How To Prepare For Your First Cuckolding Adventure

I was sent a message yesterday—a beautiful message—with an announcement that I’m sure all y'all reading this will love as much as me. I’ll keep her name/account anonymous, as always. Here’s what she wrote:

Good evening! I told my husband that I’m ready to try this for real. Not sure what the next step should be. We are in our 40s and aren’t exactly the bar-hopping social types. Plus we met and dated before Internet dating apps were a thing. So any advice you have for us from how to find someone to how to prepare ourselves mentally and emotionally for the experience would be welcomed. Thank you!

I told you it was a beautiful message!

I know this much, after writing back and forth a few times over the past year or two… She and her husband have been walking along the edge of the cuckolding pool for a few years, sharing fantasies and commenting back and forth via Tumblr, waiting until the water was just right to dip their toes in.

Well… It’s cannonball time!!

Imagine the excitement her husband felt hearing that she was finally ready… I bet he’s jerked off a thousand times since hearing the news!! And that’s what I love the most about cuckolding, especially a first-time event… Everyone is fulfilling a fantasy. It’s the ultimate Win-Win. And even better than the fulfillment of fantasies, they’re creating an event that will last forever.

Even if their first time is a one-off event, they can relive it forever—every smile and kiss, the fresh taste of a new man, the desperate sounds of her need bursting through her married lips, and the orgasms… Oh, so many orgasms.

I get countless men asking me how to turn their wives into… well, into someone like me. So I get an extra charge when it’s the wife asking about this. That means it’s really going to happen for both of them. I know it’s just a matter of time before they have their first adventure. So, if I can give them a little advice and added confidence while preparing them for the impending mental tornado that’s about to rip through them (in the best of ways), then taking the time to write all of this will have been well worth it.

A first-time cuckolding event hits hard. The closer or more in love with your partner you are, the harder it hits. If the guy isn’t prepared, then it can knock him out. Almost all of them come back from it, though, begging for more once they realize that NOTHING will ever come close to how that pleasure-soaked dagger made them feel.

You will come to crave it just as she craves him. You’ll both need more.

But that first adventure must be a positive one. So rather than go back and forth with a few lines of advice and encouragement, I wanted to write a full guide and share it with everyone, hoping to help even more couples prepare for their first adventure—and to ensure it will be the first of many.

The advice I’m about to give will be targeted toward married or long-term couples who’ve already agreed to have their first adventure—no more trying to talk one or the other into it. It’s happening, so let’s get to it…

Part I: Develop A Plan For Your First Adventure

I’ve found that the longer a couple has been together (especially those who’ve been monogamous), the more apt they are to develop a plan. As someone who waited a couple years before acting on my own desire to do this, I know what it’s like—and I was a teenager!

Spontaneity will come with time. I’m not here to talk about the evolution of a cuckolding couple, but that will definitely be a part of it.

I talked to some of you, reading this now on Patreon, long before deciding to cuckold my boyfriend for the first time. Well, at least long before admitting to myself that it was inevitable. Once we let ourselves go down this path, it’s almost impossible to jump off. The need is there, growing and feeding on every image or video of great sex that you see and hot guy that you meet. It strikes you HARD when you’re masturbating and even harder when having sex with your boyfriend or husband, calling to you… There’s something greater out there, just waiting for you… You deserve this… It’s time.

Once I knew it was my time, I developed a plan to talk my boyfriend into it. Since this guide is for couples who are already there, I’ll move on to the first bit of planning.

Part II: Emotional Understanding

I’ll start by advising you this: Your first adventure should be with a stranger.

Sharing someone you both know adds a wrinkle you don’t need for your first adventure. There should be no feelings or history between you and the man you choose. Remember, these are my opinions and some of you might feel the other way on this, but I’m mostly looking out for my women out there. You see, the men (for the most part) are all-in. They want to live out a hot sexual fantasy and let everything fall where it may. I can hear their thoughts right now:

What woman wouldn’t want to have sex with someone new? I’m telling her I’m cool with it, and that he can have a bigger dick than me… Doesn’t she love orgasms? I know she does!! What’s there to think about? We’ll deal with the emotional fallout after it’s over. I’ll be fine either way. At least I’ll have something hot to jerk off about for the rest of my life!! I’m ready. You ready? —- Then, when she finally agrees, he’s like: Woo Hoo!! Now, let’s find you the biggest cock this side of the Mississippi… or two.. or three… how many do you think you could handle? You must want at least five, right?!??

I’m only just slightly joking here. lol - But you get my point. A woman can get overwhelmed with the “push”. She’s going to wonder what she could possibly do to satisfy YOU and be enough. Yes, she’s thinking about you. She wants to make sure you’re really going to be okay with what she’s about to do. Guess what… You’re right to think she wants someone with a bigger dick. Of course she loves orgasms. Yes, she knows this will be one of the hottest things she’ll ever get to do. BUT she’s also more of a pragmatist. She knows that tomorrow will eventually come and your cute little cock won’t be stealing all the blood from that male brain of yours. She knows you may be all about it until it happens.

She wants to protect you… As confident and determined as you are about what you want, she’ll never believe you. Sorry guys, but you’ll have to earn that trust from her. That won’t be earned in bed with fantasy talk. The truth is, you won’t be able to earn it until AFTER the first adventure ends. She is going into this thing blind, and she’s counting on you to support her.

Let me add one quick thing about creating “rules” for your adventure like “no kissing”: DO NOT SET RULES. They will only be broken. If a guy can put his cock inside you, then he should be allowed to do the same with his tongue.

As for condoms and safe sex… that’s worth a discussion. Personally, I love nothing more than feeling the real thing inside me… the heat of him… and don’t get me started on the gush of hot cum. Mmmmmm

Part III: Choosing The Right Man

Rule #1: WHAT YOUR GODDESS WANTS, YOUR GODDESS GETS! You want her to experience the best things in life and be happy on this day and every day going forward, yes? Then you need to go with her flow. You can suggest anything you want, but let her be the final decision maker. Then, once she’s made that decision, you need to support it. This is crucial for turning this into a long-term thing.

Since she gets to choose the man, she also gets to choose how and where it happens. Most married or long-term couples prefer doing this on a vacation where the other guy couldn’t possibly pop back into their lives. However, this (practically) eliminates the ability to see him again if he was amazing. So I’d ask the woman what she wants. Would she rather have it be a guaranteed one-off adventure for the first time? If so, plan a vacation. If you’re thinking of having a somewhat local experience, then it can even be an hour or two drive away—someone you won’t run into at the grocery store or at church. Then, even though he’s “far” away, he’s close enough to do it again.

Why would I recommend that as a possibility to consider? Because of Aaron, my first. I’ve gone back to him so many times I’ve lost count. I can’t imagine a world where I only got to have him that once. That being said, I can totally understand the vacation one-off plan too.

Whether you’re at home or on vacation, that means you’ll have to choose between a real-life meeting or an internet setup. Which do I recommend? It totally depends on what makes the woman more comfortable. Personally, I’ve done both—lots and lots of both. I prefer a live meet for a lot of reasons, mostly because of the vibe factor. How a man moves, talks, breathes and smells (pheromones?) all have an effect on me. Nothing hits me harder than his eyes, though—the way he makes me feel when he looks at me. You don’t get that over the internet.

On vacation, however, there’s a lot of bonuses to an internet meeting via a hookup app like Tinder. You’re nearly guaranteed to find someone local and you can do a hit or miss strategy over however many nights you’re away. Even the idea of going on the meet will be a massive turn on for you both. Whether things work out with the guy or not, you’ll be dressed up and the very idea you were ready to bring someone home that night will lead to crazy hot sex! So line one up for a festive-style bar meeting each night. You could even do two per night at different locations if the first one doesn’t work out. Meeting and chatting are easy, but here are some points of interest:

Don’t be shy about asking him questions. If how “big” they are doesn’t matter to you then don’t ask. If it matters, then you NEED to ask and go ahead and get a picture or ten as well. We each have certain things we want in a man and it’s up to you to check those boxes ahead of time so you’re not disappointed later. Pictures are a must, obviously, and don’t be shy about asking for specifics. Make sure you tell him you’re married (or with a long-term boyfriend) and what his role in all this will be.

If you plan on doing a real-life meeting then you have to decide how involved you want your husband/man to be. Should he wait at the other end of the bar? Should he wait in the hotel room and text with you throughout the night? When do you tell hot stranger guy that you have a guy back at your place who wants to watch? That last one, I can help you with. You have to tell the guy at some point, right? I find it best to lead with it. Yup… Guys love it—especially Alpha types, which is who we want to find. We want a guy who’ll have no problem fucking us in front of the love of our lives, and who makes a show out of it. Go ahead, teach that boy how I like it. Show him what an orgasm is supposed to look like.

Leave the wedding ring on and lay it all out there. It’s a turn ON not off. Same thing online - don’t hide your situation. Lead with it.

As with most things in life: be fearless and you’ll be rewarded. If you see someone who interests you, throw them those eyes… Spark a conversation. Life is waiting for you out there, but sometimes you have to take it. Let him know what you’re looking for early on. Sometimes the more a guy talks, the less I want him. That’s not even his fault, I’m just a fickle bitch. The quicker you can ask him to take you back to your room, the better it will be for both of you. Don’t be shy. You’re a Hot Wife in the making, so act like it!

Part IV: Supporting Her - Before Your First Adventure

This is where my boyfriend SHINES. His actions and words put me into Goddess mode before my “dates” where I quickly sink into submissive whore mode for that other man. But, when all is said and done, his loving eyes and knowing tongue have me feeling like a beautiful Princess—even as I lay there shaking and sweating—a hyper-orgasmic, cum-filled mess.

It’s in these moments where we’ve bonded closer than ever. I know it sounds crazy, but it’s true. Walking on a beach holding hands is nice, but having the man who loves you dress you up for a date with someone else is next level. Hearing how beautiful you look before he sends you off into their arms is something I can hardly put to words.

If you plan on searching for a man via an online app then may I suggest you order him between your legs while you scroll and swipe… Every now and again flash him the screen and show him the men you like best. Grind those images into his head while he grinds his tongue into your pussy. Talk to him while you do it… “You like preparing me for other men, don’t you?” - “I bet this guy has a really big cock.” - and show him your matches. Read the things men say to you and what you return to them. It will become a regular thing between you both, trust me! Whether you plan on meeting more men or not… It’s a fun cuckolding exercise.

Men, keep your focus on her. I want to hear how beautiful I look, how lucky those men will be to have me, how yummy I taste, how wet I am for them, how I deserve whatever I want… During sex in the lead up to your first adventure—tell her all the things you want for her. If you want him to be bigger and fuck her harder… You want him to make her cum harder than you ever have… You want him to make her moan and scream and call out his name and forget that you’re even there… You want to see the pleasure in her eyes… the lust and need growing with every deep thrust until she begs for his cum.

Don’t be shy. Tell her what you want. Odds are, she wants all those things too!

On the day of your first adventure or first night out on the hunt, the preparation begins long before you walk out the door. Men, you’ll want to pamper her all day. Make your first date tactics look like a train-wreck. You should ALWAYS treat her this way, but on this day in particular, she has risen to a new level… Make her feel it.

Buy her something new to wear. Help pick out her bra and panties or lingerie to go under whatever dressing that other man will be removing later. Think classy/sexy on the outside while diving into your kink-zone for what’s under. Whatever makes her feel sexiest…

Help her get dressed and watch longingly as she applies her makeup. You’re her servant for the day. Her pet.

Women… Tell him what you want when you want it. The more you take control on this day, the more he’ll love it. Be the Goddess he sees in you. Make him pull up your stockings and affix your heels. Put him on his knees whenever possible. Make a comment about your lip gloss/stick when applying it… If you’re excited, tell him. If you’re wet, tell him. If you want him to give you a quick lick before pulling those panties up, order him to do it.

It’s up to you what he does during your meeting. Do you want him to go with you or wait? If he’s to wait, you should tell him not to jerk off and if you have a cage then lock him up. You want him to be PEAK turned on when you arrive home with another man. Point is, whatever you want him to do, then tell him.

Part V: Supporting Her - During Your First Adventure

She may want to experience her first time (cuckolding you) on her own, without you watching. If so, there are a few things you’ll want to do to enhance that for the both of you. Text him throughout. Have a couple pictures taken (especially one before and another after).

If you’re up for it, give him a call and put the phone down so he can listen. When you return, order him between your legs and tell him everything that happened while he cleans you up and makes you cum.

If the plan is for the husband/boyfriend to be there then have some idea to what his role will be. If not, it could get uncomfortable. Will it start as a threesome and turn into a watching session? Will he be relegated to a chair in the corner? Will you hold hands and keep him close? Do you want him dressed or naked or with just his cock hanging out so you can play with it or suck him from time to time? There are no right or wrong answers, but you should have an idea of what you want before it happens.

If you want my suggestion, I’d say to start with him watching. That’s easiest for you to get into things with your “guest”. Pretend he’s not there as you start your foreplay, then start by flashing him your eyes… smile at him and let him see the lust on your face… Wait until your guest is fully hard before involving your husband/boyfriend. If you want to talk to him, tell him how good something feels and ask if he likes watching your mouth wrapped around a big cock. Emphasize how big the other man is (if he’s bigger) and how amazing his tongue feels… He wants you to love every second of it. Every word you say will be etched in his mind forever, so go for it. I turn myself on even more when I’m talking to Mark. I love watching him squirm. lol

Men, as the night goes on, be ready to do as ordered. If she wants you to hold her hand or kiss her lips (even if she’s just sucked his cock), then you do it… and do it passionately. It’s okay to let your sub side shine. The more a submissive helpful pet you are to her, the more she’ll enjoy the contrast of the powerful man pumping orgasms through her soul. You should both embrace those roles—feed off that dynamic.

Part VI: Supporting Her - After Your First Adventure

Men… The most important thing you can do for her after a watch session is to make her feel like a beloved Princess. While she’s laying in the post-sex mess of sweat, drool and cum… Laying there a well-used, listless, leaking vessel on the verge of passing out… You need to kiss and love on her like never before. Show her how much you love her and enjoyed the incredible show she just put on for you. Connect through your eyes and every kiss across her body, the one she just gave to another man. Breathe in their shared essence while lapping up every drop. If he did his job correctly, then it will be everywhere, so take your time.

Don’t ask a million questions. There’s all the time in the world for that. In those moments right after, even when that other man is getting dressed or walking out the door… You will treat her like a fallen angel right after that stranger just used her like a filthy whore—and she, like you, will have loved every last second of it.

Prove that her pleasure IS your pleasure. Her ascension to Goddess is complete. However supportive or submissive or helpful you’ve been up to this point in time to this love of your life… You’re going to go further from this day forward.

No matter how good that other man just made her feel… No matter how many times he made her orgasm or came inside her body—there is nothing he could ever do to make her feel as loved or as powerful as this. You’ll both feel it in those dripping wet moments after you’ve cleaned her up then kissed your way to her mouth for the ultimate kiss.

Because no kiss has ever tasted quite as sweet as a cuckolding kiss when I can taste so clearly another man’s hot cum on my boyfriend’s loving lips and he looks me in the eye to tell me how much he loves me. When you hear those words for yourself, you’ll be thinking, You better… Because we’re doing this again!!

XoXo Jenny

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50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

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Use smooth, steady, slow rhythmic licks. Slow and steady wins the race

I am new to this whole oral sex thing. My husband decided to eat me out the other night. He made these motions with his tongue and told me to guess what he was spelling against my clit. I thought it would be weird to have him do that but it really relaxed me and I had fun with it. So guys: Spell out little messages like “I love you” or “You taste good.” It will take any hesitation away from your girl while she’s decoding your playful messages.

At Wal-Mart they have these little ice trays that make tubular ice for bottles. They sell the trays for a dollar each. Get small pieces of (what my husband and I now refer to as) Cooter Ice. Slip them around the clit and into the vaginal opening. It makes for wicked sensation.

In regard to oral sex in particular, you MUST know your lover’s sensitivity level. I, for one, am ultra-sensitive. If someone just dives in and attacks my clit, uses teeth, has no variation in technique, then I will probably still orgasm; however, I will be too sore to go again for hours or even days. This is extremely irritating!

If I start moving toward your tongue, it’s because you and I have found the exact “spot”…let ME move, don’t you move.

The secret is to soften the tongue and work around the clitoral area rather than aggressively attacking the clit. Variation of pattern is also important. Once I’m truly horny, an occasional flick of the tongue is ok—but only occasionally. I also think that stimulation of the G-spot, which is basically adjacent to the clit on the inside of the vagina, is important as it creates a much deeper, more intense orgasm.

Nothing is more erotic than being held open with gentle loving hands. It gives direct access to the clit and he works it so well. I melt every time! When his elbows are planted at shoulder width (my lover’s shoulders are quite wide) and he has me open and exposed, working away, there is no way I am able to get away.

I totally agree with starting slow and looking her in the eyes. That drives me crazy. Another thing that makes me crazy is when my guy moans or growls while kissing and licking my pussy. The reverberations from the deepness of his voice drive me wild! Not to mention hearing him enjoy himself gets me off even harder.

If you boys start it… KNOW that it may take awhile! Finish what you started and once you’ve found her hot spot, stay there!

If I know I’m going to get a good eating from my man, I will eat pineapple throughout the day. He says it makes me taste unbelievable! I’ve also heard watermelon and celery will change the taste of your juices.

Having had my pussy licked, sucked, eaten, and savored by both men and women, I can tell you that the best way to find out what she likes is to get her to play with herself. Follow her lead, and it will change each time. Sometimes my pussy wants it hard, really hard, and sometimes only the slightest feather touch will make me explode.

Keep a steady rhythm going, and keep your tongue relaxed! Pointed tongues are too harsh on the clit, and actually desensitize. Another thing to keep in mind is that just because she’s moaning louder doesn’t mean she suddenly wants you to start going faster, make crazy figure eights, or gnaw on it. It means she likes EXACTLY what you’ve been doing. When a guy is doing something I really like, I’ll usually say, “Don’t stop,” which means, “Don’t stop exactly what you’re doing right now.”

I find that just the tip of my partner’s finger inserted in my pussy after he’s been eating me out for little while - barely moving, just sort of tickling the entrance - makes me go nuts. Pussy eating is a delicate matter, so don’t thrust your finger too vigorously. You’re just trying to gently tickle her into coming!

I like a guy to ask me how I like my pussy licked so I can help him find that awesome combination that makes me squirt without worrying about hurting his feelings or making him think I don’t enjoy his moves. It takes a really great and confident lover to ask for feedback during hot sex. It makes me crazy!

I like my man to slip his fingers into my cunt while he is paying attention to my clit! Men, if you look like you are really enjoying yourself, too, it makes all the difference. A former boyfriend used to growl into my pussy when he went down on me which was unbelievably erotic and made me feel really wanted!

Don’t forget about using the nose too! I love feeling my man’s nose nuzzling my clit, and feeling his breathing on me, especially the moaning exhaling and him inhaling (smelling) me. Also, I don’t know why, but the “wet” sound turns me on… the creamy, squishy, squelching noises.

Don’t bite the clit. Men don’t like having their dicks bitten and we don’t like having our clits bitten either. It hurts and will very quickly get us out of the mood.

Don’t drool and don’t make loud sucking sounds. It’s disgusting. A major turn off.

Popsicles are a good idea. They make a guy’s tongue cold and the sensation is amazing. That, and the taste will be better for the guy. It’s a win-win situation.

Deep kiss her clit. I love my partner deep kissing my clit, taking both lips of my vagina. I want him/her to suck on them for a long time before concentrating on my clitoris.

Tongue fucking is what rocks my world. Clit play is nice to get me hot, but after that, I want your tongue flicking across my hole for a while, teasing me with the idea of going in, then giving it all to me. Clit play gets boring after awhile and many women are too sensitive there anyhow.

Don’t forget to warm us up first. Just like BJs aren’t that great if we take your pants off and deep throat you off the bat, we like to be teased with the idea for a while, and get really, really aroused before you get started. It makes the orgasm THAT much harder.

I hate the finger penetration while sucking on the clit…it’s distracting. Most guys just suck the life out of you because they think it’s wonderful. Licking is wonderful too. Try it. The most important thing is to watch her reaction. If she’s just lying there quiet, then she is bored and wishes you would stop.

Don’t forget to be patient. It’s not like in a porn movie - most women do not have an orgasm with in a minute or two. Like any good thing in life, it takes time and is worth waiting for.

Stop and make her need it. Finger her now, slowly at first, and kiss her thighs. Start again by flicking her clit with your tongue, light pressure, then experiment with other pressure and movement. Everything on the clit feels good, but some moves feel GREAT! Play around with tongue pressure and fingering and ass fingering or ass tickling/licking (if she wants it).

Use your entire face. Nothing is more frustrating than a hesitant tongue. The chin rubbing on the opening to the vagina adds to the pleasure. Also, let her know you enjoy it as well. Moan a little. A woman can tell if it’s a chore.

Definitely start off with light kissing and slow deliberate strokes of the tongue. Then do some circling. If your girlfriend feels your tongue is too rough when you start off, you can tell because her movements will be too jerky and squirmish. That’s your hint to either slow down, decrease pressure, or find another place to lick for a few minutes till she warms up.

Once I’m warmed up, I like spreading my legs wide and enjoying the hot wet lickage. What turns me on the most is talking dirty. I like asking my dude if he likes my pussy. So tell her some stuff (in between licks) that will blow her mind and enjoy what is bound to come next.

My tip to all men is don’t put a whole lot of saliva in her when you’re licking her. It feels better when there isn’t a loogie inside us we can feel.

Don’t shake your face - no one likes that! Also, complimenting her on her appearance down there boosts sexual confidence, which could lead to bigger and better things.

There is nothing I love more than his mouth on my clit and two fingers inside me. It doesn’t really matter if his tongue moves back and forth, side to side, or in circles. All that matters is that once he chooses a method he sticks to it and DOESN’T CHANGE OR STOP. After a little of this I’m begging and pleading for his fingers inside me at the same time. They don’t need to thrust because everything is already so sensitive. He just slides his fingers in and does a slight “come here” type motion while continuing to use his mouth on my clit and I usually respond by coming quickly indeed!

Ask your girl while you are downtown, “Right here?” and have her guide you. And once she says “YES, right there,” don’t stop. Don’t change technique or location unless she asks you to. Too many times I have been right on the verge of cumming and the guy changes positions, my clit goes into spasms and I didn’t even get to enjoy it. Damn, that pisses me off.

A rigid pointy tongue is horrible, but a soft flat tongue is amazing.

Enjoy it! We always get more pleasure if we feel that the guy is REALLY having fun. If I see that my boyfriend is doing it under pressure, I won’t enjoy it either.

I like to lay on my back while he rests his head on my left leg and begins to kiss, lick and suck me. He purses his lips as if he is saying “OOOH” and grasps my clit with his mouth, thrusting his tongue through his lips and rolling it around my button. Sometimes he goes back and forth and then around, always doing this very gently at first, then with more pressure as I began to go crazy. In Asia they call this cunnilingus technique “polishing her pearl.”

My boyfriend does this thing right on the clit, kind of like he is saying “LA LA LA LA!” really fast and then slowly licks up every once in awhile. Oh my god! It’s great! People, I have had multiple orgasms from this little technique! And boys, I advise trying this on your girl!

I like it when my lover’s tongue slowly takes the tour of my labia then moves up to my clitoris, and while their tongue is concentrating there, their lower lip moist from saliva and my love juices is brushing gently around my perineum, with an occasional glance across my anus. It makes my asshole pucker and the sphincter response sends ripples through my vagina.

Just because she has cum does not mean that you are done. Don’t be afraid to give her clit a gentle massage with your tongue and lips as if you’re calming it down just to get all worked up again.

Make noises when you’re eating the pussy. You want her to believe that eating her pussy is the best thing you ever tasted. Think of your favorite food and pretend the pussy is just that.

That other girl was right about the “tongue fucking.” Generally tongues aren’t long enough to stimulate the area really well. The general entrance isn’t all that sensitive and it won’t really accomplish much. I’m not saying to only stick to the clit…by all means, have a wander, especially in the beginning. But just don’t spend too much time trying to “tongue fuck” unless you’re Gene Simmons.

I love it when my boyfriend hums on my pussy. No songs, just a hum. It feels like a vibrator while he is licking on my pussy

My boyfriend wasn’t confident he was getting the right spot to start with, so we found it helped to place a CD over my vagina so the hole matched the position of the clitoris. That way he couldn’t go wrong.

Some women like a consistent rhythm when getting eaten out. Don’t just dive in. Pay attention to where you are licking, how fast, and how your tongue is shaped when you do it. I personally find that a flat tongue against my clit at a steady pace (usually medium speed to start and gradually faster as I get closer to an orgasm) is most satisfying, especially if you are a beginner.

There is nothing worse than a guy who finds a licking technique that the woman likes and then changes his speed or tongue position mid-lick because he is afraid she is getting bored. Really your girl is just going to get frustrated and it is going to be harder to make her cum. If she acts as if she likes what you are doing - STICK WITH IT!!! Don’t change your technique because your guy friends tell you that it is best to try a bunch of tricks all in the same session. Just pay attention to her!

Focus on the clit! Guys usually just want to lick all over, but that’s never going to get the girl to orgasm anytime soon. Just focus on licking the clit in a solid motion or in circles, and then simultaneously finger her in her vagina. Do both of those at the same time, and she’ll be reaching orgasm and begging for more!

I like when my man spreads my legs wide then takes both hands to hold my lips apart while he licks around my pussy, gently flicking my clit, slowly at first then faster and faster until I cum. It drives me wild. It really makes me feel like he is so into eating me out and that there’s no other place he’d rather be.

We have something like 5 times the nerve endings as men do “down there.” So more pressure, more motion, etc., really isn’t more. It’s just distracting and/or painful.

As a woman, the best thing I can say is, don’t just start going at it! It is uncomfortable and it helps if you set the mood first. Teasing and blowing really feels good. Let your mouth do the work, not your hands!

I love it when my man uses ice cubes. He gets a cup and fills it full of ice and then slowly pushes them in one by one. When they’re in, he starts to lick and kiss my clit, and once they’re melted a little, he’ll suck them out one by one. It’s an amazing combination of the two temperatures and gives me an amazing orgasm.

Ask her what she wants! We are all different and like it different ways. What worked for your last lady might not be on the list for your next. I like a tongue soft and light on my clit until I tell you to suck it! WE will let you know what feels good. Just ask!

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iamhotwife

2 years ago

Hi.

Like ur profile.

Answer me, if u can.

I m 43, she is 50, i like to hv threesom with her, and she refused, I want her to go out with her boyfriend for lunch date or dinner date, whom she met after 25 years, if fact not her boyfriend , but her crush, she never expressed to him in college, now she she met him in a get together, ....

She met him, twice one to one for lunch, but ready to give a try, even though , she hv my permission to hv sex, fun with that guy, and she refuses to meet him, i tried to feed her mind, but nothing is happening...

Neither that guy is making any move, .

What u suggest, so she can enjoy, my dick is 5, and her boyfriend is much more like a 6 feet tall, handsome, built up....

Looking for your response

If she doesn't want to do it after all your encouragement all you can do is keep trying. I would invite him over for dinner and drinks and buy her a sexy outfit to wear. After dinner and over drinks I would start massaging her and ask him to help you out. Then I would get her to start taking off her clothes so that you can do a complete massage. From there it should be easy to get it going and you can either watch or hoin in a mfm threesome.

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iamhotwife

1 year ago