Here's The Thing Nobody Wants To Talk About In All Of This Hotwife Talk: Nobody, Not My Husband, Not

I'm writing to you anonymously because I have some family who follow my "kittens & rainbows" blog. They don't know any of my follows & likes are NSFW but I love Tumblr for it's diversity.

Anyway, I love blogs like yours. My wife and I have played around with the hotwife scene and occasionally she will still fuck a young stud that grabs her attention. But our relationship has evolved into something a little different. She's still in charge, but now I'm the one getting the majority of the sex while she watches. Let me explain...

It all started after her first vixen experience. We were on vacation and I was still in the hotel room nursing a bit of a hangover when she decided to head down to the pool. We had previously discussed our rules and about 10 minutes after she left, it occurred to me she might very well take the plunge that day. Sure enough, she was gone for several hours, returning just before dinner.

I knew what she had been up to as soon as she walked in. Her hair was disheveled, her nipples were hard as rocks, and she had that glorious afterglow of someone who had been thoroughly fucked. As per our agreement, she began to tell me everything, all while undressing. She had handprints and bruises on her hips and ass where he had grabbed her roughly. Her pussy was swollen and sticky looking.

She pulled off my shorts and began to pump my stiffening cock as she pushed me back onto the bed. I laid back, she climbed up and straddled my head. Without hesitation, she dropped her pussy onto my mouth and started grinding. "Eat my cunt while I tell you what I've been up to." She continued to slowly stroke my cock, gently teasing and edging me, while she told me how her afternoon went. I got really turned on when she told me she begged him to cum inside her. Between her story and the naughtiness of eating another guy's cum, it didn't take me long to reach a powerful orgasm.

Later on at dinner, we were discussing the situation. She picked up on the fact that I seemed to like the taste of cum. She asked me if I had any bisexual fantasies. I tried to change the subject but she wouldn't let it go. When I finally admitted that maybe I thought about other guys sometimes, she said "Well maybe we need to explore that more."

And that's exactly what she did. The next day she convinced her boy toy to let me practice my cocksucking skills on him. She sat back and masturbated herself to several orgasms while he fucked my face. She especially liked it when I gagged and coughed. When he said he was getting close, she ordered me to swallow every drop. Later that night, she fingered my ass and played with my prostate while she gave me an amazing blowjob. Her femdom side had been released and our relationship changed in an instant.

After about a month of going down on random men she set me up with, she arranged for me to get fucked for the first time. Now any time she wants something kinky or fun, she pimps me out to other guys. Watching me be her "good little fag" turns her on like nothing else. She sits back and giggles while they use me however they want. The only rule is they're not allowed to make me cum. She regularly denies my orgasm because she knows how much more submissive and desperate I am when I'm horny. She says she doesn't want "post nut clarity" to get in the way of her fun. Then when we're done, she allows me to reclaim my masculinity by letting me fuck her like crazy.

She controls every aspect of our sex life. She decides who she sleeps with. She decides who I sleep with. She decides when I get to cum. She decides how I get to cum. She has loaned me out to men and women. She's denied me an orgasm for months at a time, then made me cum 5 times in a day. She trained me to cum from prostate stimulation alone. She's in charge of everything and I absolutely love it.

Sounds like you guys have a great life, both of you getting exactly what you desire. We have a great life too, we are doing everything that turns us on.

Only with my husband's consent.....@raalphastag

Some Nice movies to watch if you are into alternate lifestyle.

1) Mechanics of Desire -- One of the best! Husband can't get it up, so he encourages his wife to fuck other men, while he watches. The wife doesn't want to, but she agrees to save her marriage. The best scene is in the bar. They show the wife's face as she realizes this is really going to happen. Another great scene is just before the end of the movie, where the husband tries to set up the wife in the dirty bathroom of a gas station. I wish the last scene was longer.

2) Bitter Moon -- Leggy wife forces her paralyzed husband to watch as she seduces a black man. I wish they showed the man fucking the wife!

3) Depraved -- The only way a man gets off is by watching his fiancée with other men. The girl doesn't seem to mind.

4) End of Days -- A too short scene of an aggressive man (the devil!) kissing and fondling a woman right in front of her husband.

5) Tough Guys don't dance -- A man fucks a woman in front of her husband. The man likes it so much he convinces his wife to swap with another couple. There's a scene of the man with the other woman, and he hears his wife moaning from the fucking she's getting from the other man. The woman laughs, and says "I guess your wife really likes my BIG husband."

6) Unfaithful -- Pretty good, many scenes of a wife cheating on her husband.

7) Erosion -- A naughty wife fucks another man while watching her husband through the window. Later, she lets him fuck her again, saying "You like fucking another man's wife in the ass, don't you?"

8) Internal Affairs -- Two great scenes. In the first, Richard Gere is fingering a man's wife while talking to him across the table (the husband doesn't know what Gere is doing to his wife). In the second, Gere is fucking another man's wife while she talks to her husband on the phone.

9) Postman Always Rings Twice -- Jessica Lange cheats on her husband in this great scene. Jessica is wearing a garter belt and stockings, and you can see the man fingering her panty-clad pussy.

10) Sex and Consequences -- An older but very sexy Joan Severance (can you say cougar!) cheats on her husband with a much younger man. In one great scene, Joan encourages her lover to finger her to orgasm in a car. They should have made the scene longer, no way she cums that fast.

11) Husbands and Lovers -- A wife spends weekends with her lover. Great stocking scenes.

12) Intimate Obsession -- Jodie Fisher, a very pretty blonde wife, gets picked up in a bar

13) Damage -- Juliette Binoche (great legs) repeatedly cheats on her fiancée, with her fiancee's father

14) Survival Island -- Kelly Brook (very pretty face and a nice body) is stranded on an island with a muscular, handsome stranger (not her husband). She eventually succumbs to the stranger's advances, and lets him fuck her brains out. Later, she's reunited with her hubby, but you can tell she's addicted to the stud's hard body (and probably much larger cock).

15) Ken Park -- Wife (a cougar) cheats on her husband with her son's best friend. She tells her lover his cock is bigger than hubby's.

16) Door in the Floor -- Kim Basinger cheats on her husband with a much younger man. Kim isn't as pretty as she used to be, but her body is still very fuckable.

17) Les Valseuses -- a new mom lets two strangers fondle her in a train

18) Maria's Lovers -- Wife needs more than what her husband can give her. She's seduced on the ferry by a stranger (He pushes her skirt up to reveal her stocking tops. Then he pins her against the door and rubs her pussy over her dress. As he presses his cock against her, he says "You like the feel of that?). Later she lets the stranger fuck her.

19) Married People Single Sex -- Wives cheat on their husbands

20) Dead Calm -- Nicole Kidman and her husband are on their boat. A stranger takes over the boat, and sends hubby away on a damaged boat. Nicole lets the stranger fuck her, and even cum inside her! (What a slut! But she's got an incredible ass and legs.)

21) Eyes Wide Shut -- Nicole Kidman fantasizes about fucking a blonde sailor. A great dream scene of Nicole pulling off her panties as the sailor fondles her tits. Nicole admits to her husband that she would have fucked the sailor if he had asked her. Nicole has great legs!

22) Normal -- Camille Sullivan, a very pretty blonde with small perfect tits, lets a young stud fuck her. Just as they finish, her husband comes home early. Husband goes to the bedroom to find his sweet, pretty wife naked in bed (her lover is hiding behind the door). Husband fucks wife. What's great is you can tell from Camille's pretty face that she isn't enjoying her husband near as much as she enjoyed her young hard lover.

23) Price of Passion -- A good movie about a husband who likes to watch his wife flirt and make out with other men. A little like "Indecent Proposal." This movie would be better if the wife's sex scenes were longer.

24) Killer Looks -- One of the best wife watching movies. The husband encourages his wife to seduce other men. He likes to watch. The wife goes along with it, admitting that variety is exciting, but she's reluctant about it. Sara Suzanne Brown plays the wife with an alluring, southern accent. She has long blonde hair, a very pretty face, large shapely breasts and a flat stomach. Her legs are okay, especially in stiletto heels, but they're not long enough to qualify as killer legs. Does anyone know if Sara ever made any adult movies? Her face is so pretty, I'd love to see her lips around a big hard cock.

25) Scorned -- A great scene where the husband urges the wife (Shannon Tweed) to let another man fuck her to close a business deal. The agony on the wife's face as the man pulls up her dress and penetrates her is exquisite. I wish the scene was longer. (There's another great scene in this movie where a young blonde coed seduces her professor.)

26) Straw Dogs -- A great, long scene where a man forces himself on a wife while her husband is on a hunting trip. The wife initially resists but then enjoys it, lovingly stroking the man's chest and kissing him. Then, after they cum, another man (who was hiding and saw it all) fucks the wife in the ass.

27) Forbidden -- The wife fucks a young man in the car. You can see her wedding ring while her lover pounds her. Tracy Smith (aka Tracy Ryan) plays the wife. She's blonde with a very pretty face, and an incredible body. She's also done x-rated movies. In my book, Tracy is second only to Sara Suzanne Brown in hotness. (Sara has the prettier face and sexier voice, Tracy has better legs).

28) Tryst -- Great movie where the husband and wife go on vacation. The wife is clearly attracted to the French inn keeper, and the husband gives his permission for the French guy to dance with and then kiss his wife. The wife then goes down on the French guy. Later the wife urges her husband to take her from behind, to prove to him she still loves him. Very hot, I wish it had ended differently (with the French guy between the wife's legs.)

29) Voyeur Confessions -- Great scene where the boyfriend urges his hot girl friend to fuck another man. The girl friend is clearly reluctant, but she agrees and goes into a bar to pick up a guy. She brings him back to the hotel room and fucks him, while the boyfriend watches from the next room. Very hot, but too short.

30) Young Adam -- Wife fucks a young guy in the cabin of a boat, while her husband is upstairs steering the boat. This would be hotter if the wife was prettier and had a better body (she's too skinny with sagging breasts). This movie just proves that young handsome men like to fuck married women, even if they're dogs.

31) Zebra Lounge -- A couple decides to swap to make their sex life more exciting.

32) Trapped -- Charlize Theron plays the wife. She's so fucking sexy! She guides a stranger's hand up her shirt, so he can fondle her nipples. He says "your husband doesn't know how to handle you." "So you know how to handle me?" Charlize answers in a sexy, sultry voice.

33) Crash -- Wife fucks a man in the back seat of a car while hubby watches. Sexy stockings!

34) Cruel Intentions 3 -- A guy forces a girl to call up her boyfriend as he eats her out. A wicked scene!

35) Leo -- Elisabeth Shue lets a painter fuck her. You can see her wedding ring as she gets pounded by her new lover. Very hot! Elisabeth has made so many kinky, hot movies, you just know she's a horny slut in real life!

Jim's and Sarah's honest couple talk

Sarah and I basically live apart in different cities. Unfortunately our work situation has forced us to live this way for the past 5 years.

We stay close by visiting each other as often as possible, but it is still not the same as living together in a single household. This makes for some very frustrating days and nights. When we are apart for protracted times we sext and talk with each other and mutually masterbate to the sounds of each others pleasures.

Sarah is a vibrant attractive middle aged woman who has always had other guys hitting on her. She has a great body and a beautiful smile. Since we've been married I haven't had sexual interest in any other woman but her. My pleasure revolves solely around her pleasure. So that leads me to my honest talks with her about our sexual desires especially when we are apart.

In the past Sarah occasionally had silent affairs with friends from outside of our marriage. This was mostly at the beginning of our marriage and even though she would never admit it, I was very aware of what was going on. I never told her to stop, but I did demand she be truthful about it. Here’s where the story gets tricky. She knows what turns me on and yet she was deathly afraid to act on it with my knowledge. So I never condemned her for what she did, but I just couldn't get her to share it with me. Obviously we didn't have a perfect marriage, but those acts of infidelity literally saved our marriage. Deep down she knew that what she had done was to make me want her even more and believe me it did and still does. Now even though her silence caused a significant amount of stress for me I also knew and appreciated what she had done.

I would spend countless hours thinking and rethinking about it and imagining what she was experiencing at those moments. Where had she done it? With whom how often? At the time it led me to spy on her just to get a glimpse of her private life, but still she never did understand that I was perfectly ok with it because to me the sex was the easiest part to understand.  I have always enjoyed a healthy sex drive. It's been a great 20 years of marriage and 20 years of me obsessing about her fucking other guys. To me it's a way of staying relevant in her life. Even though I would repeatedly tell her that it turns me on immensely for her to cheat, she would say that she had no interest in it. I knew that she had sexual interests that didn't involve me because occasionally her porn history would give it away. This led me to the extreme desire for her to explore her sexuality in ways others including her could not understand. I didn't even understand it sometimes, all I know is it drives me wild.

After many years of discussion we both believe that we can maintain a healthy sex life when we are apart if she fools around with other guys and includes me by simply telling me about it, letting me listen to her doing it and occasionally watching and even joining in on those occasions she decided we could play together. That way she can be completely guilt free, after all it's really not cheating if I'm asking her to do it. She knows she has my 100% support.

I have been able to focus in on the one aspect of it that leads me to very strong emotions of jealousy that drive me insane with lust for her not because she is with someone else, but because I am not in control. It is an out of control feeling like none other. The feeling of passion and love I have for her is amplified a hundred times over when I know she's doing something that I desire. I guess the easiest way to describe it is that even though we aren't together, we can still share intimacy with each other.

There are many great experiences that we have since shared as a result of our arrangement of me faithfully maintaining my monogamous vows to her and her having affairs with other guys to satisfy both of our sexual desires.

We found out the hard way that the key to a strong marriage is honest open talk among couples with patience and understanding. Sarah and I understand each others needs and she acts to meet my expectations without hesitation because she knows it makes us a better and infinitely happier couple. I allow her to do what she wants with anyone she wants, whenever she wants with no strings attached. Experts refer to it as a free hall pass for her to pursue whatever sexual interests she may desire.

If you find yourself in either a similar situation or having unexplainable desires to watch your wife have sex, then you should just talk to her about it. She may not want to hear it at first, but with time if you lovingly share your true feelings and wishes she will understand that it is not some trick, but rather a sincere desire on your part to be the most important part of her life.

It's no secret that sexless marriages are the number one cause of divorce. Understand that sex is sex and love is love. The confusion that crosses those lines is the same horrible miscommunication that comes from a failure on either part to be willing to actively give whatever it takes to make your marriage work. Failure is not an option it is an intentional consequence of silence.

Thankfully we can say that it has been a long road for us, but today we are happier than we have ever been. Despite our time away from each other physically, we are always together mentally. Our love, appreciation and respect for each other is unmatched by any other couple we personally know.