People Say That Phoenix Learned Being A Bitch Mostly From Mia. And While That May Partially Be True,

can't get over her

something i appreciate about this site is how often i see friends, mutuals and strangers salivating over the most Some Guy looking people i’ve ever seen. i think it’s actually good for your psyche to see people carnally desire people that you would not even think twice about. it’s good for the self esteem, a good reminder that for every random ass person on the world there is a subset of people that wants to do unspeakable things to them

so what i’ve collected over the past few years is:

To all the Writers Suffering from Depression

It’s okay. Your desire to write will return. Your desire to do other things you love will come back, too. You’re not weak. You’re just having a hard time right now. Try not to add self-judgment on top of everything else. Depression is hard enough without blaming yourself for it.

We (in the US specifically) live in a productivity-obsessed, emotion-phobic culture which blames individuals for “failing” when they are anything but hyper-productive and relentlessly optimistic. This cultural narrative so pervasive that it’s difficult to see the high standards we set for ourselves for what they really are: Complete and total bullshit.

Despite the rampant cultural garbage that teaches us to interpret emotional ups and downs as an aberration, MANY writers and artists (and people in general!) struggle with depression and other mood “disorders.” It is not uncommon for us, among other things, to go through periods of hyperactivity followed by depressive episodes in which we get very little accomplished. I am not saying you shouldn’t try to alleviate your depression or work to find ways to minimize your suffering in the short or long term. I’m just saying there’s nothing wrong with you, and you aren’t alone.

I’m going to say that again:

If you’re having a hard time writing or enjoying writing right now because you’re depressed, you aren’t alone.

I wish I had some kind of magical answer. I don’t. But I do know that accepting your depression and loving yourself anyway beats the hell out of berating yourself for feeling like this. So, with that in mind, this might be all I have to offer:

I think you’re doing a great job. I’m sorry you feel like shit. I’m on your side whether you’re writing or not; whether you feel good or not; whether you’re being “productive” or not; whether you wanted to get out of bed this morning or not. You’re still a writer in my mind, even if you’re not writing right now. You don’t have to prove yourself to me or anyone else. And I hope you feel better soon.

Please look at the dress I made my cat (first thing I ever made and I’m V proud)

She really likes it I’m assuming because she has no problem with me putting it on her but throws a fit when I try to take it off. TY YOUR MY ROLE MODEL!

the design is awesome!! it looks really good but also comfy and non-restrictive for the cat. She is giving me tumblr cottagecore girl who lives in a tiny cottage covered in moss.

Smaugust by Jaimie Whitbread

You are allowed to have needs. You are allowed to take care of those needs. You are allowed to have your needs acknowledged and taken care of by others. You are allowed to be seen and heard and take up space. You are allowed to set boundaries. You are allowed to ask for help. You are allowed to (graciously) accept help. You are allowed to put your needs above other people's wants. You are allowed to leave situations in which your needs are ignored or dismissed.

ursula k le guin said sci fi/fantasy does not have to be about giant wars or battles of good and evil or galactic disaster; it is best served as a lens through which to examine what is actually intrinsic to the human condition and what, once removed a few layers from our own perceptions & assumptions, begins to fall apart. and she was correct.

genuinely it is much better to let yourself feel bad when things creative wise doesn’t do well and remind yourself that it’s okay to feel like this just don’t let it determine your value instead of allowing it to put you in some creative burnout hole

a new acrylic painting of mine :) called "Sparrow"