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Marilyn Monroe as Sugar in Some Like It Hot (1959)

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Miscommunication...

This time around I’ll be talking about the communication errors that happen when using online source to seek male partners. If there’s one thing I learned in this process it has been men and women speak very different languages. I’ve mostly used Whisper as a source because of the anonymity of it, being new into this world we didn’t want our private life aired before we even knew if we will continue this style of relationship. We do also have Fetlife accounts, I find its a bit harder to search on there.

So how Whisper works is you can post something random, it can be seen by people all over the world, but will also pop up to people near by you, and there is also groups of different subjects you can join as well. So for me I’ve searched for Stag & Vixen groups as well as Hotwife. I would start with making one post, then have to filter through a crazy amount of replies I would get. I would delete all the generic messages, or the right to the dirty replies, I would only reply to those I felt were interesting or had catchy or funny replies.

One of my first Whisper posts was “Vixen looking for some online fun...” and within 60 seconds I had 100 replies, so you would think I would find some success, nope. I got 100 replies from very thirsty men from all over the world, and locally. When posting looking for online fun, to men that means send dick pics, tell her how I want to f*ck her, attempt to degrade her husband, and or course a chunk of males who goes “What’s a Vixen?”. I also had some replies from women as well who wanted me to get there husbands off for them. For every one post I made with at least 100 replies, Id end up with only one person by the end of conversations that I enjoyed talking to and ended up having some fun with.

So “looking for some only fun” I felt maybe left it too opened ended for the replies I would get, so the next post I made “A Vixen looking for some online fun... Must be a good talker to get my attention...”. Post, bring on the flood, post get any better? Nope...all the same, but this time I did get some story replies which SOMETIMES are fun to read, some I have gotten aren’t my cup of tea. Being a good talker to men really is just saying “Hey” before going “So what kind of fun you looking for” so they can just get down to the dirty.

Now listen up ladies, if your looking to get you kitty taken care of, well I got the word for you! Since smooth talkin’ man didn’t work, my next post was “Where’s all the men who really know how to seduce a Vixen??”, Post! Here’s comes the flood, and you know what...majority of my replies from that were men offering or talking about how much they wanted to eat my p*ssy. Seduce = P*ssy eating. I would have never thought, but noted.

Now to you men who are reading my blog, if your going after a married woman, and especially a Vixen or Hotwife, we are not looking for other men because we are unhappy or unsexually satisfied. We are looking for another man for added fun and playtime and you best have your A game on, because I know for me, my husbands provides all that I need in my life. You have to earn your spot, your not entitled to it, you best seduce the shit outta me if you anywhere close to me.

Here’s the actual definition of seduce ;) ...

Seduce - se.duce - entice (someone) into sexual activity.

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The beginning. (Part 2)

Alright, so where do I begin with part 2...

So most of part 1 was my thought process through changing my relationship status to monogamous to having some side boy-toys for added pleasurable kicky fun. I’ll cover a little more my thoughts, but also moving forward into looking for the right kinda guy for my transformation fully into a Vixen.

So another pretty hard adjustment I had was my self imagery, my self hate makes me think “Are guys even going to find me attractive?” I’ve never had the best self esteem since I was a teenager. By the time I was 13 I was a double D’s (I’m currently an H), I’m naturally curvy, I got a lot of unwanted attention by older men, went to a private school which caught even more attention, and it caused me to run down this crazy rebellious life of dying my hair vibrant colors, piercings, tattoos, the “I don’t care what you f**cking think of me look”. Currently, still rocking the same style, but now after having two beautiful children, my body changed...although I’ve worked really hard to loose the baby weight, your body’s just not the same. I’ve tried very hard to convince myself of my beauty, but its a process, it takes time. I can say I love myself more then I have in a long time and after I started chatting online, and sharing some photos around, I got a lot of positive feed back so it became a bit easier. A wise man once told me on here that sexy is a state of mind, and it’s a chant I try and keep in my head.

[Side note: My husband tells me I’m the most beautiful person in the world almost on a daily basis, and never forgets reminding me how sexy he finds me by whispering it in my ear, or going for some feels and grabs through out the day. He does so much to help build me up, and I love and appreciate it all. But I’ve had some trauma in my younger life that’s made such a negative impact, so healing is taking some extra time.]

So finding the guy...

So finding the right guy for me had a lot of fun chats, but it also was really frustrating at times. You would think finding a guy that wanted to take another man wife in front of her husband that would end up turning into a threesome would be easy, but no...I was very wrong. It ended up almost being a very niche market, so hard to find that there was a couple times I just thought about quitting and letting this live on as a fantasy. So many guys seemed to just want to get off to the idea over chats, or I got a lot of guys who would assume my husband was a cuck and that was an automatic conversation ender. One of the first apps I used to attempt to find guys was Whisper, it’s completely anonomous and I actually received a couple messages from wives wanting me to sleep with their husbands, one wife like it was a favor for her. I received messages from husbands cheering me on to my commitment to this lifestyle change, they would offer advice, and answered questions I had about why they loved the lifestyle (every time Id ask why they want there wives sleeping around which help my insight). 

As frustrating as it got I kept going, Id post, filtered through hundreds of replies, weeding out the ones I didn’t want, and do it all over again. The most fascinating part to me was so many guys I got to know I never exchanged face pictures with right away, we’d get to know each other only through messaging first, and the guys I started putting on my list of potential firsts, weren’t guys I imagined I’d be picking. These guys I talk to on a daily basis just caught my attention, they respect my relationship, they respect that this is all new to me, they never make me feel rushed to do anything, advise me to take it slow, they help try and build me up, they would offer advice. I developed this level of trust with them that overlooked a lot of features of a man I typically wouldn’t go for, like the man who goes by Beard-o, who was the first male on my potential first list. Why wasn’t he typical for me, well, cause he has a beard and for me...my husband stays a with a nice clean shaven face because that’s what I like. But beard-o and I have been talking over a year now, and hes been a lot of support and fun...but hes a story for another blog...

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Marilyn Monroe in a swimming pool circa 1951

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