Terms & Definitions:

Swingers: Typically a couple in which both partners are allowed to engage in sexual activities with other men and women outside of their relationship, often referred to as “full swap.”

Hotwife: A wife who has her husband’s permission to engage in sexual activities with other men. Also the term used to describe the fantasy with the same scenario. In this relationship all extra marital activities are approved of by the husband. Trust, respect, and the couple’s love for each other are central to the relationship.

Cuckold: A man in a relationship with a woman who engages in sexual activities with other men and women outside of their relationship, usually with a level of cheating and or humiliation. -Cuckolding

Cuckoldress: The female half of a cuckold relationship. A woman who engages in sex with men other than her husband, usually imposing a level humiliation on her husband about her extra marital activities.

Vixen: One term used to describe a woman in a Hotwife relationship.

Stag: One term used to describe a strong male figure in a Hotwife relationship.

Cucky: A humiliating term used to describe a man in a cuckold relationship.

Bull: The name often given to a wife’s repeat lover in a hotwife or cuckold arrangement

Reclaim: A term used to describe the passionate sex couples often experience the first time they have sex after one of them has has sex with someone outside of their relationship.

Hall Pass: Often used to describe a onetime “free pass” given to one of the members in a relationship to enjoy one sexual encounter with a person outside of the relationship.

Half Open Marriage: Used to describe a relationship in which one member of the relationship has the other‘s permission to enjoy complete sexual freedom, while the one remains completely faithful.

Shared Wife: A wife whose husband “shares” her sexually with other men.

MFM: A three some involving two men and one woman. In this arrangement the men are straight and focus on the woman.

MMF: A three some involving two men and one woman in which the men are bi-sexual and engage in sexual activities with each other as well as the woman.

FMF: A three some involving two women and one man. In this arrangement the women are straight and focus on the man.

FFM: A three some involving two women and one man in which the women are bi-sexual and engage in sexual activities with each other as well as the man.

Humiliation: A sexual kink which usually involves the woman verbally abusing the man about his inadequacies and inability to satisfy her, most often because of his penis size or his lack of stamina.

Tease and Denial: One partner sexually teases and leads the other on, only to get them excited and then deny them sexual gratification.

Edging: Binging a person right to the edge of orgasm and then slowing or stopping sexual activities thus denying them the pleasure of orgasm.

Ruined Orgasm: Bringing a person right to the point of orgasm, and then stopping resulting in a weak orgasm. This is usually achieved through the use of oral sex or masturbation.

SPH: Small Penis Humiliation, verbal abuse used to humiliate a man about his lack of length and or girth.

Male Chastity: A kink in which the man is most often secured in a chastity device, referred to as a cock cage, and is denied the pleasures of sexual intercourse as well as masturbation. Couples who engage in this kink often try to push the boundaries of how long the man can go without sexual release. This fetish often includes a level of humiliation as well.

Cock Cage: A metal or plastic device which locks to secure the penis. It is used impede the man’s ability to masturbate as well as achieve a full erection without being release by his key holder.

Key Holder: Most often the wife of a man confined to a cock cage. The key holder has full authority over the man’s ability to and the frequency of orgasms allowed. Often the key holder will use time in the cock cage as a punishment for her dissatisfaction with something the man has said or done.

Pegging: Used to describe a fetish in which the female uses a sex toy or strap on to perform anal sex on her male partner.

Wife Breeding: A fetish in which the wife is involved in unprotected sex with men other than her husband. The men ejaculate in the wife, thus presenting the possibility of pregnancy by men other than the husband.

Clean Up: An activity in which the man cleans up a woman after she has had sex with another man. Most often this is done after a lover has ejaculated into the woman’s vagina and the woman’s partner performs oral sex on her licking up as much of the other man’s sperm as possible.

Sloppy Seconds: A term used to describe the act of having sex with a woman after she has already had sex with another man. Most often after the first man has ejaculated inside of the woman’s vagina creating a “sloppy” situation for the second man.

Size Queen: A woman who prefers man with very large penises. Often with minimum size requirements which must be met before she will engage in sexual intercourse with a man.

BBC: Big Black Cock, used to describe the oversized penis of a black man.

BWC: Big White Cock, used to describe the oversized penis of a white man.

Queen Of Spades: The name sometimes given to a white woman who prefers sex with black men, often with above average penises.

NSFW Asks

1:When did you lose your virginity? 2: Rough sex or soft sex? 3: Do you have any unusual kinks/fetishes? 4: Weirdest place you’ve had sex? 5: Favourite sex position? 6: Do you like to be dominant or submissive? 7: Have you ever had any one night stands? 8: Sex on the bed, couch or the floor? 9: Have you ever had sex in a public place? 10: Have you ever been caught masturbating? 11: What does your favourite sexy underwear look like? 12: How often do you have sex? 13: Is there anybody right now you’d like to have sex with? 14: Do you prefer giving or receiving oral sex? 15: Most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you during sex? 16: A song you’d listen to during hard/rough/kinky sex? 17: A song you’d listen to during soft/slow/passionate sex? 18: Are you into dressing up for sex? 19: Would you prefer sex in the bath or sex in the shower? 20: If you could have sex with anyone right now, who would it be? 21: Have you ever had a threesome? If not, would you? 22: Do you/would you use sex toys? 23: Have you ever sent someone a dirty text/picture? 24: Would you have sex with your best friend? 25: Is there anything you do after sex? (for example, smoke, eat, drink) 26: Something that will never fail to get you horny? 27: Early morning sex or late night sex? 28: Favourite body part on the opposite sex? 29: Favourite body part on the same sex? 30: Something that you have hidden in your room that you don’t want anyone to find: 31: Weirdest sexual act some has performed [or tried to perform] on/with you: 32: Have you ever tasted yourself? [If no, would you?] [If yes, what did you think?] 33: Is it ever okay to not use a condom: 34: A food that you would like to use during a sexual experience: 35: Worst possible time to get horny: 36: Do you like it when your sexual partner moans? 37: How much fapping is too much fapping: 38: Best sexual complement you ever got: 39: Favorite foreplay activities: 40: What do you wear to bed? 41: When was the first time you masturbated: 42: Do you have any nude/masturbating pictures/video of yourself? 43: Have you ever/when was the last time you had sex outside? 44: Have/would you ever have sex in public? 45: Have/would you ever had a threesome? 46: What is one random object you’ve used to masturbate? 47: Do you watch gay/lesbian porn? why/why not? 48: Do you like oral sex? (why/why not) 49: How do you feel about tattoos on someone you are interested in? 50: How would you feel about taking someones virginity? 51: Is there any food you would NOT recommend using during a sexual encounter? 52: Would you rather be a pornstar or a prostitute? 53: Do you watch porn? 54: Have you ever been called a freak? Why? 55: Do you feel comfortable going “commando”? 56: Would you have a problem with going down on someone if they hadn’t shaved their pubic hair? 57: If you could give yourself head, would you? 58: Booty or Boobs? 59: Have you ever cheated on someone? (Why?) 60: If you were the other sex for a day, what are five things you would do? 61: have you ever watched someone masturbate? 62: has anyone ever watched you masturbate? 63. Have you ever had an erection and someone noticed? 64. What is your method of masturbation? (ie. toys, clitorial, prostate) 65. What is your bra/penis size? 66. What is the strangest thing you have ever put up your vagina/anus? 67. When was the last time you masturbated? 68. When was the last time you had sex? 69. When was the last time you watched porn? 70. Have you ever bought a sex toy? If so, which one did you buy last? First sex toy? If not, which one do you plan on buying when you do? 71. Guys:Circumsized? 72. Which not-genital part of your body do you like being touched? 73. Which genital part of your body do you like being touched? 74. Girls:Are you able to achieve orgasm just through breast stimulation? 75. Have you anonymously sent a sexual ask to someone on tumblr? 76. When was the last time you have had a wet dream? 77. Which wet dream was your favorite? 78. Is there a friend you would willingly have sex with? 79. Is there a celebrity/character you would willingly have sex with? 80. Favorite sexual position? 81. Do you like being called a slut or whore in bed? 82. Are you into any BDSM? 83. Have you ever wanted to have sex with someone but knew you couldnt for any reason? Why? 84. Do you like dirty talk? 85. Are you loud or quiet during sex? Masturbation? 86. Have you ever been inturrepted during sex or masturbation? Who/what? 87. What kind of porn do you like to watch? 88. Have you ever confessed to someone that you got an erection over them? What about masturbated to them? 89. Have you ever masturbated because your sexual partner wasn’t there when you needed them? 90. Have you ever had a one night stand? Do you still keep in contact with them? 91. Have you ever had a friends with benefits? Are they still beneficial? 92. Ask whatever you want

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Things to Say to Someone in Top Drop/Dom Drop

I’m okay

I love you

Thank you

It’s alright

I’m not hurt

I’m not hurt too badly

You’re lovely/wonderful/kind

I enjoyed it

It was worth it

Take your time

Do you need anything?

Do you want a cuddle?

Do you want me to get dressed/take the collar off/put the crop away?

Do you want to talk about it?

I’m here

You’re not a bad person

Top drop/dom drop usually comes from shock, guilt or insecurity about the way you have just treated someone whose well-being you care about very much. Like sub drop, it is usually accompanied by a fall in endorphins and general energy levels. Especially for aces (who I find have a greater need to be in the right mindset/’zone’ for play and intimacy), a ‘snap’ moment where you break out of play mode can throw you emotionally, and the end of play causes a similar reassessment or double-take at what happened during the scene.

Dominants in drop require the same kind of care as subs, but a different kind of reassurance.

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