daintyporcelain07

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Most people complicate the law or think it's hard, because they're still in the law of attraction mindset. that you have to do physical work to achieve what you want.

Listen to me, especially if you're a woman. You did not come to this earth to work. You came to be treated like a princess and to be respected like a queen, you don't need to work at all.

The law frees you from all work that you deem "necessary". because it really isn't. If you think that work is necessary, then it is an assumption and therefore it will manifest. And that further proves that the law is, in fact, real. and is always working. what you assume to be true is true.

"How do I assume?" you're always assuming. When you go to the SuperMarket, and you assumed that a certain sauce that you want will be there. That's an assumption.

when you go to the mall, and you think it's going to be crowded, that's also an assumption.

if you get served food, and you think it's going to taste great, it's also an assumption.

if you think that people will choose you and favor you over anything else, it's also an assumption.

if you think that you're going to get everything you want, it's also an assumption.

One real benefit of reading I rarely hear anybody mention is how much more interesting life becomes when you read a lot. It depends what you’re reading, of course, but most (good) books will teach you something you didn’t already know, and even if you have to give the book back to the library, you get to take that much with you. A lot of people talk about things they wish they’d studied in school–I’ve done it, too–but it’s a nice consolation prize that you can always pick up a book and learn something new. And as that library in your brain collects more volumes, everything around you gains new resonances, new context, and new connections which make your lived experience richer. In quarantine alone I’ve read about religion and politics and history and evolution and computer science and astrophysics without even leaving my house and it’s already a more interesting world. 

Lmao

In hindsight, parents comparing you to other peoples' kids is a fucking hilarious level of lacking in self-awareness. Like the fuck you mean "why can't you just be like that other kid who's doing better than you?"

Like bitch you're asking your child why they won't act like someone who's been raised better?

You fap to pornhub videos, I fap to ao3 fics. We are not the same

Still having trailer park boys thoughts btw if you even care

Someone said “Nothing gives you a clearer look into someone than how they misinterpret things, every misinterpretation is a confession” and it’s so true because how people misunderstand things can reveal a lot about their perspectives and feelings.

The real gold diggers are the men who expect you to take care of them, their parents, clean their house, wash and iron their clothes, give birth to their children and take care of them, manage their emotions, and on top of that, go to work and contribute 50/50 to the expenses.

My beauty secret is having a pure heart & a pretty soul

I read somewhere that "When you choose a life partner you're choosing your eating companion for about 20,000 meals, your travel companion for about 70 vacations, your retirement friend, career therapist, & someone whose day you'll hear about 18,000 times" and I really can't stress this enough.

If someone tries to make you feel incredibly guilty for not always putting them first and putting their needs in front of your own, you can be sure they’re abusive. 

Nobody is hurt by you caring for yourself. Nobody is hurt by you thinking of yourself, and making your own choices. Nobody is hurt by you living your life the way you want to. Those who claim to be have something else in mind - control. They want your thought and choices to benefit only them, and they’re ready to put you in pain if you care about yourself at all.

Best advice to give someone in early 20’s

Don't fall victim of FOMO. Most of the "fun" activities you see advertised on social media or by the greater youth culture are detrimental to your growth as a person and will pay back in negative ways later on: partying, consuming alcohol/drugs, being promiscuous, recklessly spending money traveling and buying food, etc.

Instead use your precious youth working on layering the foundations for your life and growing as person, focus on:

• Gaining financial literacy

• Acquire proper manners and etiquette to best blend in with important people and be taken more seriously in business settings or formal gatherings

• Learn how to properly dress and keep a prudent demeanor. Avoid at all costs replicating the fast fashion trends of social media and the culture of neurotic impulsivity many of your age peers may have

• Work hard to overcome childhood traumas that keep you from properly interact with other and affect your own self-image

• Build valuable connections from people who can mentor you

• Be active networking with people who are in similar professional or interests groups as you to have connections for future projects

• Spend your time reading self development books and applying the learned concepts into your life

• Work hard and learn to invest your money, prioritize exercise and proper dieting to keep your vitality high, your health and help you preserve your youth.

• Acquire transferable skills that you can use in different scenarios such as: learning how to sell, learning multiple languages, improving your emotional intelligence, etc.

Despite what the world might try to yell you your 20s are the most important years of your life, wasting them doing futile hedonistic and irresponsible activities may feel comfortable in the moment but let me assure you will pay the price for your actions sooner or later. Be conscious of your youth and use your time and resources as wisely as possible so that you may have a life of success, greatness and fulfilment. Plant the seed now, your future self will be thank you later.

Babygirl I have mental illnesses that haven’t even made it into the DSM-5 yet

Have you ever fallen in love with someone only to realize that person never really existed? The person who played that role may have the same face, same voice, and same laugh- but it wasn't them, the real them. It's a different kind of pain. How do you let go of someone who didn't exist? How do you move on from who they were to you?

How to Stop Procrastinating by Managing Your Emotions

Procrastination happens when we delay doing things, and it's often connected to our emotions. Feelings like being afraid to fail, feeling worried or stressed, getting bored, or lacking motivation can all contribute to procrastination. To stop procrastinating and get more things done, it's important to learn how to handle our emotions better.

Boredom:

Break the task into smaller, more engaging sub-tasks.

Find ways to make the task more interesting or challenging.

Set a timer and work on the task for a specific amount of time, followed by a short break doing something enjoyable.

Feeling Overwhelmed:

Prioritize tasks and focus on one thing at a time.

Break the task into smaller, more manageable steps.

Delegate some parts of the task if possible or seek help from others.

Use tools like to-do lists or task management apps to stay organized.

Anxiety:

Practice deep breathing or mindfulness techniques to calm yourself.

Challenge negative thoughts and replace them with more positive and realistic ones.

Start with the easier or less intimidating aspects of the task to build momentum.

Set realistic expectations and remind yourself that it's okay to make mistakes.

Self-Doubt:

Focus on past accomplishments and successes to boost your confidence.

Seek support or feedback from others to gain reassurance.

Remind yourself of your skills and capabilities to tackle the task.

Use positive affirmations to counteract negative self-talk.

Perfectionism:

Embrace the concept of "good enough" rather than seeking perfection.

Set realistic and achievable goals for each task.

Recognize that mistakes and imperfections are part of the learning process and growth.

Indecisiveness:

Break decisions into smaller steps and make one small decision at a time.

Set a time limit for making decisions to avoid overthinking.

Trust your instincts and make the best decision you can with the information available.

Apathy or Lack of Interest:

Find aspects of the task that align with your values or long-term goals.

Break the task into smaller, more manageable parts and focus on completing one at a time.

Reward yourself for completing the task to make it more appealing.

Stress or Burnout:

Practice stress-reduction techniques such as meditation, exercise, or spending time in nature.

Break tasks into smaller steps to reduce the feeling of overwhelm.

Prioritize self-care and take breaks to avoid burnout.

Feeling Uninspired or Creatively Blocked:

Engage in activities that stimulate creativity, such as brainstorming, mind mapping, or seeking inspiration from others' work.

Start with a simple and basic version of the task to get the creative juices flowing.

Collaborate with others or seek feedback to gain new perspectives.

Fear of Success:

Identify and challenge the negative beliefs or fears that may be holding you back.

Visualize the positive outcomes of completing the task successfully.

Focus on the benefits and personal growth that come with success.

Impatience:

Break long-term goals into smaller milestones to track progress.

Practice mindfulness to stay present and patient throughout the process.

Remind yourself that progress takes time and effort.

Lack of Confidence:

Celebrate your past accomplishments to boost your confidence.

Seek support and encouragement from friends, family, or mentors.

Focus on building specific skills related to the task to increase confidence.

Avoiding Discomfort:

Acknowledge that discomfort is a natural part of growth and improvement.

Break tasks into smaller steps and tackle the more challenging aspects gradually.

Remind yourself of the long-term benefits of facing discomfort.

Overestimating Future Motivation:

Practice discipline and commit to starting tasks even when motivation is low.

Set specific deadlines for tasks to create a sense of urgency.

Establish a routine that includes regular work on the task to build consistency.

Dismantling the Lies of Abusive Parents Masterlist

Resources

Giving you food and clothing is the bare minimum

You don’t owe gratitude for food and clothes you needed as a child

You had the right for basic resources

Parents shaming you for costing money is ironic and stupid

What it means when they say ‘This is MY house’

My house = my rules is blackmail

Children don’t owe absolute obedience for being fed and sheltered

Physical abuse

You are allowed to refuse any touch, not only violence

If they ‘don’t know they’re hurting you’, why do they ignore or punish you when you protest?

Hitting children is irrational and doesn’t work

You cannot ‘provoke’ your parents to abuse you if they’re not abusive

Why do parents hit, manipulate and traumatize children

Blatant Lies

Care, nurture and affection do not make you weak

They’re lying when they say it ‘wasn’t that bad’‘

You wouldn’t have grown up spoiled if not for abuse

You got too affected by it’ is a lie

Your parents are not ‘just too emotionally immature’ to understand abuse

‘You’re not living in the real world!’ is nonsense

You’re not worthless, a burden, ungrateful, or stupid, and your parents know that.

Constant undermining of your accomplishments is abuse

Not being allowed to talk about the past is symptom of abuse

Parents who want you to be happy vs look happy

You are not abusive for resisting abuse

When they claim ‘they didn’t mean it’, it’s still abuse

Your parents are responsible for their own actions regardless of how badly they try to shift blame on you

Psychological abuse

Blind Obedience is not required in a healthy upbringing

Disgust is a weapon abusive parents use on their kids

If they say they love you, but walk all over your feelings, they don’t 

Parents don’t have the right to enter your room to scream at you

Parents insisting for you to be ‘tough’ are doing it to hide the trauma

Even if a kid acts like ‘they can take it’, it’s still abuse

Pretending abuse is discipline will leave children permanently scarred

It’s inhumane to control and shame children’s reactions to abuse

Why don’t you already know this? vs Teaching you necessary skills

Acting like they’ll change is escape sabotage

Parents are responsible for protecting children from harm

References to how healthy parenting looks like

Not being allowed to be angry with your parents is psychological abuse

If parents want you to act the way you did when you were little, they’re dangerous

Threats about how hard your life will be later on, are bad for you

Lack of continuity and ever-changing rules will cause anxiety

Forced obedience will lead you to abusive relationships

Parents acting like you’re a ‘bad child’ is a shame tactic to control you

There’s healthy and abusive ways to give children chores

Revisioning the past and insisting you remember it wrong is gaslighting

If your parents make you suicidal, they’re abusive

Parents threatening ‘they could be worse’ is abuse

Always assuming the worst intentions for your actions is wrong

Keeping children hostage in abuse is torture

If this hits home, also read Recognizing Abuse Masterlist

Psychoanalysing someone based on their fetishes>>>

I can’t decide if I want to dye my hair honey blonde or deep purple uggggghhh

Power move; traumatize your dad back

It’s not that my parents didn’t love me, it’s that I’d never do/say such horrible things to someone I loved.

Let me tell you something, men leech off women with wisdom and grace and a feminine alluring personality and especially if you are knowledgeable and skillfulll.

Be careful of mental leeches, they will:

use long calls, to waste your time and lure you in.

penpal antics, by not arranging to see you and constantly contacting you.

use you as a therapist and a mental dumpster by telling you their problems in their life because they are attracted to the feminine side of you that allows them to be vulnerable.

SET BOUNDARIES.

Remind yourself of the woman you are and know there are going to be so many dusties that will attempt to try you and use you, FOR FREE.

Stay away from them, block them and from early on do not be vulnerable or allow long calls or texts at any hours.

Men take advantage of how empathetic women can be and will save their resources to get access to you for FREE.

The fact that I can never auto regulate myself until someone else soothes me or until I hurt myself is very draining.

i am not “laid back” i’m just a numb shell hollowed out by years of psychological abuse, pills and mental illness.. but it’s totally chill

Action vs. Outcome

When preparing for an exam focus on your studying not what grade you will get

When applying for a job focus on getting prepared not if you will land the job or not.

when trying to lose weight focus on maintaining a healthy lifestyle not how many pounds you hope to lose

When trying to make friends focus on your communication skills and your approach not on the number of people that respond

The goal is to place more emphasis and effort on the process and actions not in the outcome that is often beyond your control or may seem too intimidating or discouraging.

When you are action-oriented, you are focusing on

The process

The opportunities

Your strength

Your personality

Your skill

Your character

Being action-oriented makes you enjoy the process, become more satisfied, and more fulfilled regardless of the outcome.