When He Tells You That There's Nothing To Worry About And That Your Too Perfect To Be Worrying >>>

Still having trailer park boys thoughts btw if you even care

I don’t have to agree with or even acknowledge their ill-informed opinions about me.

Action vs. Outcome

When preparing for an exam focus on your studying not what grade you will get

When applying for a job focus on getting prepared not if you will land the job or not.

when trying to lose weight focus on maintaining a healthy lifestyle not how many pounds you hope to lose

When trying to make friends focus on your communication skills and your approach not on the number of people that respond

The goal is to place more emphasis and effort on the process and actions not in the outcome that is often beyond your control or may seem too intimidating or discouraging.

When you are action-oriented, you are focusing on

The process

The opportunities

Your strength

Your personality

Your skill

Your character

Being action-oriented makes you enjoy the process, become more satisfied, and more fulfilled regardless of the outcome.

how did we go from 80s glam rock fashion to whatever the fuck the grunge rock guys were wearing in the 90s?

the more you love yourself the easier you’ll detach from the people who don’t

I feel like my life is one long sales pitch to convince people to like me

i am not “laid back” i’m just a numb shell hollowed out by years of psychological abuse, pills and mental illness.. but it’s totally chill

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but there’s no deadline for the things you do in life outside of societal expectation. it may feel like there is, but there really isn’t. there’s no set time frame to finish anything. you don’t have to have x, y, or z accomplished by a certain time. there is no countdown. you can graduate high school a year later than you intended. you don’t have to be done with college by 22. you don’t have to buy a house by 26. you don’t have to achieve all your goals before you’re 30. you don’t have to get married just because everyone else is. you don’t have to have children before you’re ready. you can wait. you can try again later. you can finish some other time. and it’s okay if you do: everyone has different timelines, different paths. what is right for someone else may not be right for you. just because someone else did something by whatever age, doesn’t mean you are a failure if you don’t. just because you don’t meet a milestone when you think you’re supposed to, doesn’t mean you never will. there’s not an expiration date. be patient with yourself, give yourself some grace. slow down.

If someone tries to make you feel incredibly guilty for not always putting them first and putting their needs in front of your own, you can be sure they’re abusive. 

Nobody is hurt by you caring for yourself. Nobody is hurt by you thinking of yourself, and making your own choices. Nobody is hurt by you living your life the way you want to. Those who claim to be have something else in mind - control. They want your thought and choices to benefit only them, and they’re ready to put you in pain if you care about yourself at all.