Makingsenseofwhathappened - Makingsenseofwhathappened

“It’s not brave to have boundaries

it’s just basic hygiene for your soul.”

-Jenny Slate

Muted Square in the Zoom

They didn’t say my name in the meeting. Not once. I was there and had written half the report.

The credit went around the table like a bottle passed hand to hand. I watched it skip over me.

At lunch, I sat with them. One of them asked me, “Are you new?”

I’ve been here fourteen months.

After a while, you stop correcting people. You stop reminding them that you’re part of it. You become good at inhabiting the background. Or a muted square in the Zoom.

But I’m still here. Still opening the spreadsheet. Still writing the copy. Still dressing up and disappearing.

They didn’t see me. But I saw everything.

They asked if I wanted to file a complaint. I said no I’m trying to stay employed, not enter The Hunger Games.

It is something that happened to you. 

It is something that can have a big impact on you. 

But it was not because of you.

And it doesn’t define you or your self-worth.

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Kiki Smith: Nuit (1992)

just because

no one saw it

doesn’t mean

you imagined it

Your life is a construction. Keep building...

“Construction Worker” by Vladimir Serov (1964)

Boss: "Thanks for bringing this to our attention. We'll circle back..."

Me: