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BPD Resources Masterlist

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Creating this has made me realise just how much people underestimate/downplay the stigma surrounding BPD. It’s infuriating.

Anyway, here is the official resource masterlist for BPD. I will be adding to it as time goes on:)

BPD stigma

BPD stigma among clinicians

I have BPD and here’s 6 things I wish people understood

Mental health advocacy is pointless if you’ll support people with anxiety and depression but won’t support those with personality disorders

No I don’t need helping learning how to deal with a “borderline girlfriend”, I need help dealing with myself

Emotional abuse tag and BPD

The results when searching up how to manage BPD

BPD and suicide

Educating yourself on BPD

Basic info on BPD

NPD + BPD comorbidity

Why is it referred to as ‘borderline personality disorder’?

Facts vs. fiction about BPD

Living with BPD

BPD things that people don’t talk about enough

Loving with BPD is hard

Living, breathing, BPD

What it’s like living with BPD: a lived experience perspective

Managing BPD

Coping With BPD: DBT & CBT skills to soothe the symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder

The dialectal therapy skills workbook

A quick exercise: challenging self-hate

Different forms of therapy

Deep breathing gifs

Splitting with BPD

Chloe’s splitting checklist and reminders

What is splitting?

How I cope with splitting (written by someone with BPD)

BPD positivity so you don’t have to go looking

People with low/no empathy still have feelings

Several positive affirmations for people with cluster b disorders

If you have BPD, I love you

Some of the best people in my life are borderlines

You’re not a monster for having a personality disorder

So much love to my BPD bi boys out there

Positivity for systems with BPD

Positive traits of people with BPD

People with BPD deserve as much slack as neurotypicals

BPD safe blogs (also safe for cluster b disorders in general!)

@borderline-culture-is

@bpd00m

@citrine-rabbit

@cluster-b-culture-is

@gentle-positivity

@hauntedselves

@hellbrainspeaks

@your-fave-is-crippled

@mirroringshards

ive got like loose thoughts about That scene from white lotus last night that r kind of percolating in a weird way mostly not about the scene itself but about the way its being received and what that speaks to...the whole monologue doesnt exist as its own object but exists so that you can see ricks reactions to it, he is the audience surrogate mutely horrified at this deviant he thought was a man but is actually a different, abject thing. and you know hes different and perverse and deserving of every derision bc he expresses the desire to be a trans woman . not just a woman, which is bad enough, but he finds transness itself to be desirable. the character himself never needs to be third-gendered for the show to communicate that he should be through nothing but silent shock at him saying it at all, he is expressing dangerous insanity and therefore he is dangerous and insane, he can and should no longer be classed as a normal (implicitly safe) man.

and idk the deep deep transmisogyny of that is like unavoidable right? this character is more or less the image summoned into the mind of transphobes when asked to picture a trans woman: a man who is more dangerous than a normal man through his perverse desires, who deserves to be shamed and looked at goggle-eyed and treated as a lesser thing, a person for whom there is not much left to do but laugh at and violently punish and maybe fuck. faggot-as-abject, right. i guess it shouldnt boggle me that the reception to this is largely in line with that, sharing ricks shocked face and adding very little, or else chocking it up to the entitlement and deviance of (white) men, or saying that the monologue was more insane and perverse than the incestuous kiss from later in the episode. the audience, encouraged to share ricks silent horror, treats the character as a horrifying object.

i guess what gets me is how uniformly on-board people seem with this as entirely deserved, the only possible and reasonable reaction. even people for whom id classify that as really weird, like, trans women. there is a notable contingent of responses to the scene that are transfems saying like 'yeah this is what every chaser sounds like 🙄' and sometimes explicitly sometimes implicitly agreeing with the premise that such a person is basically just a pervert who deserves at best public exposure and ridicule and at worst to be entirely discarded as worthless and unsalvageable. and like...thats you. you know when they say that theyre talking about you right? this is how they perceive you, theyre not drawing a distinction between you and that guy, youre agreeing with the very premise of the violence done against you, that its justified and necessary.

which just sends me off thinking about how a certain kind of transfem chaser is broadly received as an abject kind of person because theyre transfeminized. this was the whole premise of envy/desire, no? that the person youre into turns out not to be 'normal' but to be some sort of gross failure at both masculinity and femininity, a lesser third thing that doesnt understand it can never be taken seriously as a person much less a romantic object? i dunno. at the same time it feels callous to disregard the way chasers genuinely do deperson and use the trans women they chase, and similarly to disregard the way the character in the scene was entirely dependent on being able as a white man to instrumentalize asian femininity, leveraging racial domination and so on. but for this to take on the totality of the conversation--'chasers are only seen as bad bc they harm trans women' & 'the character is only seen as horrific for being racist towards asian women'--feels like its missing a huge chuck of whats actually going on.

You ever just... yell about #adhd??

wedding bells <3

erm. what the flip. cant even explain why im playing this game again in the year of 2023 but.. yea.. i still love this dude

He's so girlypop 💅

Gojo and croptops >>>

agreed to do pet play and she immediately euthanizes me

so many of the transfems i know spent their time pre-transition performing a kind of lifelong exercise in self-deprivation, the goal of which was to find out exactly how little a person needed to live. they starved themselves, dressed carelessly, shunned friends, and hollowed themselves out so as not to be burdens on anyone but themselves.

i see it now, too, in the girls around me. i'll ask if they want care – a home-cooked meal, relaxed company, sex without the expectation of reciprocation – and they say no, no, thank you, i don't need it; what would you like, what do you want, because in their head they're still doing that awful calculus, still training themselves to disappear in the eyes of the people around them.

i don't think i'd have died without transition – not in the conventional sense, at least – but to take that leap, i had to stop thinking of myself as a human experiment in fuel-efficient living and start nurturing the anemic, atrophied flame of desire in my heart. i had to learn to eat well, to exercise, to style myself beautiful, but harder than that, i had to learn to ask the people around me to work on my behalf in order to enrich my life and give me the things i wanted.

and i did it; i learned. and it was agony, but courage is a muscle you can train, and every day i get better at accepting gifts with the hungry gratitude i never learned in my years and years as a sad, scared, lonely boy.

so be patient with the trans girls in your life. better than that: be proactive, attentive, generous; be forceful, if you have to, and learn to distinguish real discomfort from the terrified reflex of self-denial that so many of us once learned to rely on.

and if you are so lucky as to love a trans girl, you must insist upon her. you must insist upon her happiness, her comfort, her pleasure, and her rest, because she may still not yet know how to make those demands for herself. if you can devote any amount of energy to becoming an engine that nurtures the flame of even a single tgirl then there is a place for you in trans heaven, which as far as i'm concerned is the only one worth going to