feel of whether you should push the boundaries or simply enjoy the benefits of what you already share with him. “Don’t throw away a dime in search of 10 pennies”.

9) What is the safest way for you to give me my allowance, so that you don’t feel stressed each month in trying to hide it from your wife/girlfriend?

* If he doesn’t know what’s the safest way, he may be a ping-pong ball while he uses/tries different methods and amounts, until he can get it all figured out. This actually does take some time to plan safely and effectively, and most new SD’s don’t give it the due planning that it requires. Are you going to be patient and understanding with him? Or are you going to start heckling him and demanding quicker transactions? Either way, it’s best to have a conversation about it, and get it all sorted out before your allowance day arrives, and you have 3 bills to pay…while you’re waiting for him to do a google search on “email transfers”.

10) I recently watched a documentary on the Sex Industry and I’d like to hear your thoughts and opinions on both those who offer their services and on those who seek them?

* This is an easy opener to get the ball rolling for more questions on this topic. It will also give you some insight into his biases, narcissism and his general opinion on where you stand in your “arrangement” with him. Is he negative towards the Sex Industry or is he a whatever floats your boat kinda guy?

So…that about sums it up for today!

Of course, I realize that there are a ton of other questions that you could ask a Pot/SD etc, that all relate to things like allowance amount, allowance frequency, sexual expectations, gifts or no gifts, sexual health history, previous Sugar arrangements, any marital issues that he is seeking your comfort/assistance for etc etc, but at some point I need to stop today lol. I’m actually missing one of my favourite shows to write this. So, I hope that this list helps in some teeny-tiny way, and if anything, it gets your mind thinking of other possible scenarios that you may want to consider before agreeing to an arrangement with anyone.

Good luck ;)

I went from wanting to be married, pregnant, and with a mortgage by the age of 30 to wanting to be a business woman with 2 fully paid houses and $1 million in liquid by the time I’m 30. Fuck the idea that women have to live the suburban dream and have a timer to do so.

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