Twaeggy - The World Is At My Feet And I Am Standing On The Ceiling

As for the lately siblings typing and them being Fe-dom really reminds me of why I always feel high Fe users (especially Fe-dom ones) are rather... hard-to-like. The thing about how they are extremely vocal about their dislike is actually correct and common for high Fe users I have ever met in my life...

You understand why, though, right? Fe needs and wants to address what upsets it and processes their feelings while they talk, so they do so in order to work through it, resolve it, and clear the air. They don't understand emotional repression or silence and want others to respond in kind. Most EFJs who do not study typology can't understand why other people are not more open with their emotions, both good and bad. They need and want "signals" that come from other people and their emotional reactions, in order to know where they stand with people and how to adjust their behavior to fit the situation. Their entire life is about molding themselves to fit social, emotional, and relational cues. It's as normal for them to say "you hurt my feelings" as it is for them to exclaim in rapturous delight "I love being here with you!!!" Their emotional reaction to everything is immediate -- and they are sensitive, not only to insults against themselves or slights, but other people having an impact on those around them. (You hurt my daughter/girlfriend/boyfriend/friend, you are Enemy Number 1.)

As a Fi user and a 9 who avoids conflict, I understand that they can seem "intense" and "loud" and "confrontational," but you can't change them or expect them to be different than they are. It's as unnatural for them to repress their emotions and not be direct with them, as it would be for you to talk your way through your feelings "in real time" and be combative while doing it. All you can do is try to understand them, and focus on your own growth as a 9 -- learning that not all confrontation is bad, that not all raised voices are full of rage, that it's okay for other people to engage in conflict (it's not about me), and that you are likely "over-sensitive" to them due to being a 9.

I guarantee if you find some EFJ 9s and give them a chance, you will find out that not all of them are direct. One EFJ 9 I know is super sweet, tolerant, open-minded, easy-going, and never raises her voice.

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We've had a go at reworking some festive songs for Fallen London, what do you think?

Foxfire candles and jars full of honey, Urchins that carol, then steal all your money. Besuited devils that offer brass rings, These are a few of my favourite things.

We welcome any delicious friends to take a stab at it themselves! There are also plenty from last year.

to 134 more years of the never-ending cycle of first meetings and comfortable domesticity

to holmes and watson, in all their forms

An Annual Tradition 🎆

give me someone surprising their primary partner with brunch in bed and snuggling up to their side as they share all the details about the night they spent with their secondary partner 

give me a married couple struggling to handle their new open arrangement and dealing with all the jealousy and possessiveness that they never expected themselves to feel 

give me a life-long straight dude starting to question his sexuality seemingly out of nowhere and nervously asking in his long-term girlfriend if he can explore those feelings on the side and work out what’s going on (or vice versa)

give me a quad going out for dinner acting like it’s a double date and confusing everyone around them by switching “partners” halfway through for shits and giggles 

give me two points of a vee becoming besties and having sleepovers where they get drunk and share embarrassing stories about their mutual partner

give me a monogamous person inviting their poly partner’s other partners over for a birthday dinner and enjoying their company far more than they expected

give me a little kid telling their friends about their mommies and daddies and their friends thinking their family is the coolest freaking thing no matter how much their parents frantically try to trick them into thinking that the kid just meant that they lived with their uncles and aunts

give me an unplanned but welcomed pregnancy and the frantic “is it mine is it his who looks after it whose name goes on the birth certificate how does this work holy shit” that follows

give me a tacky YA love triangle all crushing on each other like crazy and realising one day that it doesn’t have to end with one of them getting hurt when they can all just love on each other instead

give me a couple that married for money and reputation striking up this unexpected friendship and encouraging each other’s so-called “affairs” with their respective high school sweethearts 

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My favorite products for PR

Tracking

Blendle Blendle is actually a tool designed to help newspapers generate more revenue through paid articles. But Blendle has an outstanding collection of print editions from the largest newspapers and magazines in Germany and it makes it super easy to search for keywords (e.g. FinTech) and find out how wrote an article in what magazine. Give it a few minutes and you have a powerful list of journalists to talk to in no time.

Alert.io Alert is my go-to tool for tracking things on the web. No matter if it’s topics, keywords, companies or competitors, Alert.io got you covered.

Project Management

Asana I have tried Asana a couple of times in the past, but was never really happy with it – until their redesign in October. Now I’m transitioning all my personal and work related projects and tasks from Todoist, which I’m still very fond of.

Todoist If you are looking for a very reliable, fast and minimalistic ToDo app, then Todoist would be my personal recommendation. I’ve been happily paying for a pro account for the last two years and organized all of my personal and most of my work related things in it. Now, that I’m working in a bigger team at Ballou PR, I transitioned to Asana, to keep everyone on the same page.

Writing

Ulysses III Ulysses is my favorite writing app by far. It’s really beautiful, fast and has many handy features including markdown support and a powerful export feature. As a hobby writer (who writes far too little), this is definitely my biggest discovery over the last five

Desk PM I came across this little gem just a few days ago and what I love the most about it, is the instant publishing feature for platforms like Tumblr, Blogger, Wordpress, Squarespace, Medium and a few others. Even though it lacks a few features that would be nice to have and has a few bugs, I was happy to pay the 19,99€ for the full version for one simple reason: I didn’t have to copy and paste written articles to the website. That was the single biggest issue that I had with publishing articles online.

Other stuff

Producthunt Whenever I can’t remember the name of an app that I wanted to try, I head over to Producthunt instead of searching for it on Google. It’s easily the best resource on the web to find apps and services that are useful.

Fetus Pretty Little Liars Cast

Fairy tales are more than moral lessons and time capsules for cultural commentary; they are natural law. The child raised on folklore will quickly learn the rules of crossroads and lakes, mirrors and mushroom rings. They’ll never eat or drink of a strange harvest or insult an old woman or fritter away their name as though there’s no power in it. They’ll never underestimate the youngest son or touch anyone’s hairpin or rosebush or bed without asking, and their steps through the woods will be light and unpresumptuous. Little ones who seek out fairy tales are taught to be shrewd and courteous citizens of the seen world, just in case the unseen one ever bleeds over.

S.T. Gibson (via sarahtaylorgibson)