March 17, 2024

"There is always light at the end of the tunnel"

It's hard for me to explain

How humans find the pleasure of causing people pain

My Blood, Westlife

The amount of people I’ve met who talk shit to me about someone behind their back and then pretend to care about them later on this is why I don’t fuck with most people

things that are not selfish:

prioritizing your mental health

saying no

calling in sick to work or school (even if you’re not physically sick)

limiting contact with someone when their issues are affecting your happiness negatively

cutting off toxic people

declining help

setting boundaries for yourself

not immediately responding to texts/calls/emails

ending a friendship or relationship even though the other person “hasn’t done anything wrong”

not donating any money

complimenting and being proud of yourself

treating yourself

May strawberry flavored?

A quick one cause Trese was so good and I loved it, especially the Filipino mythological creatures, recommend yes yes.

One of the sneaky ways people with secret animosity towards you try to sabotage you is by influencing you to make detrimental choices.

Hateful monitoring spirits recognize your value. They know they can’t tear you down through direct attacks, so they pretend to be in your corner, hyping you up while encouraging you to make decisions that will ultimately harm you.

If you're trying to lose weight, they might try to get you to break your diet or skip the gym because “you deserve it” or “your body already looks great as it is.” If they see you’re close to getting a promotion, they may try to convince you that your career path is toxic and you’re better off quitting. If you want to change your lifestyle and stop being hedonistic, they will try to make you feel like you only live once and shouldn’t “restrict” yourself from having fun.

These people know exactly what they are doing. They are envious of you and terrified of your potential. They sometimes understand what you are capable of more than you do. A real friend is someone who holds you accountable and has your best interests at heart. A hater is an enabler who will steer you towards a path of self-destruction. Don’t mistake smiles for genuine support and love.

“Never obsess about chasing love. Chase goals. Chase dreams. Chase the behaviors that are going to make you better. You don’t chase love; you allow that to find you by accident, and when it finds you on accident, you’ll know that it was supposed to find you purposely.”

— Sylvester McNutt

People can’t monitor what they don’t have access to. You cannot complain about “monitoring spirits” when others view the content you willingly post online. Likewise, somebody interacting with every post you make doesn’t mean they have true, clean appreciation for you either. Maturing is realizing that we have more control over what we allow others to see about us, and to not be easily flattered by low-effort actions in social media.

Can we please stop associating being a good person with how much you're willing to suffer in silence for other people? You can be a kind person and still say "no, I don't have the time/energy to help you with that." You can be a kind person and still say "this makes me uncomfortable, please stop." You can be a kind person and still say "I disagree and here's why." You can be kind and still say "I'm not okay with this." Being kind is about treating people with kindness and respect, not about being the human equivalent of a doormat!