INFP's Flaws

oh my fucking god can we kill the whole thing of “platonic friends don’t DO that!” shut UP oh my god. fuck offfff pleaseeee <33333 platonic friends can be the most important people in the world to each other, platonic friends can think about each other a lot and be inspired by each other and choose to live for each other and be possessive in life or death situations and be intense i’m so tired of people acting like platonic friendships can’t be that i’m tired of them being viewed as less as!! this is exactly what i mean when i say platonic relationships are not less than romantic ones!!!!!!!! and i’m so so tired of people misinterpreting that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! fuck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The aromantic agenda is a good one.

Go and think about what kinds of relationships you want. Don't think about labels like romantic or platonic or sexual, think purely about what relationships would make you happiest.

When I realized I was aromantic, I was asked things like "Would you still date? Would you have a QPR? Will you ever kiss?"

But the aromantic community didn't ask that. Instead, they focused on "What do you want in a world where anything is possible?"

And I realized I want to be alone, surrounded by friends and family I love who are close enough, I can bring them fresh baked scones when I overbake.

They asked me "What do you want?" and the question was so broad, I could weigh labels in my hand like queerplatonic partner and nonpartnering and significant other. I could look at these and shrug and say, "What I want is to not worry about questions I don't care about." I could shelve these indefinitely. Maybe even forever. And just enjoy being myself.

The aromantic community celebrates exploration. Tells people asking if they are aromantic, "This is a personal decision. Your personal decision. If this label helps you, take it. If this community helps you, stay as long as you need. You don't have to be labelled anything, aromantic or otherwise, unless it would bring you comfort. You don't have to be anything you aren't."

It's a good community with good philosophies born from a unique experience, not rooted in missing out, but in being forced to consider what you want when you don't want what's expected.

Remember in 1993 when Jurassic Park was like…the end all, be all of special effects?

fat frog wednesday

bonus:

part 1

actually fuck this im gonna walk into the deep sea and never come back. bye

Small aro rant

Pls! My dear fellow aros, share your thoughts if you know what I'm talking about, I'm intrigued.

Is it aro culture to be willing to help your close friends emotionally and go out of your way for them in ways that are usually seen by society as ""reserved"" for romantic partners; but your alloro friends don't go out of their way to that degree for you? It's hard to explain, there's just a certain feeling of dissonance.

I'm not doing what I do for my friends to be "compensated" the same way from them, I'm not expecting anything. I do it knowing they're like this, I don't care. I just noticed this pattern, even more after talking with them about emotional availability with friends etc.

Aros, anyone experience this?

Aromantic Sunset. Just don’t ask me why the sky is green and we won’t have a problem.

Aromanticism often goes hand-in-hand with:

Low self-esteem, self-loathing, and/or feelings of inferiority

Feeling lonely, isolated, or like you’re an “other”

Shame

Anxiety

Fear of abandonment, distrust of friends and family

Constant second-guessing one’s own identity

Fear of the future or an inability to imagine oneself with a “happy ending”

Disassociation in the form of feeling “unreal” or “inhuman”

This is a huge problem that can really destroy a person, and the root cause is the way our society treats relationships. But the thing is, nobody ever tries to address this problem. People outside of the aro community (which is small and disjointed as it is) don’t discuss aro issues, and don’t try to think critically about the messages they put out, and then when aros talk about how much they’re hurting, we just get told that we don’t have it as bad as other people, so we don’t have any right to complain, and our feelings aren’t real.

God knows it’s hard to heal yourself without help from others, and aros aren’t getting that help. And sure, sometimes we can talk to each other, but that can only get you so far- it’s the emotional equivalent of two people simultaneously trying to save each other from drowning. The aromantic community needs outside support, but nobody is trying to help us aside from saying that we’re Valid™ every now and then. That’s a big problem.

The Truth About INFPs

It bugs me when I read online forums created by other INFPs and the first thing they do is apologize for being an INFP!

I get that we’re known as the daydreamers. The crybabies. The cinnamon rolls. The overly sensitive ones. But these are only stereotypes. It’s especially bad on Tumblr, where I’ve noticed some MBTI blogs clearly don’t bother to do their research.

INFPs are the most underestimated type. Yes, we are kind and empathic. Yes, we care about people and humanity and the environment - as should everyone?

Most people see ‘INFP’ and think we’ve got our head in the clouds and we’re never present in the moment. They think we don’t have the aptitude for science or math and can’t be intelligent. They think we’re clueless and let emotions guide us completely, as if we never use logic.

I can’t even begin to tell you how wrong they are.

INFPs are powerful. When threatened, we fight back so fiercely it’s unexpected. When we’re passionate, we get shit done. We become crusaders for our causes. We spearhead entire movements. We can be so surprisingly analytical, you’d think you’re talking to an INTJ. We’re witty like ENTPs. Charming like ENFJs. We can be so outgoing you’d mistake us for an ENFP. We can be as cutthroat as INTPs and you’d never expect such a thing from us because we’re mostly merciful. But everyone has their own quirks, some INFPs are passive while others are more confrontational. Some will keep quiet while others will attack you for your ignorance. And because the INFP can also be as observant as ISFPs, our verbal assaults are hurtful and strike the heart - the more we know about you the better we can exploit your weaknesses. And we will, if we’re really pissed off.

A lot of people seemed surprised when they figure out that INFPs aren’t as sensitive or as reserved as they thought they were. That’s probably because they only know us by our stereotypes. I really want to fix that.

INFPs are gentle hurricanes. We are lovely roses whose thorns can draw blood. We’re the snow that sparkles like crushed diamonds but will leave you with blistering frostbite.

What I’m trying to say is that INFPs are not submissive doormats so I’m asking all MBTI blogs to please do their research before giving us degrading stereotypes that makes some people think they must be emotionally weak, or that they’re not intelligent, or they’re prone to slacking off and daydreaming just because their result on the Myers Briggs test was INFP. We are among the most emotionally intelligent and resilient. We understand people’s feelings, thoughts and intentions so naturally and so deeply, we probably know you better than you do. We’re fiercer than you think. We’re more intelligent than you know. We are a force not to be taken so lightly. INFPs should be proud to be who they are.