I'm In A Groupchat With A Bunch Of Queer People And Someone Made A Joke About How Dating Someone Who

I'm in a groupchat with a bunch of queer people and someone made a joke about how dating someone who is in the closet is a terrible idea and everyone kind of laughed and agreed without discussing it more. Is that really a thing? I've been dating the same girl for almost a year and she's in the closet, and it hasn't really affected our relationship, but now I'm nervous

no it’s not a thing, and it’s a shitty joke to make, but people make it a lot. they usually mean it in the usual, “haha closeted people are ashamed of being lgbt/closeted people hate themselves/they’re scared to be seen in public on a date/you have to pretend to be just friends” way, which is infuriating. closeted gay/trans people aren’t necessarily self loathing or ashamed, and even if they are, those traits aren’t exclusive to closeted people, and considering that most of us have been closeted at some point or another, we should be able to fucking empathize with people who have to do that all the time.

we all know why closeted people are closeted. it’s because homophobia/transphobia is alive and real and has dire fucking consequences for a lot of us. no one, esp other lgbt people who know both the consequences of being out and the consequences of being closeted, should ostracize or belittle those who aren’t ready or able to come out. 

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