NO FUCKING TERFS ON MY BLOG NO RADFEMS NO ONE WHO CALLS THEMSELVES “GENDER CRITICAL” NO TRANSMEDS!!!!!

I’m so so sorry

Concept: a quiet horror novel, all lowercase letters and the characters are physically unable to shout or scream

NOBODY TALK TO ME YET. I JUST FOUND OUT THE SECOND SEASON OF ARCANE COMES OUT TODAY. IM NOT READY!!!!!!!!

ignoring the conversation about tori woods being arrested because there’s more to talk about than just that,

I hope people (specifically dark romance lovers and defenders specifically) start to see just why others have such a hard time swallowing dark romance being mainstream. Because all the rest of us see is a race to the bottom with no care about HOW to present these topics to a wide audience.

it’s not just her dad’s friend, it’s her dads older friend in his thirties ;) no no wait it’s not her dad’s friend it’s her uncle!! And she’s barely legal!! No wait!!! It’s her cousin AND her uncle and they act possessive! No it’s a stalker! And he doesn’t care about her consent! It’s her step brother!! And she’s underage!! No wait-

She was groomed. She was assaulted. She was abused.

I fully understand the point of using this sort of fiction to cope with painful trauma, I’ve even done the same thing. But after a point it is reckless to contribute to the romanticism of abuse, especially to young girls and to a wider extent AFABs and feminine presenting people. You may be gaining a helpful perspective or healing but what happens when another abuser gets their hands on this material and uses it to manipulate another victim? What happens when someone impressionable (young and impressionable are not the same, elders are often impressionable, stop muddying the conversation by bringing up that “teens shouldn’t be reading this anyway” because it doesn’t matter) reads this and it only reassures them that their current abusive situation is okay? Hell, booktok had been openly listing over a REAL 16 year old boy and suggested he read a book with romanticized rape in it.

this issue goes beyond dark romance but it is most prevalent in dark romance because everyone for it and against it has a trigger finger for attacking anyone who says something they don’t like. I’m hoping that this doesn’t fall on deaf ears and this can help a conversation to be had. Because this conversation has needed to happen but everyone has been too stubborn to even begin.

So as a brain worm for you to think about because I can’t find my own answers to these questions yet:

What dark romance is good? Does the genre require more restriction? What is a respectful way to portray the topics often used in dark romance? At what point should the publishers/publishing company be held responsible for any harm done by the book? Does the use for survivors to cope outweigh the possibility victims created by romanticized abuse?

do you think Eurydice spent the rest of her afterlife knowing Orpheus only looked back because he loved her

do you think that even after she forgot everything else, like she did in Flowers, she still knew that someone loved her so much they’d risk everything for her

do you think Persephone sometimes looks at Eurydice and sees herself. Maybe Hades was the one to grant Eurydice the mercy of knowing that she was loved, even after she forgets her own name.

Maybe it was Orpheus who wrote their song, so that he wouldn’t be the only mortal to have known of Eurydice and how much they loved each other. Maybe that’s why Hadestown paints Orpheus in the way it does, because he can’t help but think of how his distraction pushed Eurydice down that path. And that’s why Hermes sings it, because he thinks that maybe even if the story stays the same, he’s still fulfilling Orpheus’ wish for people to know Eurydice.

I hate this show so much like you don’t even know

Consider Spider-chinchilla

if you like wrestling, Stephen Amell, Alexander Ludwig, or even just good drama, watch Heels. It’s on netflix right now and the more you watch the higher the chances for season 3

it’s a good show with characters that feel real in a way not a lot of shows feel like

An older drawing based on an oc of mine https://www.instagram.com/p/CiINtMXO_Vo/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

I think someone desperately needs to explain the concept of statistics to “men are more unsafe walking home alone at night!!!!!!!!!!” guys.

because it’s seriously concerning to see people endlessly spouting that fact and not thinking just a little longer about what that actually means. Ignoring the fact that I actually looked for any sort of study that suggested even remotely that men were more likely to be attacked physically, do none of you realize that means they survived long enough to report the incident? More men reporting being attacked means they survived the encounter. Less women reporting incidents doesn’t inherently mean they’re not getting attacked, it just means they didn’t report it.. wonder why…….