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Craigslist Ads That Attract Certain Men

It’s about that time again! Here are some ads that worked for me in the past.

1. Sophisticated Yet Selective

I carry myself in a sophisticated manner, however, there’s a difference between being confident and conceited and I consider myself as someone who is confident.

I am definitely interested in a long term relationship, someone who understands the concept of a relationship. I am a firm believer in kindness and respect for one another. I believe it’s the mans job to keep his partner happy in all aspects and I just haven’t found him yet.

If you are between the ages of 45-65, then I would love to hear from you. Let’s get acquainted over dinner and a cocktail.

2. Memories Over Mimosas

I am looking for a selective business man who isn’t opposed to meeting for a beverage and discussing a possible relationship that includes traveling, shopping, including in decadent, gourmet meals.

I enjoy private getaways, champagne, and enjoying life’s pleasures without any worries in the world.

3. Cocktails & Company

I am a beautiful, charismatic, outgoing, younger inspiration. It would be great to meet a gentleman who is witty and sharp.

I know how to hold a stimulating conversation followed by a glass of Merlot. You need a woman who’s seductive by nature yet charming and fun to be around.

4. Experience & Indulge

I am in search of a companion/friend and see where it would lead. I am a beautiful woman that can keep you on your toes.

Let’s take a 3 day trip to Vegas and stay at The Wynn or go to Key West, Florida and enjoy a margarita under a Tiki hut. How about somewhere romantic like Paris? I love the setting of a 5 star restaurant which includes a very impressive wine collection and succulent dishes. The world is our playground and I am ready to explore the world with someone very special.

5. Sophisticated Vixen

I am a fan of plays, museums, and traveling.

I am just sassy enough to keep you intrigued and have much to offer someone who would like to enjoy the finer things in life with me. Enjoy laughter and engaging conversations. An entrepreneurial spirit is especially intriguing.

I would like to meet a gentleman.

6. Lonely Lunches & Dull Dinners

Are you a older, successful man? Successful yet lonely every night? Can’t find a woman to spend the special moments with?

If you are interested in providing for a woman that’s worth it, then please take a chance and I promise it’s worth the wait. I would like to see someone that’s serious about creating and capturing special memories.

So let’s meet for a couple of drinks.

7. Charming Young Lady

I am searching for a long term commitment.

I would love to find someone who likes to enjoy life the way I do. Someone who isn’t overbearing or jealous. Most importantly, someone who is secure enough in themselves not to feel challenged by my ambition.

Hopefully, you are sincere and that just needs that extra friend in life that reminds them of how great things can be, I want someone to appreciate the good in life and can be adventurous.

8. Taste of Elegance, Touch of Class

Intelligent, gorgeous and ambitious are a few words that best describes me.

My hobbies/interests include the following:

1. Literature

2. Performing/Fine Arts

3. Traveling

4. Photography

I always have a thirst for knowledge and I am ready to explore.

I would love to meet a man who truly knows how to treat a lady, someone thoughtful and giving and who knows what he wants. I want to be treated with the utmost respect and will make sure that this is reciprocated. Please be a gentleman as I hope chivalry still exists.

9. Dress To Impress

Would you be interested in a woman who is mature and poised? I am seeking a gentleman who is confident, kind and considerate. You must know how to treat a lady.

I have been described as an exotic indulgence. I will always welcome you with a warm, inviting smile along with a bubbly personality.

10. Your Main Attraction

You need a woman who is stunning and a bright, captivating smile. You will never want to take your eyes off of me. Let me accompany you over brunch brunch, happy hour or dinner and we cover topics such as politics and culture and of course, you’ll get to learn more about my future aspirations in life.

The question is, are you up for a challenge?

How Many Appointments

Do you need to make your bills?

How many appointments do you need to make double your bills?

How many appointments do you need to make triple your bills?

How many appointments do you need to make quadruple your bills?

Let’s have an example:

Sally has expenses including her food/gas/bills/rent every month that total $3,500.00

For a lot of people that is a lot of money. For sex workers that is a lot of money, but for some sex workers that is what we can make in a week and some of us can make that in a day.

So let’s say that Sally charges $300 per hour. We aren’t going to go into multi-hour theories right now, just hours. So Sally needs 11.6 (Let’s round up to 12) one hour appointments to make her bills every month. So if Sally has weekends off she needs to see 3 clients a week to pay her bills. 

But let’s go monthly. 

One Month Bills = 12 clients (3 per week) $3,600 

Double her Bills = 24 Clients (6 per week) $7,200

Triple Her Bills = 36 Clients (9 per week) $10,800

Quadruple her bills = 48 Clients (12 per week) $14,400

So what should Sally do?

Sally needs to diversify and raise her rates (according to me) but how do you make that work? 

You create a business model that forces men who want to see you to pay a higher amount because they perceive it as a better value. 

So let’s say that Sally charges $300 for an hour but only $400 for 90 minutes and $500 for 2 hours. Most men would opt for the 90 minute or 2 hour appointment because it seems like the best value.

Now that Sally has changed her rate structure to include a more incentive driven pricing tier she will probably gain higher end clients who want to spend a little more money because they see it as being a good value.

And who doesn’t like a good value?

So now Sally needs to see 7 men a MONTH to reach her goal to pay her bills.

SEVEN as opposed to TWELVE

Sure, the appointment may be a bit longer, but realistically - she’s not doing THAT much more work in a 2 hour date that she’d do in a 1 hour date and she’s decreased her foot traffic by 5 clients.

One Month Bills = 7 clients (about 2 per week) decreased by 5 - $3,500 

Double her Bills = 14 Clients (about 4 per week) decreased by 10 - $7,000

Triple Her Bills = 21 Clients (between 5-6 per week) decreased by 15 - $10,500

Quadruple her bills = 28 Clients (7 per week) decreased by 20 - $14,000

So ladies, while you may want to START high in reality what you need to be thinking about is at what price point are men really booking you? 

I wrote a piece a while back called Overpricing Yourself In A Saturated Market that discusses your rate structure and how to properly structure your rates. With this in mind consider the above. While many women want to go all out and start out at $500 & above the truth is that what you need to be concerned about is at what price point are men comfortable booking you? 

I have the luxury of having a pretty solid client base. Most of my dates are dinner dates and overnight dates with well established clients. I do have the occasional date that is one hour or even two but for the most part over half of my dates consist of those that net me $750 or above. 

Your rates should not be an emotional decision. You should price yourself based on what the economic situation can bear in your home city and what you have figured, mathematically, that you need to earn to reach your goals.

If your goal is to make the $2000 you need for your bills and that is it… then do not price yourself out of what your current market can bear. Do not look at taking lower amounts of cash per appointment as an indicator of your self worth because it is not.

Again - who you are as a person is priceless - what you sell your time for has a price tag. You are not the number you put on the screen. You are not the rate that someone pays for your time. 

Now, why is it important to set a weekly goal for the clients that you need to see to meet your financial goals? 

Because you do not want to get burned out in this industry. Even making $14,000 a month and seeing 7 clients a week for $500 per appointment Sally can hit her mark early in the week and if needed - take some time off - because she has already hit her mark for making her monthly bills. 

The rest of the month should be Sally working to stack her cash, improve herself, take care of her family, go to school, travel & recharge.

If you do not have weekly goals you are limiting yourself. 

To be a successful escort you MUST give yourself time to recharge. It is as important as having condoms and lube. Do not think that “I won’t get burned out.” 

Because you will. 

We all do.

I do hope this encourages some of you to start setting goals and to seriously sit down and evaluate where your money is going and what you are doing with it. If you do not have a budget I sincerely suggest you make one. 

Personally I track all of my money via Intuit and for a quick app I use Spendbook.

If you have a favorite app for setting a budget please reblog or comment below with what you’re using and what you like about it. 

And the ugly truth is. No one, absolutely no one gives a fuck if you don’t live up to your potential, no one gives a fuck if you take your dreams, your hopes to the grave.  No one gives a fuck if you stay in your comfort zone, not growing, not learning. No one is going to tap you on the shoulder and say ‘hey, sort your fucking life out, go live your fucking dreams, you deserve and can experience so much more than this eat-sleep-play-small-repeat bullshit routine' no one gives a flying fuck.

So it’s on YOU.

It’s on YOU to break out of this cycle of low energy and motivation that's been holding you hostage and allowing you to play small. It’s on YOU to carve out time in your day to live your fucking dreams, or at least try? It’s on YOU to switch off your phone and allow time to read, write, create or do whatever it is you know deep in your heart you should be doing. It’s on YOU to be your own fucking cheerleader. It’s truly on YOU to become so magnetic to the life and dreams you desire. It’s on you to start collapsing timelines so your dreams are not something you just think about, you get to feel them, touch them, live them.

You get to have it all. It’s all there for the taking, the ocean view house, the heart bursting with love you could cry at how happy you are, the porsche suv, the overflowing bank account, the impecible health, the dreams you finally get to live that occupied your mind for all this time.

I promise you. It’s all yours. start touching your dreams little by little, everyday, move your dreams from your mind into the physical realm and touch it. Touch it with taking actual fucking actions on your dreams, carving out time to do the thing you have been promising yourself. It's not rocket science. Stop reading, studying, consuming. Take actual fucking action.

It's all on YOU.

Goodbye Tumblr

I wanted to give a 10 page letter but fuck that let’s keep it short and sweet. 

As of today, @strategicho, SbCaribbeanBeauty and @beneficeduvagin will be laid to rest. In my heart, I think this is a perfect time to say bye. Ever since last week,  I had this feeling and I’m ready. Thank you to the people who let me be myself without censorship and embraced me. I went from a curious mind, novice, sugar baby, confident failer, spoiled girlfriend, to a woman who is with a man who sponsors me/gets on my last damn blood vessel nerve and I created a business behind his back and now he wants me to return to being a basic beech again. 

I was offered an opportunity and yeah…THE SUITCASE MUST BE SECURED. 

I didn’t expect this to be emotional but it is. I will genuinely miss you, even the beeches who hate my guts here…I will miss you too.  I’ve intentionally removed myself from my comfort zone and I’m seeing a side of me I always thought I could be but never thought I was worthy of being. My word of advice is to always put yourself as a priority. The situations you have with men/women, make sure you always have something to look forward to when it’s over. Don’t ever take directions from someone who doesn’t know the address to your destination. (me being fake deep) 

If you see anyone who writes in behalf of me or claims to be me issa damn lie. (packs large bag) Meh leaving and meh fah never come back! Poopa Geezus! Kiss mehhh rasssssssss (starts catching the spirit in the bathroom)

 mi hav to leave mon. M'ap kite ou cherie. I LOVE YOU GREEN CARD. Menzami map dispose nan LIRR. Wooooooooy Jezu!

(Vitamin C song starts playing)  As we go on We remember All the times we Had together And as our lives change Come whatever We will still be Hoes forever  

Key Differences In Sexes

I was reading this article by Dr. Nick Neave in which he explains how we are born predisposed to search for the best partner, because all of our ancestors before were doing the exact same things.

Here are some key points that stuck out to me.

Females are smaller and weaker than males, so, in prehistoric times, women and their offspring were prone to being the victims of predators and violence. They needed the support and protection of men who didn’t just have brute force but also had social status in the group, either through their sheer physicality or the strength of their personality. That’s why women still look for a mate of higher social standing. If a woman had a relationship with a socially dominant male, she would immediately get greater access to resources because her social standing would be elevated, too. As we shall see, modern surveys consistently show that women today ape [no pun intended?] those inherent characteristics by looking for partners who are socially dominant and have the respect of their peers, paying close attention to how men interact with, and are treated by, other men.

When couples meet at speed-dating events, typically a man will judge a woman on her looks and youth. His priorities are whether she’s healthy, interested in sex, and can give him children one day. He doesn’t care how much she earns or her social status. Typically, however, a woman’s first question will be: ‘What job do you do?’ It sounds a friendly overture, but what she really wants to know is his social position and earning capacity. Is he an industrious, hard worker, capable of providing for her and their children? Because of his power, even the ugliest politician on the planet has women lining up to go to bed with him… As American statesman Henry Kissinger put it: “Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac.”

Women will pick the powerful over the sexy. Neave goes on to quote a study in which the researchers presented women with photographs of men. The first group, described as doctors, wore designer ties, smart shirts, and sported Rolex watches. The second wore plain shirts and Swatch watches and were described as teachers. The third group wore Burger King uniforms. Women repeatedly picked doctors as potential boyfriends — even though many of the men in the third category were actually more handsome. To women, a man’s looks are less important than earning power and social standing.

It’s much less likely that a rich woman, or even a woman of average wealth, would be willing to reproduce with a poor man. He will not be able to support her during pregnancy and help her raise a healthy child. It’s better for a woman to be with a richer man, no matter how ugly he is. Similarly, beautiful women tend to have beautiful children. And the thing about beautiful children is that people treat them better. Not just adults, but also peers and teachers.

So the next time someone calls you a gold digger, whore, slut, or sell out because you want a strong, successful man, read this as a reminder and FUCK them.

I’m on tumblr drunk commenting under post and I’m not sorry for that ❤️

Expect typos :)

Herapatra

I would say my blessing but i believe in the evil eye. Soooo

Are you a green witch?💵💸💰This is a money spell: sending good vibes so you can pay your bills and buy something nice. Like to charge, Reblog to cast!

Sugaring 101: Upping your bedroom game with some sensuality and simple escort tricks.

*** Warning: Only try this with the sugardaddies you actually like and feel some attachment too. And definitely trust ***

Please heed the warning or you will crash and burn if you attempt the following.

PREPARE YOUR MEETING PLACE: If you’re regularly meeting at a hotel room, get daddy to get you a prepaid card so that you can go ahead and rent the room ahead of your visit. This will save him the trouble of doing it and allow you a chance to control your interaction. A lot of escorts do this for that very same reason: control.  For him, the businessman or exec who’s dealing with all kinds of shit this takes some pressure off him. What you have to understand about a successful man is that he’s always under pressure. He’s getting beat to shit daily from work, life, and home and he’s probably middle-aged meaning half of daddy’s life is already gone. Daunting. You need to be the calming voice in his life. When he gets there, of course be in your best lingerie, smelling good, etc, with the sheets pulled back on the bed. Or, answer the door naked, in a pair of red bottoms, etc. Or, ask to keep one of his ties for a souvenir on a previous date and when your next visit at the room arrived, have it on and nothing else.

If you host your visits at your residence, then ask daddy what kind of snack he likes. Fruit? Have some strawberries or grapes waiting for him when he comes over. He likes wine, etc.,? Have a glass poured. You can enjoy glass too. Its ok. If you have a problem drinking with daddy, refer to my warning above. :)

RELAX HIM: Give daddy a massage. Not an hour, just 10 minutes to break him down. This is a good time to ask for shit. If he has dry skin, bring some oil in your purse. First rub his back, making sure you’re getting in between those shoulder blades, etc. Skip the legs, lower torso etc. Unnecessary. He’s tense from meetings and conference calls all day. Turn him over and rub him briefly on his chest before you work your way down to his love zone. Rub his dick and don’t forget the boys. When he’s nice hard, start fellatio (if you do fellatio).  If he doesn’t want a massage or doesn’t have time that’s cool. You need to put it out there anyway. 

Time taken: 7 - 10 minutes

LAY YOUR HEAD ON HIS CHEST: After sex, cuddle up next to him and lay your head on his chest. If he has little or no hair this will be easy. If he’s a hairy bastard you might find another place to lay your head but the goal is to cuddle him. Use the hair to your advantage and play with it as you lie there. Twist it in your fingers or some shit. Make him feel like he just pleased you in every way possible. He probably didn’t, but it’s all about the fantasy. This is easy to do if you like him. Refer to my warning above! Say something meaningful like, “That was good daddy.”  If you have psychological hang-ups about calling him daddy then say “That was good baby..”  or “Mmmm I needed that.” All too often chicks are just lying there side by side with him in her own world. You can remain in your own world just do it cuddling him. This is also a good habit to have when you get married. :) 

Time taken: Not applicable

CLEAN HIM UP: Grab a warm damp warm towel, and remove the condom. Wipe up his penis and go put the condom in the toilet. If no condom was used, you can still clean him up if his penis is about stick to his leg. If  he’s caught off your guard, or ask what you’re doing, tell him “I’m just taking care of you daddy…” I got this one from several Escorts I’ve seen over the years. Trust me. You want some brownie points? Try it a few times. You can even be cute about it and say, “Gosh, you had a lot in there.” Or my FAVORITE “….I see you’ve been saving up for me. You had a lot!” The latter is perfect for you babies seeing daddy once a week. When you’re done cleaning him up, lay back on him. This is also another good time to ask for shit. 

Time taken: 30 - 45 seconds

TASTE IT: Now I might lose a few of you here but it’s my duty to put it out there anyway.  While you cleaning him up, put a forefinger in your mouth and say, “Mmm you taste good.” He might pass the hell out. If you’re good at this he won’t know you don’t actually have some cum on your finger. Hopefully, some of you catch what I mean on the latter. :) Or, if you swallow anyway then nothing is wrong with a little protein on your finger and tasting it.

Time taken:  2 seconds

PUT HIS SHIRT ON: If you’re going to be in the hotel room awhile, try this one out. This will kill him. If he wears good smelling cologne capitalize on it. With the shirt on, pull the collar up to your nose and say, “Mmm I love your smell daddy…” You won’t be lying if he wears good cologne. Chances are you already noticed his cologne but you were too much of a bitch to say you smell good. This is the sexiest shit EVER though. Nothing cuter than your 110, 120, 150 lbs ass in his big ass shirt. One of my previous sugarbabies used to do this. Drove me crazy.

Oh and congratulations!!!! Now he’s going to be thinking about you the rest of the day. You’ve inadvertently left your perfume on his shirt. Now he’s gonna be smelling your pretty little ass the rest of the day. Just don’t leave any lipstick!

Take a selfie with the shirt on. Send it to him days later in between your visits.

Time taken: 10 seconds to put on his shirt. Time elapsed before he wants to take it back off and fuck again: 60 seconds. Likelihood of you getting that Celine purse: High.

HELP HIM GET DRESSED: This one is especially important for the busy executive, businessman or man that works in a professional setting and he’s on his lunch break, or on his way home to his vanilla life. No, don’t help him pull his trousers up. But you can help with the belt as you kiss him on the chest. I’m saying as he buttons his shirt, go help him. Help him button the ones on his sleeves as well. And most important help put his tie back on and straighten it and his collar afterwards. Then finish it with a kiss. If you don’t get a chance to do all that, then collect his shoes and socks and bring them to him. Don’t’ try and put those on - that’s just corny. You’ll love his reaction I promise.

Time taken: 30 – 45 seconds

CUDDLE HIM: Recently, I learned something about myself. I read somewhere that one of the reasons why I cheat is because I as a man want to be cuddled and held. I thought this was bullshit but it’s quite true.  I know this is contrary to all the SD advice you’ve been getting but take it from a long standing member of the sugar community its true. I’ll explain this one better by giving a real life example. Now when I would first come over, Nebraska and I would sit on her bed and talk and she’d find some way to wrap her legs around and hug me like I was her long lost boyfriend. I was going through some things and it felt good for somebody in this world to seemingly take an interest in my plight. Then, she’d just sit there and stare at me like I was a big piece of steak. Staring at my mouth. When I’d talk too long she’d start taking off my clothes. While she was getting me undressed, she was always say one of these 3 things:  “ I know you didn’t’ come here to do all that talking…” or “You just gonna talk?” or my favorite “Or we gonna fuck or not daddy?” One day, after sex I was sitting on the bed and she climbed on the bed, sat down behind me so that I was in between her legs. As I was talking so she kissed me gingerly on my back and also laid her head on my back as we talked.  This shit made me feel like a king. When Nebraska and I ended our arrangement she said, “Well I was actually genuinely interested in you…” This is why I mentioned only try these techniques when you have some type of genuine attraction to daddy. Its easier to do and you won’t be faking which will speak volumes.

Time taken: none. You were going to be doing all this talking anyway, just on one side of the bed or side by side as you sat on the bed. The difference here is you’re cuddling him while you do it.  

Now, I’m about to drop half of you right here.

LET HIM CUM TWICE: You’re laying there in his arms, listening to his bullshit. Reach down and play with his love while he’s talking. After a moment ask, “You got another round in you daddy?” Regardless of his answer, go down and start blowing him again. It should be cleaned if you followed my advice earlier – clean him up. Anyway, if he said no, he’ll appreciate your dedication and let you try and revive him before he stops you. If he says yes, then its self explanatory.  Relax though. Your middle-aged daddy most likely won’t have a second round in him anyway. This METHOD is extremely effective with the sugarbabies that only see their daddy once a week.  But, for other arrangements its works quite well too.  

A lot of chicks are jumping up, cleaning up and rushing out the door, saying how you have so much to do today. Nothing kills a relationship like feeling like you’re being used (even though you actually are!). But remember, you want him around awhile. This is definitely a powerful tool to make that happen. Sends a clear signal that you’re all about pleasing him. (I hope the latter doesn’t get me in trouble). Trust me. An extra several minutes is cheap time to spend if you knew you’d be getting another 4 - 6 months out of daddy.

Time taken: 5 – 7 minutes

FINISHING TOUCHES: Put the finishing touches on it. When you’ve helped him finish getting dressed, and you know he’s on his way back to work or back to business, when he heads out the door say something encouraging like, “Go get’em baby.“ Or if he told you about some crap going on at work, take the opp to regurgitate it. “Fuck Bob. He’s an asshole. You should have got the promotion.” blah blah. You get the point. The latter can be applied even as you both do a last kiss before you head out the door. Again, it’s all about the finishing touches.

Time taken: 2 seconds

I know some of you are saying, “I ain’t doing all that shit.” But remember you are selling a fantasy. You’re giving the most precious part of your body away. Only to have your average sugardaddy relationship end in 2 to 3 months? All because he’s had his fill of your kitty. I assure you incorporating these techniques into your visits with daddy will go a long way and add months onto your relationship. This will help keep him coming back for more and more. Another way to put it, why not hook daddy for several months or even a few years and milk him dry (no pun intended) with just a few extra things?

I put the time on the end of these sections to show how long these little techniques actually take. Like I always say just a little extra goes a LONG way. These simple yet EXTREMELY effective techniques WILL prolong your sugar relationship. So why not incorporate them into your experience? I GUARANTEE daddy will respond to this stuff. I know because I’ve had it all done to me before and it blew me away then and it blows me away now as I type!

Damn I’m horny now. And my visit with sugarbaby isn’t for a few days.

Time to close the office door and get in a little pornhub and redtube.