Art Is Meant To Comfort The Disturbed And Disturb The Comforted. I Love You, Lolita By Vladimir Nabokov.

I feel like some people are getting so radical about what is considered 'abusive' behavior that it's just gotten kind of laughable at this point. There is, like, a list of a million things someone can do and it's like 'signs your partner is emotionally abusive' and ALL OF THE THINGS LISTED ARE LIKE 'they look at you kinda rudely...<:( They looked at you wrong so they're being ABUSIVE!!' or 'they set a boundary with you!' or 'they blocked you when you broke those boundaries!' or, even, 'they have XYZ stigmatized personality disorder so that must prove they're a bad person' Emotional abuse exists, yes, but not to the extent that some people are claiming. Physical abuse is not 'w-w-w-well this friend of mine accidentally shoulder-checked me cuz he wasn't looking where he was going and- I never brought this up to him at all but he should've known better...He physically hurt me so that's physical abuse' no that's called being clumsy you dumb fuck Don't even get me started on people claiming that if you wrote like idk vocaloid rin x len fanfic in 2014 you're apparently sexually abusive or some shit

selfshippers who have chronic pain!

imagine your doting f/o(s) taking care of you during a flare up! giving you your meds, helping you brush your hair, making sure you have everything you need before settling in with you.

if you want a distraction from the pain, they'll tell you about their day, make small talk, put on your favorite tv show, whatever you want!

they'll make dinner for you (or order something if they can't cook), soothe you through your pain, cuddling and rocking you back and forth, letting you cry into their shirt, etc.

just.. doting f/os comforting you <333

shota of the month for april coming as soon as my drawing program behaves

I must also skip Day 4 :pensive:

💜 Dark/Villain/Criminal Self-Ship Asks

For those with evil, morally questionable f/o’s anyone with darker self-ships. Warning for suggestion of occasionally toxic dynamics.

🖤 - What is a twisted, secret act of love you and your F/O share that only the two of you would understand?

🩸 - Has your F/O ever marked you in a way that felt like a bond, even if others might see it as dangerous or unhinged?

🔪 - Has your F/O ever protected you in a way that was violent or ruthless, but it made you feel deeply cherished? Do they kill or intimidate others for you?

🕷️ - Does your F/O bug your clothing, house or vehicle? Would they ensure you’re well monitored? Do they do it out of protection or obsession?

🕸️ - Does your F/O trap you in their world, or do you willingly crawl into their web?

🥀 - Has your F/O ever “tested” your loyalty in a way that felt dangerous or thrilling? How did you prove yourself to them?

🎭 - Does your F/O hide their true self from others? How does it feel knowing the side of them no one else does?

🌙 - What’s the darkest secret you and your F/O share that bonds you, even if it would horrify anyone else? How did they confess this secret?

👻 - Does your F/O enjoy toying with your fear, knowing it brings you closer to them?

🪓 - Does your F/O ever fear losing control around you? How do you reassure them? Or do you like the chaos?

🦂 - Has your F/O ever lied to you for your own safety or to manipulate your feelings, and how did it change your relationship?

⛓️ - If your F/O could keep you by their side forever through unconventional means, (being immortal via soul pact, vampirism, science) would you let them?

💣 - Would your F/O ever involve you in their criminal or villainous schemes, willingly or not? How would it bond you? Would it be fun or sickening? Other?

🗡️ - Is there a dark or forbidden fantasy your F/O has indulged for you? How did they react to you telling them about it?

🧲 - Has your F/O ever manipulated a situation to keep you close? How do you feel knowing they did it?

🔗 - Does your F/O see you as their weakness, their strength, or both? How does that shape your connection?

🎁 - Has your F/O ever gifted you something darkly romantic, like a token from their crimes or a memento from a fallen enemy?

🕯️- Has your F/O ever orchestrated a chillingly intimate moment, a declaration of love in a tense setting, like an illicit deal or crime scene?

🔥 - Does your F/O have any dangerous habits they’ve pulled you into, and how does it make you feel?

📜 - Does your F/O have a code or rule they live by? How does it affect the way they treat you? Do they have any rules for you in particular?

⛏️ - Has your F/O ever trusted you with their signature weapon, or even asked you to use it?

⚰️ - If your F/O had to fake your death, kidnap you or move you to another country to keep you safe, how do you think they’d go about it?

🪦 - Would you help your F/O cover up a crime, no questions asked? How far would you go to protect them?

💀 - What’s the most cryptic or ominous thing your F/O has ever said to you that you still can’t forget?

💍 - Does your F/O treat you like a partner, a prize, or something else entirely? How do you feel about it?

💋 - Does your F/O enjoy teasing you about their darker side, as if daring you to love them despite it? How do you respond?

💎 - Does your F/O ever use their charm to manipulate you, even in harmless ways? How do you feel about their slyness?

🔮 - Does your F/O believe you’re destined to be together? What lengths would they go to if fate didn’t agree?

👑 - How does your F/O treat you differently from everyone else, even when they’re at their cruelest?

🫀 - If your F/O could claim ownership of a part of you, physically or emotionally, what would they choose?

🌌 - If your F/O could rewrite the world, what would it look like, and where would you stand in it?

🕳️ - If your F/O lost their current life or position (taken in by authorities, empire crumbled, demoted by higher ups) how would your dynamic change?

🪢 - What’s a moral line you’ve crossed because of your F/O’s influence? Would you do it again?

🌪️ - How is your romance inherently destructive in nature? What kind of people do you end up hurting? Do you hurt yourselves in the process?

😈 - Does your F/O take pleasure in seeing others afraid of you, knowing you're tied to their darkness?

☠️ - If you were forced to kill for your F/O, would you do it willingly, or would they push you to the edge?

🎻 - What is a villainous song for your F/O?

Dividers by @/adornedwithlight

For this Disability Pride Month, I saw a post that was shittybad and it made me angry. So have this

Day 8: 'Problematic' Ship Dynamics I <333333

For my fellow proselfshippers who have been victims of abuse:

💜 Your F/O believes you. They're there whenever you need someone to confide on and they know how much those experiences have hurt and changed you. They'll always be your biggest supporter and caretaker

⭐ Your F/O doesn't judge your triggers or boundaries. They'll always do everything in their power to make your life as comfortable and safe as possible. They want their presence to be an entirely safe and loving space for you

💜 Your F/O will do everything in their power to take good care of you. They'll make sure to keep an eye on you and bring you some water or food when you haven't had any in a while. They'll ask you to help them out with something if they notice you're starting to overthinking or if you just need to keep your hands busy

⭐ Your F/O knows your trauma doesn't make you broken or lesser than. They'll never see you as weak for everything you've survived and pushed through, even if it has changed how your mind functions, they know you're a strong and brave person!

💜 Your F/O will always choose you. No matter who was behind the hurtful things/actions you've had to deal with, you will always be their love and their priority. Any ties to the folks who've wronged you are immediately gone, like they never existed in the first place, that way you and your F/O will go through your healing journey peacefully

⭐ Your F/O supports you and your coping mechanisms. Of course, they won't let things get to the point where you're hurting or neglecting yourself... However, they'll always cheer you on when you show them the things that make you smile, no matter how small or "silly" you may think it is

💜 Your F/O knows it wasn't your fault. They're happy to remind you that you did the best you could in the situation you were in, and that they're proud of you for surviving it. They'll never hold such hurtful things against you or use it as a way to make you upset. They care about you more than they could ever put into words

⭐ Your F/O loves you. They're proud of everything you accomplish every single day; from getting out of bed to tackling a project you've been scared to face, all of it is important and meaningful in its own way! You can always count on them, through every step of the way

anyway shoutout to people with paralysis and nerve damage and spinal cord and brain damage and nervous system disorders who are tired of people with adult ADHD diagnoses en-masse co-opting their terminology and claiming ownership of their struggles and taking over every post made about ur symptoms and experiences. ur anger and frustration and feelings of otheredness are valid and real and justified and ur not alone. adhd is not the only disability on earth that matters or is worth acknowledging and there’s nothing wrong with talking about yourself and your own struggles

having a partner is jusst so mgjgjfj!!! you mean!! i can kiss him!!!! I can hold him!!! when we shower I can hug him and feel warm skin!!!! you mean i can invite dawg out to slowdance under the stars???mmghfh you mean i can just be.. a silly lil guyb...And this other silly little guy who i love a lot is also there??You mean we do the laundry together?? Absolutely wild. I love him. And you mean to tell me i got a RING and put it on.. his finger?? to symbolize our undying love??? I'm shaking. I'm so in love. I love him.

(Also fun fact my F/O is one of my pookie's OC's so it's like.. Inception... idk man im a freak)