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seeing people say shit like “i wish i as born gay” or “i wish i was born a different gender” makes me s o sad bc ill bet you dimes to dollars that person is on the lgbt spectrum but because of ingrained phobias and the way media portrays people like us, it feels like an insurmountable implausibility, when its really not. if you wish you were gay, or trans, or whatever, then like, maybe you should give the introspection a chance. compulsive heteronormativity is real and it can truly make you believe youre cis and straight and that you never need to think more into it than that.
If someone asks me what Kingdom Hearts 3 is about, I’m just going to show them this
Me in history class: Wow, humanity has been through some fascinating times! I wonder if I’ll ever live through major historical events!
Me now: NO NO NO NO NO I WANT TO GET OFF THIS RIDE
I made a teensy tiny Longfurb for my bjd Jonah.
It’s a bit messy around the face. I think i’m gonna keep trying to refine this idea. I was considering teeny tiny printed face plates maybe instead? But i’m not sure how small one of those 3d printed buddy faces can go. I’ll have to ask my dad to test it “how small can you print one of these?” lol. Because just attaching that to a small plush noodle would be WAY easier.
“Most autistic people who are capable of formulating questions have frequently experienced the following scenario: We ask for information that we need in order to prepare ourselves for a new experience. Instead of answering our questions, NT people tell us that we don’t need to ask these questions at all. We just need to relax and stop being so anxious. The fact is that being able to ask questions, and getting clear answers to our questions, and thus knowing what to expect, are often the very things autistic people need in order to be able to relax and not be anxious. Asking a lot of questions about the details of a situation is usually not a “maladaptive behavior” that increases an autistic person’s anxiety. More often it’s an adaptive strategy that an autistic person is using to reduce anxiety or to prevent being in an anxiety-provoking situation in the first place. It’s very important for us to have thorough explanations and ample opportunities to ask questions.”
— Jim Sinclair, “Cultural Commentary: Being Autistic Together”
‘am i Having A Brain Problem or Being a Shithead’: a short procrastination checklist
aka why tf am i procrastinating on The Thing (more like a flowchart, actually)
lots of people who have executive function difficulties worry about whether they’re procrastinating on a task out of laziness/simply wanting to be a jerk or mental struggles. this checklist might help you figure out which it is at any given time! (hint: it’s almost never laziness or being a jerk.) (obligatory disclaimer: this is just what works for me! something different might work better for you.)
1) do I honestly intend to start the task despite my lack of success?
yes: it’s a Brain Problem. next question
no: it’s shitty to say one thing & do another. better be honest with myself & anyone expecting me to do the task.
2) am I fed, watered, well-rested, medicated properly, etc?
yes: next question
no: guess what? this is the real next task
3) does the idea of starting the task make me feel scared or anxious?
yes: Anxiety Brain. identify what’s scaring me first.
no: next question
4) do I know how to start the task?
yes: next question
no: ADHD Brain. time to make an order of operations list.
5) do I have everything I need to start the task?
yes: next question
no: ADHD Brain lying to me about the steps again, dangit. first task is ‘gather the materials’.
6) why am i having a hard time switching from my current task to this new task?
i’m having fun doing what i’m doing: it’s okay to have fun doing a thing! if task is time-sensitive, go to next question.
i have to finish doing what i’m doing: might be ADHD brain. can I actually finish the current task or will I get trapped in a cycle? does this task really need to be finished?
the next task will be boring/boring-er than the current task: ADHD brain. re-think the next task. what would make it exciting? what am I looking forward to?
I might not have enough time to complete the task: ADHD brain wants to finish everything it starts. (if task is time-sensitive, go to next question)
i just want to make the person who asked me to do it angry: sounds like anxiety brain trying to punish itself, because I know I’ll be miserable if someone is angry at me. why do i think I deserve punishment?
no, I seriously want to piss them off: okay, i’m being a shithead
7) have I already procrastinated so badly that I now cannot finish the task in time?
yes: ADHD brain is probably caught in a guilt-perfection cycle. since I can’t have the task done on time, i don’t even want to start.
reality check: having part of a thing done is almost always better than none of a thing done. if I can get an extension, having part of it done will help me keep from stalling out until the extension deadline. i’ll feel better if I at least try to finish it.
no, there’s still a chance to finish on time: ADHD brain thinks that I have all the time in the world, but the truth is I don’t.
reality check: if i’m having fun doing what I’m doing, I can keep doing it, but I should probably set a timer & ask someone to check on me to make sure I start doing the task later today.
8) I’ve completed the checklist and still don’t know what’s wrong!
probably wasn’t honest enough with myself. take one more look.
if I’m still mystified, ask a friend to help me talk it out.
hope this helps some of you! YOU’RE DOING GREAT SWEETIE DON’T GIVE UP ON YOU
What y’all think ‘gifted child’ discourse is saying: I used to be special and now I’m not and that makes me sad.
What ‘gifted child’ discourse is ACTUALLY saying: The way many educational systems treat children who’ve been identified as ‘gifted’ is actively harmful in that it a. obliges kids to give up socialising with their same-age peers in favour of constantly courting the approval of adult ‘mentors’ who mostly don’t give a shit about them, b. demands that they tie their entire identity to a set of standards that’s not merely unsustainable, but intentionally so, because its unstated purpose is to weed out the ‘unworthy’ rather than to provide useful goals for self-improvement, and c. denies them opportunities to learn useful life skills in favour of training them up in an excruciatingly narrow academic skill-set that’s basically useless outside of an institutional career path that the vast majority of them will never be allowed to pursue.
Have I told y’all about my husband’s Fork Theory? If I did already, pretend I didn’t, I’m an old.
So the Spoon Theory is a fundamental metaphor used often in the chronic pain/chronic illness communities to explain to non-spoonies why life is harder for them. It’s super useful and we use that all the time. But it has a corollary. You know the phrase, “Stick a fork in me, I’m done,” right? Well, Fork Theory is that one has a Fork Limit, that is, you can probably cope okay with one fork stuck in you, maybe two or three, but at some point you will lose your shit if one more fork happens. A fork could range from being hungry or having to pee to getting a new bill or a new diagnosis of illness. There are lots of different sizes of forks, and volume vs. quantity means that the fork limit is not absolute. I might be able to deal with 20 tiny little escargot fork annoyances, such as a hangnail or slightly suboptimal pants, but not even one “you poked my trigger on purpose because you think it’s fun to see me melt down” pitchfork.
This is super relevant for neurodivergent folk. Like, you might be able to deal with your feet being cold or a tag, but not both. Hubby describes the situation as “It may seem weird that I just get up and leave the conversation to go to the bathroom, but you just dumped a new financial burden on me and I already had to pee, and going to the bathroom is the fork I can get rid of the fastest.”
Nearly every autistic person on the face of the Earth has been groomed for abuse from an early age.
We don’t attract abuse by being idiosyncratic or sincere. To say that is to blame our personalities. To say that that is to make yet another attempt at getting us to suppress ourselves, ruining our emotional and physical health.
We don’t stumble into abuse because we’re naive or poor judges of character. To say that is to infantilize us. To say that is to make yet another attempt at robbing us of our independence and agency, impoverishing our life experiences.
We find ourselves in toxic, abusive friendships and relationships because we are groomed for that shit by the authority figures in our lives who teach us how to behave and blend in while ignoring the nuances of interpersonal interaction - particularly the nuances of the sorts of interaction that happen when acquaintances become friends, when friends become close friends, or when our relationships with those friends become romantic and/or sexual. They simply don’t see those stages of relating as something we want, or, if we do want them, however desperately, they are dismissed as something that’s simply not in the hand we were dealt. We are taught only how to get by in shallow interactions, and left to trial and error should we wish to pursue anything beyond that.
Unfortunately, a lot of that “error” entails emotional, psychological, physical, and sexual abuse.
Nope. Don’t really have an excuse for this.
And no one said Jim Miku wasn’t wearing the boots.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jpIlShZ2tEI
I have no words except... yes. Just, so much yes.
TPoH: Update!
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It is better than nutella. *dodges shots*
So I heard from dunstachim that the Netherlands eats bread with butter and chocolate sprinkles!?!?
This picture looked good so I want it on my blog.
Don’t mind me. I’ll be over here contemplating time and my own mortality.
On May 6, 2005 Kingdom Hearts: Chain of Memories was released in Europe on the Game Boy Advanced. Happy 10th anniversary to Kingdom Hearts: Chain of Memories!
Welcome to Kingdom Hearts, where both the clothing and stories are needlessly complicated (no seriously, you’re going to need graphs to understand the story beyond the first game...).
also I feel I should tell you guys that a friend of me persuaded me to watch a playthrough of Kingdom Hearts because I never played it and what the effity
am I enjoying this? I think I am but I am so confused and oh my god why does everything have zips this is amazing
This.
Games like Animal Crossing that give you a reason to play every day are great for coping with anxiety/depression because yeah life is terrifying but that bush you planted today? It’s gonna be slightly bigger tomorrow and that at least is something to look forward to
Hell, I identified with this character as a sheltered catholic school kid who couldn't even conceive of this stuff...
The 40 coolest women in superhero comic book movies, ranked.
Eh. Worth a shot.
Hey folks, that time of year is upon us once again. Wow, its almost hard to believe this is going to be the third year I’m doing this. I wish you all best of luck.
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This is the second time I've gotten into something just when it was about to get even more awesome! Yeah!
SPECIAL NON-ANIMAL CROSSING ANNOUNCEMENT
TWIN PEAKS SEASON 3 CONFIRMED FOR 2016!!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nNHsA4WIFvc
(sorry for the off-topic post but I’m very excited and I felt the need to alert you guys of the good news).
Cause what this blog needed was more animal crossing. ;p Anyway, placing stuff I got from the Sea Bass Emporium in my WIP houses. Appropriate, since Dia (green hair) runs a secret sea bass based cult.
I got 12-15 dandelions minus the already white ones (like 4-5 of them). Can't help with the dress, though.
http://mayorvillager.tumblr.com/post/102129700470/screaming-because-moniques-birthday-is-coming-up
screaming because Monique’s birthday is coming up and i want to get her some pretty clothes. i’m looking to buy a pink party dress or yellow polka dot dress.
i’m also getting ready to update my dream address because it’s been 10000 years, i’m hella slow and stupid with that sort of thing. ...
Scuz me gotta go put moneys in my nintendo account 'k bye
Here’s a video of the theme so you can hear the sounds/bgm!