وَالتِّينِ وَالزَّيْتُونِ

“As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.”

— Andrew Carnegie

spring 🌸 ahhh, my favorite season... as usual, i spend most of my days working and studying... contrary to popular belief, i do enjoy studying. i think i'll always be a lifelong learner.

i miss reading

From the sky ⁧of AlUla

credit to: @Astro_MAA on X

Jonice Webb, Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect

Having a traumatic childhood means you cannot talk even objectively about your basic foundational experiences without it being "venting", even if you're not actually venting. You just straight up have a huge chunk of your life you can't talk about, full stop, without it being trauma dumping.

And it not being socially acceptable to talk about your own childhood is super alienating. Sometimes people want to know why, and any answer you can give them is going to be off putting.

It's to the point I get irritated when something I said is framed as venting when I'm literally just talking about my life experiences, doing my best to keep emotion out of it.

"you do not owe friends instant responses to every social message, and anxiety over not receiving the same is something for the anxious person to work on, not your responsibility to totally change for"

AND

"you have to put some effort into friendships, which can include open communication with your friends about how to make both of you comfortable re: messaging. expecting other people to do ALL of the work ALL of the time, in terms of getting in touch and carrying on the conversation, may make them feel ignored and/or and leave"

are ideas that can and should coexist