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deconstructing ableist brainrot ✨💗 🫶

i have been seeing so much discourse online about "technically who gets to count as disabled" and how chronic illnesses are "not actually disabilities", as if anyone with a chronic condition is inherently less deserving of equal access. i am like 85% sure i have pots and i can't even go a flight up the stairs without feeling like death or stand for ten minutes. any "normal" activity makes me crash twice as hard.

if that isn't "disabling".... then what is?

and my point here isn't to argue about what "counts" as a disability. like can we all just agree on the fact that two people with even the same condition can have drastically different experiences? stop trying to make a spectrum into a binary.

it doesn't matter how "disabled" you are, EVERYBODY WITH VARYING DEGREES OF DISABILITY deserves EQUAL access to treatment and accommodations. we don't need to police each other, we need UNIVERSAL ACCESS.

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Y’know when your chronic illness decides to be chronic and an illness? Yeah that’s actually bullying and bullying is bad so I’d like to take my chronic illness to court for harassment.

stop saying someone "has privilege over" someone else.

what you mean is "has power over".

a white person has white privilege. they cannot "have white privilege over" someone else. they can have power over someone else. those are not the same thing.

Mundane Plurality by the Crossroads System

These are the first few pages of a comic we'll be working on highlighting the mundane day to day of plurality. Hope y'all like it.

Here are three things we see as common sense:

Our abuser has NPD and yet we do NOT believe in narc-abuse/ cluster-b abuse

We did not form due to RAMCOA/ SA and yet we do show our support to them in any way we can and want to educate people

We support all minoritys "even tho" we arent part of them and that includes: looking into their problems and how society/ the system treats them, listening to them, supporting them, defending them in allday situations "even tho they arent in the room"

We are talking about: woman, POCs, indiginous people, physically disabled people, higher support need autistics, woman and girls, every person with a mental illness, survivors of RAMCOA, survivor of the troubled teen industry, woman in other countrys, people who get hate for their religion, "illegal" immigrants and more.

Please do your research and notice the problem, if we forget or ignore then we are part of the problem, especially in those times.

"You're a nice guy. Any girl would be lucky to be your girlfriend."

"If someone doesn't like you, there must be something wrong with them."

Stop. Just fucking stop.

Are you trying to turn him into an incel? Because that's how you create incels.

I get it. He's upset because people don't like him just because he's different. You want to reassure him. But this is not how you do it.

Being disliked is a fact of life. People have every right to dislike him. He also has every right to dislike someone.

If you want to reassure him, you can instead remind him that someone disliking him doesn't mean others will dislike him too.

You can also inform him of how it's acceptable to treat someone who you don't like. It's acceptable to not like someone, and there doesn't even have to be a good reason for it. But it's not acceptable to cause harm to them, to recruit others to not like them, to openly declare dislike for them when they aren't doing anything that requires liking them, or to exclude them from public places.

old men money yaoi 🍊🛥✨️

hey mclaren, what in the rich monaco husbands au is this?

Neurodivergent reminder: Overstimulation feels a lot like anxiety, and understimulation feels a lot like depression.

More importantly, you don't need to know which it is to practice self-care.

Self-caring anxiety and overstimulation looks the same:

Recognize you're feeling big feelings

Take as many deep breaths as your need to slow your mind

Identify what’s causing the feeling, whether sensory, environmental, or situational

Minimize that cause as much as possible immediately

Self-caring depression and understimulation looks the same:

Recognize you’re in need of stimulation

Turn on an interesting long-form video of some kind

Do some quick exercise like a walk or jumping jacks

Call a friend that'll let you infodump

If you're neurodivergent and easily get stuck on labelling things — I see you.

I'm here to remind you that you don't need to know what it is to take care of it in the meantime.

You can — will — figure it out later.

something that really stuck with me when I first was starting to realise I needed a carer and really didn't want to was my friend just going well don't think of it like a carer, think of it like having a cleaner and a private chef, and support staff like rich people do just cause. and honestly this not only made me feel much more comfortable about needing help but also highlighted how while disabilities will always suck money is a much larger quantified of quality of life with them

I don't want to ask AI a question. I don't want AI to write my sentences for me, at all ever. I don't want AI search bars to be the default and I don't want them to be in such a way that I can't opt out. I don't want this kind of AI in my life and there is no such thing as AI art, there is only theft of art from human artists by AI scrappers. I don't want any of this, I hate it. Maybe in a world that isn't driven by tech bro capitalism we can see machines doing all the dangerous inane things so humans can be free to pursue life and creativity. But that's not what's happening right now and I hate it.

There's often an autistic to incel pipeline.

This does not mean that all incels are autistic, nor that all autistic men are incels. It means that autistic men often have a type of vulnerability that the incel community can exploit in order to recruit them.

And there's a subset of autistic men who are especially vulnerable to the pipeline. Specifically, it's those who never felt disabled until they tried to connect with women.

There are a few possible reasons for this. Maybe all of his social interactions so far have been planned by someone else and he just played along, and his social struggles become noticeable for the first time when he has to actively pursue connections with women and be constantly analyzing signs of interest or disinterest. Maybe he's been bullied so much and just accepted that he's doomed to be a loner, but when he started feeling attraction to women and wanted connections with them, he could no longer just sit back and accept being a loner.

He likely won't find other autistic people relatable, because he doesn't need many of the supports that other autistic people need. He also won't want his connections with people to be limited to only autistic people. And most support that autistic children receive is conditioning them to obey and be less of an annoyance to neurotypical people, not helping them be the most successful as their true selves. So when he sees the support that other autistic people receive, he won't even consider the possibility that it would be useful to him. He likely won't even consider the possibility that he's autistic.

He'll likely struggle to understand his emotions and figure out how to phrase his questions. So when he asks for help, he'll likely just ask how to get women to like him. He'll likely receive oversimplified advice like "just talk to them", which he's probably already tried. And when he has a single positive experience with women, even if it's a fluke that can't be duplicated, it will be used as evidence that he never struggled. He'll feel like his struggles are blaringly obvious but people are still dismissing them.

When he witnesses other men complain about the "male loneliness epidemic", he'll easily find them relatable. He'll easily feel like he finally found people who understand. But most of those men won't be autistic. They'll often have no trouble in the vast majority of social interactions and struggle only with getting women to like them because they're simply not likeable to women. They were convinced that their cruelty toward women is normal and they miss the good old days when women just played along with it.

But since he's vulnerable, he'll fall for the propaganda. Then, he'll be an asshole to women and give them a reason to dislike him. And he'll be unable to tell the difference between missing out because of his disability and being disliked because he's an asshole. He'll then seek more advice from the manosphere.

What do you mean the normal amount is zero?

You sure of that??

Like yeah there are times i don't feel pain, but like that's the exception not the rule....

Like that's not a rule... Right?

Oh no. No, can people not say the kitchen scene was 'abusive' please? It's so distasteful and honestly disrespectful to survivors of actual DV to twist a moment of human frailty into fuel for your dislike of a character/ship.

That scene was raw and desperate and driven by grief. Eddie let his frustrations boil over, and Buck immediately made it about himself and twisted it into a personal attack ("You think I didn't do everything I could to save him?").

Neither of them was dealing with their grief in a healthy way and they ended up taking it out on each other. Unfortunately that's what often happens when your emotions are in a bad place. It's why people keep a professional smile on their face all day at work and then rant at their partner the minute they get home. It's why children are perfect angels at school and then throw tantrums when they're back with their parents. Because they know that person is a safe space and will always forgive them. And guess what? They did forgive each other. Easily and without judgement or grudges. Because they are a family.

People are messy, life is hard and love is imperfect.

"tumblr's the only social media without algorithms!" "you can still be anonymous on tumblr!" "tumblr's so nice because you don't have to show your face!" WRONG tumblr is special because you can have 3000 followers and still get an average of seven likes a post. i'm doing stand up comedy at a packed venue and one person is laughing

Please spread this to non-show watchers! I want to see what others who know nothing/very little about the show would think!

An introduction by yours truly, Ash

Attempt 3000 of having a Tumblr I like.

I'm Ash, I am 20 year old. Disabled and queer. Chronically online and ill.

🎶🎵 I''ve got the best of both words 🎵🎶

Auto-diag is valid by the way, there's enough information to auto-diagonise yourself with some stuff, and you are the only expert on your life. Ask for help if you need it though

Some people need to chill.

I have two side blogs : @lonebabyone (agere), @onesburyinghole (vent)

DMs open and asks too, for anything.

This blog is primarily to have a space to express myself on subjects i like. More details under the cut.

I enjoy most humanitarians subjects, like psychology, sociology, history, philosophy, politics (because for anarchy i need to know about it urgh). I'm anticapitalist, i do enjoy some stuff produced by it tho (i mean look in which platform i am), antigovernment (authorities and stuff ew). I am for communities and for helping thy neighnoor, at least i'm trying. I'm just a human trying to live in this world and help others when i can. I'm also chronically online and ill so take that as you will.

I will tell you one time if i see you don't respect my boundaries, you will be blocked.

Anyways, I also love some stuff and here some of them if you want to know:

Witch Hat Atelier

Epic the musical

I don't want to be a magical girl

Gravity falls

Formula 1

Rise of the guardians

Amphibia

The owl House

Hazbin hotel

Helluva boss

Spiderman and adjacents

Batfam

Flash

Five Nights at Freddy's

Teen Wolf

Arcane

Ao3

Fandoms in general

Percy Jackson

How to train your dragon

Hunger Games

9-1-1

Winnie the Pooh

Winx

...

The Music Freaks

Bluey

This list is inconclusive and doesn't really have an order.

Unemployed Person: "No one will hire me because of my tattoos and my drug use."

Conservatives: "That's your own fault. They can hire whoever they want. It's your duty to make yourself employable."

Unemployed Person: "No one will hire me because I didn't get the covid vaccine."

Conservatives: "THAT'S THE EPITOME OF INJUSTICE! YOUR PLACE OF WORK HAS NO RIGHT TO DICTATE WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR BODY!"