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STAR TREK: DEEP SPACE NINE – 1.01/02 "Emissary"

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This is Charles. He wants to go on a journey around tumblr. could you show him around?

"How do you get everything you want " is such a good question because no its not manifesting or attracting or feminine pussy power energy femme Fatale dark femininity whatever. It's because I learned how to ask.

A raise? Meeting w the boss it is. That cool airbnb that's not in my budget but I want? K we call the owner /manager. Event but no tickets? Who am I calling? An assignment that I want assigned to someone else? Let's have lunch together. Hell one time I got an entire plane ticket from someone at the airport and opera ticket from someone outside the opera.

I get what I want because i have the power of negotiation and communication

And I don't mean finesse, I don't curve people that's a real fast way to set yourself up for failure, if they don't catch you karma will. Life does not favor liars, I don't manipulate. I lay it on the table as it is. I want that assignment. What do I have to do to get it. Will I one up you? Probably. Will I do whatever is in my best interests? Of course. One thing I won't do though is lie or blindside. This is what I want. What needs to be done.

Ladies Everything, every single thing you get in life will be handed to you by another human being. Your house your car your job your marriage your kids. Everything. Every single thing you have you've been provided for by a person. Save the oxygen in your lungs. Hell even your genetics came from someone.

Power, real power is in communication and negotiation. No amount of loa and manifesting and pussy power feminine energy femme Fatale dark femininity whatever mumbo jumbo will save you from that. Eventually you'll get it from someone. Learn to talk to people. If you have to take communication classes do it. If you have to exposure therapy DBT do it. If you need a coach get one. If you have to read all the negotiation books do it.

Success, all forms of it, is completely dependent on your ability to effectively communicate and negotiate. Everything else is supplementary.

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When you have a case of the Mondays that even a hypospray can't cure

HOW TO STOP SELF SABOTAGING + DOUBTING

MAKE YOUR GOALS/HABITS AN IDENTITY. Your lifestyle makes up who you are, quite literally. If you want to wake up early, then start identifying yourself as an early bird. If you want to get good grades, then start identifying yourself as a studious student. And so on. 

This helps with feeling more accountable and committed to our goals and habits. However, don’t use this as a reason to overexert yourself. 

THERE IS SOMETHING UNDERNEATH CERTAIN BEHAVIOURS. All of your bad habits stem from your subconscious. This is why mentally healthy people tend to think more about their physical health. 

The best way to recognise patterns beneath your bad habits is just to talk to yourself. In any way or any form. Identify it, see what might’ve caused this subconscious thought and then work towards a way to replace the feeling that these bad habits give with a good one. 

DETACH FROM THE OUTCOME. The more you fixate on the long-term results, the more longer, strenuous and exhausting your journey is going to be, especially because you’re going to want to give up as soon as results don’t appear. Focus on the short-term results. 

You exercised? Now you feel good inside. You studied hard and understood everything? Great job for being so productive. You did that one really scary thing? What a great start!

THE PART OF YOU THAT DOES BAD HABITS IS NOT BAD. It is the complete opposite of bad. It loves you and wants to keep you safe, so it refrains you from doing anything ‘scary’ (which is typically new things in our lives) and makes you fall back on ‘safe’ habits which are a coping mechanism. 

So, instead of berating that part of you that participates in bad habits even if you know it’s bad, understand it. As these coping mechanisms usually stem from our childhoods, we turn to these habits when we feel stressed, anxious or depressed.